Traditionally, it is up to the MOH and BM's to host the bridal shower, but my mom and FMIL both offered to host it, which I gladly accepted and no one opposed. My mom sent out invitations for my shower (which is the weekend after next). She asked that people RSVP by calling her. Well, one of my BM's sent me a text last night and said "Tell mom I will be at the shower. I already have pearls and jewelry for the wedding. I'm all set can't wait!" This really hurt my feelings! Ummm, you can't take 2 minutes to pick up the phone and RSVP??? It's not even like she doesn't know my mom. We've been good friends for 15 years! She didn't have to do anything to organize this event, the least she could do is pick up the phone!
With less than 2 months till the wedding my plate is completely full! I have not asked my MOH or BM's for anything thus far other than to get together and pick out their dresses, which is done. The shower is supposed to be something that I don't have to think about or be involved with at all, right?
THEN, the second part about already having jewelry for the wedding...she was the only BM I actually sent pics to of the jewelry that I picked out for the girls. I asked her opinion and she said she loved them, so she knew I was ordering them all matching jewelry sets! Why would she say that?? 
I really want to talk to her about it, but today is her birthday so I don't want to call her up and say "hope you have a nice birthday, BTW you really hurt my feelings last night." Should I just give it a day or two? Should I even bother confronting her? UGH! Throw me a bone here!
Am I being ridiculous?