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I need to calm down

I am getting married in May of next year. I have my location booked, I have a DJ booked, I have my dress ordered, and I want to keep moving forward, but I'm starting to think that I'm too far ahead of the game.  I have all of these fabulous checklists, and I want to go down the list and keep checking things off.  I feel like I need to back off a little bit, but I'm so excited! I do want to find a photographer, since some of them offer engagement photos in their packages, but I need to just take a step back.  Anyone else go through this? 

Usually I'm a huge procrastinator, too.

Re: I need to calm down

  • edited December 2011
    We planned our wedding in a year and 3 months...and I did a lot of the big things first because our wedding was Labor Day weekend.  You're getting married during the very beginning of wedding season, and I see no reason to look for your other vendors.  It took us a while to find a baker that had good cake and in our price range.  Also, officiant hunting took a while.  As did flowers.  Photographer was easy for us since I wanted to use someone I'd used for other family events, but you will want to look at many people's work to get the style you want! These are things you need to interview and shop around for the best price for what you want.  I would say, take a few months to just get ideas, think about who you'd like to meet with and see their work and then come may, start making appointments.  That way, its a year out, you're not procrastinating, and you will be able to work on other last minute things closer to the wedding instead of finding a vendor (unless you end up in our situation where our original DJ kept raising the price and we had to find another one with less than 2 months to the wedding).  HTH!
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  • edited December 2011
    I went through the same thing. I wanted to get everything done and booked like right after we got engaged (1/31/10). Looking back, I think its defintely best to get the big vendors booked right away (venue, photographer, dj and maybe a florist). This way you can lock in prices before they go up (b/c they always do).

    I'm glad I didn't get my dress too early (ordered it the end of January). My taste changed so much over the last year and I think I would have been disappointed if I had made a selection so early and found something else later.

    I'd also keep an eye on other smaller vendors that you want to work with. For example, I knew the stationer I wanted to do my invitations and all things paper, but I didn't know what I wanted. But, b/c I kept an eye on her blog and on fb page, I found out that her prices were going up in 2011, so I was able to get my custom card box, invitation suite, menu cards, table names, etc, etc for the 2010 prices...even though I had no idea what I wanted them to look like.

    I guess my point is be careful on doing too much too fast. You never know when you will change your mind or your taste will change.
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  • edited December 2011
    i definately know how you feel. i have the same problem except i'm getting married in october 2012 :p my fiance and i attended a bridal show at our venue last night and an employee i had never met knew me by name because of how early we booked lol. 
    so we have our ceremony/reception venue booked (which is good because their prices just went up), i found my dress but haven't ordered it yet, we have a rough guestlist, and we're starting to look for photographers and djs. we could probably get married this october at the rate we're going but we both like the fact that we can plan when we feel like it, but if we don't want to we aren't forced to do anything right now. i'm also a procrastinator but i think i'd have a heart attack if we waited too long to plan all this stuff.

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  • edited December 2011
    I say go for it!  I have been engaged for over a year already and I am so ahead of things and I think it has made me enjoy the experience more than some of my friends that waited till last minute and were incredibly stressed.  I say if you are feeling inspired and ready to get things done don't feel you are jumping the gun.  Every little thing you do now is something you won't have to do later.   My wedding is 6 mos away and I am so happy that I have things checked off because all sorts of things are coming up I had no idea I had to do! 
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