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Not feeling the love! (vent)

So I am in the final countdown to the wedding, weeks and days now, not just months.  Maybe my emotions are out of control because of that and I should just ignore everything.

So, I had my shower this past weekend which was very nice but not only did not of my friends (except those in the bridal party) not show but they didn't even respond.  Granted it would have been a 2 hour drive for most of them so I can understand if they cannot make it.  My sister said she expected they would have a shower for me at the office (I work with most of them) since that's always been what we've done for others but no one has said a word. 
Well, now my BM sent out an evite for the bachelorette party and no one has yet to give me more than a maybe.  So like i mentioned, I am not feeling the love!  Maybe they are not the true friends I thought they were?  I am not sure if I should feel this way but the whole thing just makes me sad and disappointed.
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  • KellyRVTKellyRVT member
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    edited December 2011
    I would feel a little bummed about it too. I would recommend following up with the girls and make sure they know how excited you are for the bachelorette party. Hopefully they will take the hint and get their butts in gear!
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  • Brit12Brit12 member
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    edited December 2011
    My sister-in-law (who was also a bridesmaid) didn't come to my shower because she was pre-gaming for a concert she was going to later than night with some of her cousins that were in town. She was kind enough to send along her kid (who was the flower girl) with my MIL who therefore had to run around chasing her the whole time (she was only 2). One of my other bridesmaids also didn't show up, and remained out of touch leading up to the party, presumably because she was afraid of telling me she couldn't make it?

    While I was a little pissed at the time, months later I really couldn't care less. I don't talk much with the one bridesmaid, and my SIL is who she is. I had a great time otherwise and found out who really cared. There's something to say about big life events that bring out the true nature of some people...

    So my advice is to just enjoy the good things and forget the bad, because when it comes down to it, the important thing is that you are marrying someone you love :)
  • csh96csh96 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_ohio-columbus_not-feeling-love-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:112Discussion:f304bbb0-08fe-4e44-b09f-d3538b40661fPost:290f997a-527b-40aa-863d-5d7586c0c739">Re: Not feeling the love! (vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]So my advice is to just enjoy the good things and forget the bad, because when it comes down to it, the important thing is that you are marrying someone you love :)
    Posted by Brit12[/QUOTE]

    Good advice!!  I will keep this in mind. :)
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  • edited December 2011
    Aww, csh. I am sorry you are feeling this way. Did they rsvp yes to the bridal shower and still not show? If so, I would call and make sure everything is okay. I am not trying to give them the benefit of the doubt, but something could have come up unexpectedly that caused them to miss it. Either way, I would give them all a call and touch base with them just to make sure everything is okay.
  • alishingleralishingler member
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    edited December 2011
    I had a similar situation...and yes it definintely sucks. I had about 18 people invited to my bachelorette party and only had about 6 people actually show. I felt the same way you are feeling...a little disappointed and kinda sad and I think it's normal to feel that way. But my little group had an awesome time. I agree with pp, it seems that when these big life events come up that we really learn who will be there through thick and thin. It will ultimately make you closer with those who do come through for you.
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