"going out of their way to attend {the wedding}"

vhalbeck · August 2012

Maybe I'm being way too sensitive this close to the wedding but seriously, my maid of honor just told me that people are going out of their way to come to the wedding when I told her it's annoying when people don't RSVP or respond to emails relating to the weekend activities of our destination wedding.

Does it ever feel to you like people don't realize or appreciate all the work you're doing as a bride to make them feel like they're getting something out of coming to the wedding instead of it just being about the bride and groom?

smilesavy · August 2012

While I understand where you are coming from I get that my wedding will not be as important to anyone else other than my FI and I. People don't care about the chair covers, or the photobooth, they don't care about the cute favors or the little touches...you do those things for you and him to make the day special for the two of you...not anyone else.

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[QUOTE]Maybe I'm being way too sensitive this close to the wedding but seriously, my maid of honor just told me that people are going out of their way to come to the wedding when I told her it's annoying when people don't RSVP or respond to emails relating to the weekend activities of our destination wedding. Does it ever feel to you like people don't realize or appreciate all the work you're doing as a bride to make them feel like they're getting something out of coming to the wedding instead of it just being about the bride and groom?
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vhalbeck · August 2012

haha, you're so right!!

ohnoitskaroljo · August 2012

oh yeah my mom says i've gone "way overboard" on my wedding - i have SO many little details (like seriously we're doing all the decor and stuff ourselves and have like 6+ big bins of stuff) no one is gonna give a crap except us. but it's gonna be beautiful and perfect

dawnp917 · August 2012

Agree with PP about the wedding not being as important to others. If guests haven't RSVPd for the reception then that is something of concern however if you're upset that guests aren't saying how excited they are for all the activities planned then that isn't really a big deal.

If they are items that require a response then follow up with the guests. For example I scheduled spa treatments for all the women in the family. I sent an email saying this is the plan and these are the treatments you can choose from. I had to follow up with a few people to confirm they were coming and what they wanted for a treatment. We sent an email out to our families highlighting all the events we had planned - welcome dinner, rehearsal lunch, beer tasting & day after BBQ none of these items required an RSVP and we got very few responses to that email . It was no big deal. It was an informational email only.

vhalbeck · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_going-out-of-their-way-to-attend-the-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:bad58f98-294a-4e99-85d5-fedeb525cc07Post:1e83c610-4d29-4dcb-b87d-a3f9e5decd26">Re: "going out of their way to attend {the wedding}"</a>:
[QUOTE]Agree with PP about the wedding not being as important to others. If guests haven't RSVPd for the reception then that is something of concern however if you're upset that guests aren't saying how excited they are for all the activities planned then that isn't really a big deal. If they are items that require a response then follow up with the guests. For example I scheduled spa treatments for all the women in the family. I sent an email saying this is the plan and these are the treatments you can choose from. I had to follow up with a few people to confirm they were coming and what they wanted for a treatment. We sent an email out to our families highlighting all the events we had planned - welcome dinner, rehearsal lunch, beer tasting & day after BBQ none of these items required an RSVP and we got very few responses to that email . It was no big deal. It was an informational email only.
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<div>Yes, I was just speaking about having to follow up with people. It's not a big deal, but a but annoying nonetheless.</div>

vhalbeck · August 2012

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[QUOTE]oh yeah my mom says i've gone "way overboard" on my wedding - i have SO many little details (like seriously we're doing all the decor and stuff ourselves and have like 6+ big bins of stuff) no one is gonna give a crap except us. but it's gonna be beautiful and perfect :D
Posted by ohnoitskaroljo[/QUOTE]
Love your attitude! It will be beautiful and perfect!

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