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Difficult Guests

KelsieMarcus24KelsieMarcus24
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Here is my situation:

The RSVP cards are due back in 4 days, which leaves me just enough time to make placecards and call guests who haven't RSVPed yet.  This week, I received TWO cards from friends who say they are definitely bringing a guest, but they don't know who the guest will be.  I told them both that they need to make a decision by the 13th (when the cards are due), but they both have voiced that they aren't sure who they will be dating at the time of the wedding (which is 4 weeks away).  How should I respond to them?  What should I do when they won't give me a name?  The venue requires name tags because of the different food choices. 
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Re: Difficult Guests

  • Matty143Matty143
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_obnoxious-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d769593a-9d7d-46bc-9958-9e0bf019da75Post:24f29006-f0f5-4a8e-b41f-aa6f112d8403">Re: Obnoxious Guests</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Obnoxious Guests : "OK, that's fine!" <strong>Their escort card can say "Guest of Friend's Name" and then you tell your friend you are putting them down for X dish. </strong>Why is your RSVP date so early? That's obnoxious.
    Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

    This.
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  • KelsieMarcus24KelsieMarcus24
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    Do you guys really thing that RSVPing 3 weeks before the wedding is too early?  Our venue requires us to have the guests and foods picked 2.5 weeks before the wedding, so I gave myself a couple of days to call guests who didn't RSVP.  I just thought that was standard?  Maybe our venue is weird though.
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  • jennamarie10jennamarie10
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    depends on the venue, I guess. I had to tell my venue a week ahead of time, so my RSVP date was 2 weeks prior.
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  • Matty143Matty143
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_obnoxious-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d769593a-9d7d-46bc-9958-9e0bf019da75Post:f2ca46b6-28ca-4aa5-a310-105830e65b9e">Re: Difficult Guests</a>:
    [QUOTE]Do you guys really thing that RSVPing 3 weeks before the wedding is too early?  Our venue requires us to have the guests and foods picked 2.5 weeks before the wedding, so I gave myself a couple of days to call guests who didn't RSVP.  I just thought that was standard?  Maybe our venue is weird though.
    Posted by KelsieMarcus24[/QUOTE]

    Its a little early. I think our numbers were due 1 week before.

    The only reason I could see them needing that much time, would be if you were having a very seasonal or otherwise *special* menu that required them to purchase things in advance or make some arrangements.
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  • KelsieMarcus24KelsieMarcus24
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    We're having a fairly big wedding, so I think it's them just making sure they're prepared.  I also think it's really tacky to put "Amy's guest" on a placecard when everyone else's has a name.  I know it's not really important in the grand scheme of things, but it just bothers me because I don't want to plan for dates that might not ever even be invited. 
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  • Matty143Matty143
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    Maybe you could just have Amy Last name, and two meal selections can be indicated on the card.
    Sorry, that's all I've got.
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  • KelsieMarcus24KelsieMarcus24
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    Thanks Matty 143.  I like that idea much better.  Even if it is the same name twice, it doesn't bother me near as much. I should have just eloped :)
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  • Matty143Matty143
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    No problem. :)
    Good luck with the rest of your planning.
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  • maribeth721maribeth721
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_obnoxious-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d769593a-9d7d-46bc-9958-9e0bf019da75Post:f2ca46b6-28ca-4aa5-a310-105830e65b9e">Re: Difficult Guests</a>:
    [QUOTE]Do you guys really thing that RSVPing 3 weeks before the wedding is too early?  Our venue requires us to have the guests and foods picked 2.5 weeks before the wedding, so I gave myself a couple of days to call guests who didn't RSVP.  I just thought that was standard?  Maybe our venue is weird though.
    Posted by KelsieMarcus24[/QUOTE]

    Yeah I was thinking the same thing. Our venue requires a response 2 weeks before for sit down dinner reception. I thought that was pretty standard so I never thought to negotiate it...
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  • lily_721lily_721 member
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    Mine was two weeks prior as well.  I think it depends upon the area.  I wrote "Guest of Jane Smith" on the placecards. 
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