July Too Early?

shugamegan · June 2011

So I'm getting married October 1st. My FMIL has offered to throw me a shower and she asked when I would like the shower to be. I mentioned the beginning of September, but she didn't like that because she works in a school and classes would have started by then. FMIL suggested August. I don't think August would work.

One of my best friends is getting married the first weekend and I will be traveling to Texas for the ceremony so I will need almost a week off from work for that ( I will be driving). Then the following week, she is having a reception in NY for her FI's extended family to celebrate. The last week of August, another friend is getting married and I will be helping with the wedding in one fashion or another. So they would only leave one weekend to try to cram it in and I don't want to do that. Plus, i'd have to request every Saturday off for the whole month which would never happen especially since I'm trying to find a new job.

So my question is, do you think July would be too early to have the bridal shower? My friend is having her bridal shower basically 2 months before to wedding ( It's tomorrow actually), but I didn't know if this would be proper.

Any thoughts or suggestions would be appreciated :-)

ShakeUpTampa · June 2011

Some of the February brides I know are doing November showers. I personally found a weekend in January that can work after my girls asked me. If school is in session in Sept, wouldn't the party be on a weekend?

banana468 · June 2011

July is fine. It's a bit early but it will work. You could also have it in the beginning of September and see if you could help her.

yoko2011 · June 2011

If July potentilally works best for your FMIL who is hosting, do it in July. Most people anticipate a shower and wedding and presuming invites are sent at a reasonable time you should be fine. I've attended a slew of weddings and based on scheudles it has varried from 2 months before, to even two weeks before the wedding.

futurepivko · June 2011

july is fine......just make sure you have registered for enough items in enough price points to make sure everyone is covered

Allycat11 · June 2011

In my family it is common to have showers a few months out. My wedding is 10.29.11 and FIs family is throwing a shower in early August, a lotof women in their family are teachers so it is the most practical time. The shower for my family looks like it is going to be held in early September.

[Deleted User] · June 2011

I'm getting married in September and I just had my shower this weekend (bachelorette is in July). It was the date that worked best for everyone as the summer is crazy with a lot of people travelling, going to weddings, etc.

If it works I don't see a problem with it. Mine was 3 months before and no one thought it was odd.

LoveMuffins · June 2011

I"m like PhotogBride, my wedding is in Sept but my shower is this month - next week! woo! It's totally fine. Just remember, send out thank yous right away and don't actually use any of the gifts until after the wedding!

lindseyann410 · June 2011

I know this isn't part of your question, but do you have to go to both Texas and New York? That seems like a lot of traveling and expense for one wedding.

shugamegan · June 2011

Thank you everyone for your responses!

I will have to talk to my FMIL about this. I think she may be ok with late July.

lindseyann- No, I don't have to go to both, but I want to. This friend is going to be one of my bridemaids in Oct. so I want to support her since she is buying a dress to be in my wedding when she is on a tight budget for her wedding as it is. Their brothers are standing with them so I don't have to buy a dress or other bridemaids things. I don't have to pay for a hotel in TX so the only real expense is gas and some food, which I would be splitting with 2 other people. And I live about 10 minutes away from where the NY party is going to be.

lindseyann410 · June 2011

That's not too bad then. Have fun!

laurenkronenberg · June 2011

I agree with all above! My wedding is Sept 23, and shower July 24th. Just happend to be what worked with everyone's vacation schedules and around the 3 other weddings within the same month as mine.
I would just get the registry done and invites out as soon as possible, as a lot goes on in the summer, graduation parties, etc, so go for it. Let her plan it and just show up!

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