Advice please!

Happily9 · September 2011

Ok...I am terrified of having to do a million things last minute before the wedding. Can you ladies rattle of somethings that would be a good idea to do ahead of time so I will be prepared?1?!? For example, a friend of mine said she did her seating arrangement the night before her wedding (after her RD)!! This is definitely NOT something I want to worry about the night before! TIA

kevinandmonica2011 · September 2011

PACK!!! I neglected to do this ahead. Bad idea.
*this means pack your day of bag, night of bag, day after bag and even honeymoon stuff. Don't forget your toothbrush, facewash, underwear, shoes... all the normal stuff. (Don't laugh... I forgot underwear... and facewash).

Deliver everything you can to your venue(s) a few days ahead. Running all over creation the day before is no fun.

Wrap gifts and write thank yous for parents, bms, hubby (if you're doing that)

I'm sure I will think of more

Happily9 · September 2011

Ooo...drop off BEFORE the day before...like that idea! And pack...I can start that the week before...another great idea!

kevinandmonica2011 · September 2011

ETA to add more above

lornarose07 · September 2011

Stop your mail.... tell a neighbor you trust that you'll be OOT so keep an eye on your place... exchange your money, if you'll need any for wherever you are going... I'm just thinking basic travel stuff, because I'm not married yet!

kevinandmonica2011 · September 2011

oh- take out cash for any tips you plan to give. Place each in a labeled envelope and give to someone you trust (parents are usually good for this).

Happily9 · September 2011

I will be warning my neighbor (a BM) to grab all mail after work today! We have a mutual agreement to do this for each other all the time!

Monica-I have heard the best man is not always the best person to give this to...would my dad be ok...or is that tacky?

kevinandmonica2011 · September 2011

I would definitely trust dad over the best man. Lol. That's just me. Not tacky at all. Tacky would be the best man forgetting to tip your vendors because he is too sh!tfaced. Not that THAT would EVER happen at a wedding. lol

DondadaTimes2 · September 2011

My parents took care of my tips. Theres no way I would have trusted either BM to do it.

Start your seating chart now. I know you dont have all the RSVPs in but you do have some and you do have a general idea of what family and such can and cant come. So start it and as the rest of the rsvps come in, fill in the blanks. Youll need to play around with it im sure, but def start it. That was the best thing I could have done!

List out everything that needs to b done and set a date to have it done by. I have a friend getting married in 9 days and today she claims to be 100% done. It is possible and will def make everything less stressful leading up to it.

Take projects one at a time and when your done with it, put it aside and stop thinking about it. You'll drive yourself crazy. Work on it until you know its done exactly the way you want it, and forget about it until you need to hand it over.

sbolger17 · September 2011

**I must start my chart this weekend**

Happily9 · September 2011

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[QUOTE]My parents took care of my tips. Theres no way I would have trusted either BM to do it. Start your seating chart now. I know you dont have all the RSVPs in but you do have some and you do have a general idea of what family and such can and cant come. So start it and as the rest of the rsvps come in, fill in the blanks. Youll need to play around with it im sure, but def start it. That was the best thing I could have done! List out everything that needs to b done and set a date to have it done by. I have a friend getting married in 9 days and today she claims to be 100% done. It is possible and will def make everything less stressful leading up to it. Take projects one at a time and when your done with it, put it aside and stop thinking about it. You'll drive yourself crazy. Work on it until you know its done exactly the way you want it, and forget about it until you need to hand it over.
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This is ALOT of great advice! I keep thinking its too early to start the seating chart...but you are right...at least start and mess with it later!

CD2011 · September 2011

DEFINITELY agree with the packing ahead thing! Luckily I remembered everything I needed for the wedding day/night and had clothes to throw on for the ride home.... the honeymoon was a different story, and we ended up going to the store a lot.

If there is anything YOU are setting up at the venue, DEFINITELY get in there as soon as they will let you. We set up all of the decorations ourselves (me, mom, aunt, dad) and it took SO much longer than expected.

For the seating chart--- type up each person/couple's name, print out, and cut them apart. Draw the seating chart, and move the little pieces of paper with the names around the chart.... SO much easier than writing, erasing, writing, erasing!!! And I also think it made it easier to not forget someone or write someone down twice. Once you have it how you want, then write the names in the chart

Make sure you communicate certain things you want done to each of the vendors and anyone coordinators who are helping so that nobody is out of the loop .... for example, I had told the baker that we wanted the top tier of the cake served, but never told the caterer, which resulted in the entire top tier of our cake being thrown in our trash after our honeymoon. Especially make it clear for things that may not be traditional (this is where a lot of my things went wrong)

If there is anything that you're thinking "I can do this the morning of" or even the night before ... DO IT NOW!! Getting married at 8pm I thought I had PLENTY of time to write my note to DH the morning of- I was wrong.

ChelseaB425 · September 2011

Great advice, girls! I'm bookmarking this page.

DondadaTimes2 · September 2011

Oh and with the seating chart, I did it 2 different ways, so if one works for you...

1) I wrote people names on the thin post it strips so they could be moved around.

2) I ran outta post its so I changed plans and on Excel grouped people together in a very rough draft of how the tables were set up. This way I could copy and paste name and change it all around and b/c it was a rough layout of the venue, I knew what tables would be near whom. I printed my own escort cards so it made it easy to go table by table when I typed the cards up.

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