9/11 wedding

orangehills · August 2011

http://news.yahoo.com/couple-to-marry-on-9-11-good-things-will-still-happen-on-that-day-.html

I like the idea behind this...

DanieKA · August 2011

I think turning that date into something that has a good memory and is happy is fine. Sept. 11 will fall on a Saturday every couple of years just like every other date and for it to be off limits doesn't make much since to me.

I don't really find anything bad about it. IMO there's nothing disrepectful or wrong about it, even if he were just a civilian and had no tie to the military. I hope they have a great wedding day!

orangehills · August 2011

Yah I agree! I think it's a great idea, and I like not giving that day to the terrorists, and making it happy, but still remembering and honoring all those whose lives were lost.

DanieKA · August 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_911-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:642a5bc4-626b-487d-b655-c08a9498486ePost:044bf32c-1403-4f20-b17a-d5c4c6ff8f5b">Re: 9/11 wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]I went to a 9/11/10 wedding last year and didn't think that their decision to have the wedding on that day was like...standing up against terrorism or anything. I know that 9/11 was clearly terrible, but terrible things happen every day and I don't think I'd want to plan my wedding around anniversaries of tragedies. And like, what if something terrible happens on your anniversary years AFTER you get married? And I would still have my wedding on December 7, April 20, etc. I dunno. I guess <strong>I just don't think it should be a super huge deal that a couple has a wedding on the anniversary of a tragedy, either in the "OMG I can't believe they'd do that!" way or the "Wow, they're so awesome for doing that; they aren't letting the terrorists win!" way.</strong> The exception, I think, would be if someone I or someone integral to the wedding had a particularly strong sentiment against getting married on a particular day. I don't know, I don't think I'm making any sense. Sorry.
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</div><div>I get what you're saying and agree. I actually have a good friend whose birthday is on September 11. We still party it up. it's a day that something bad happened, yes, but it's also just a day. I think you can still respect the events tthat occured and not walk around somber the entire day.

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tdwpg1984 · August 2011

Despite this tragedy, good things happened that day as well. My cousin gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl that day. We can't not celebrate the good things because bad things happen on certain days. And we can't start making certain dates off limits because tragedies happen on those days, because eventually we'll start running out of dates! I do think though that it's important that if you choose to get married on a date where you know something terrible happened that you take a minute on your special day to think of those who lost their lives that day, even if you don't make it part of your ceremony and just think it to yourself

peekaboo2011 · August 2011

I can see why they'd have second thoughts. Seriously, a lot changed that day. And to do it in the DC area, well, that's hard for a lot of people. I'm glad that they're viewing it that way, and I don't see a wedding as disrespectful if held on the day of a national tragedy, but I think if they are going to get backlash, it's because this is still recent. Dec. 7? April 20? Those are old tragedies. They aren't fresh. All of us here, and those who are getting married now, we're all old enough to know exactly where we were standing when the first planes hit. It's hard for people to forget that. My mom should have been in the Pentagon that day, so maybe it's harder for me to let go of the tragedy behind it.

I can tell you though, that I support their decision. And I appreciate that he was (is?) National Guard. If it were my wedding, I would probably do a nod to the remembrance of the day as a somber occasion as well. Perhaps in my programs for the ceremony. Perhaps as part of the favors. I don't know.

misikes · August 2011

"You know what? If we don't take that day back at some point and start celebrating something else, the terrorists win."

I really like that quote, but I don't think two random people whom 99.9% of the world doesn't even know having a wedding is really going to be the event that says "In your face terrorism!" Solving world hunger or finding a cure for cancer, sure.

And I have to agree with Liv, bad things happen every day, and who's to say that some great tragedy won't happen on the same date AFTER your wedding? I graduated with a guy who was born on 9/11, but I've never once heard him say he was unable to be happy celebrating his birthday because of one tragedy.

CASK85 · August 2011

I went to a 9/11 wedding last year. It was fine. The FOB mentioned it briefly in his speech. Saying "nine-eleven" will always have a connotation for Americans now. I wouldn't chose that day, but we don't avoid having weddings on other days that have significance. Maybe people did in the generation when it happened. That would be interesting to look into. . . . sorry I'm rambling.

Swazzle · August 2011

While I wouldn't have a problem at all with attending someone else's wedding on 9/11 I personally wouldn't plan mine on that date. My Aunt who I'm extremely close to used to work for Cantor Fitzgerald & was supposed to be in one of the towers on that day. That company lost more people than any other & all of those people were my aunt's friends for years & some were friends of my family as well. It's a hard day for everyone, but particularly so for her.

lunarsongbird · August 2011

This kind of reminds me of when people don't want to have a joyous party after a funeral. I want people to party it up...toast wine and eat lots of olives...laugh until they cry...Celebrate my life.

I just know so many people in those towers would want us to be celebrating life...

::shrugs::

But perhaps I have a strange way of looking at things.

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