My girls and I are planning to pick and order the dresses this weekend. One of them told me that she cannot currently afford the dress, but will order at a later time. I have two quesitons about this....
1. Wedding is 5 months away (May 21st). With Xmas right around the corner I assume the earliest she will order the dress is early January. Is it likely the dress will come in by then? We are ordering Mori Lee Affairs collection. (I realize I should call the bridal shop to ask them this, but it's 10:45pm and I am a little panicky about this.)
2. How important is it to order all the dresses at the same time? If one of them cannot order on Saturday should I pay for the dress and she can pay me back, or should we all put off ordering? I have heard that colors can vary if the dresses are not all cut from the same bolt of fabric. I would really hate for just one of the dresses to be different.
Thanks for your help Ladies!
Re: XP: Order all Bridesmaid Dresses at the same time?
I would bet my bottom dollar that ordering in January will be fine. That gives you over 4 months to order the dresses and get alterations done (if needed). Its plenty of time.
In my opinion, dresses from the same designer cut from different bolts are not distinguishable from each other. Maybe to someone who works in fabrics and has a very well trained eye could tell the difference, but to the average person they look the same.
Call the dress shop to be sure (and please keep in mind they may pressure you to order now to get their sales numbers up before year end,) but I'm sure it will be okay. Also I bet your bridesmaids would appreciate a little extra time to put deposits down on the dress what with the holidays being just around the corner.
Also, please try not to be annoyed with your bridesmaid. I'm sure it wasn't easy for her to come forward and say "I can't afford this" even if she did have plenty of notice. Find out the drop dead order date from the store and give it to her. Then its off your plate and up to her to get the order in.
Good luck!
If your concerned about it you might want to check with the Bridal shop and see if they will accept a deposit to order the dress rather than payment in full. The shop I went to wanted a 50% deposit on each dress to order which made things easier.
It's very unlikely that the dress will take more than three months to come in. You still have plenty of time. Give the girl some breathing room.
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I am going to call the shop this morning and see what they say. If they think that the dress will come in with enough time for any alterations by mid April then I am going to find out at the appointment when is the latest they recommend ordering and ask her to order by then. LIke you said, she is perfectly capable of ordering the dress in time for the event. And it is not my place to dictate when/where she spends her money.
If they really think that the dress needs to be ordered sooner (and not just to boost their sales numbers!) then I will offer to front the money for the dress and she can pay me back when she can afford it.
I am confident the color will match, or be very unnoticable... And if not, it's going to be okay.
Money does wierd things to friendships sometimes, and it is really not worth rocking the boat over something as silly as this.
[QUOTE]Thanks all for your comfort. I am going to call the shop this morning and see what they say. If they think that the dress will come in with enough time for any alterations by mid April then I am going to find out at the appointment when is the latest they recommend ordering and ask her to order by then. LIke you said, she is perfectly capable of ordering the dress in time for the event. And it is not my place to dictate when/where she spends her money. <strong>If they really think that the dress needs to be ordered sooner (and not just to boost their sales numbers!) then I will offer to front the money for the dress and she can pay me back when she can afford it.</strong> I am confident the color will match, or be very unnoticable... And if not, it's going to be okay. Money does wierd things to friendships sometimes, and it is really not worth rocking the boat over something as silly as this.
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Just remember, they're not going to tell you that they're only trying to pad their numbers. They'll tell you whatever you need to hear to convince you to order the dresses right away. You'd probably be better off contacting the manufacturer directly and asking how long their dress orders usually take to be filled.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
Prepare for:
"They all need to be together for dye lots." <<< False
"This dress may get discontinued." Ask for a discontinuation date, if they can't give you one, that's also a load of baloney. And I mean a specific M/D/YYYY date.
"The color may get discontinued." <<< Yeah right.
"If they all order together, it's a certain percentage off," You say, "That's nice," and continue asking for the drop dead date.
"We won't order the dresses until everyone puts their order in," You say, "Then I'll take my business elsewhere," Guarantee they'll start singing a different tune. There is no reason to order the dresses at the same time besides their commissions.
Good luck
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[QUOTE]Thanks all for your comfort. I am going to call the shop this morning and see what they say. If they think that the dress will come in with enough time for any alterations by mid April then I am going to find out at the appointment when is the latest they recommend ordering and ask her to order by then. LIke you said, she is perfectly capable of ordering the dress in time for the event. And it is not my place to dictate when/where she spends her money. If they really think that the dress needs to be ordered sooner (and not just to boost their sales numbers!) then I will offer to front the money for the dress and she can pay me back when she can afford it. I am confident the color will match, or be very unnoticable... And if not, it's going to be okay. Money does wierd things to friendships sometimes, and it is really not worth rocking the boat over something as silly as this.
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Good call! Best of luck.
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[QUOTE]Actually, I'm pretty sure the dye lots thing is true. One of the bm dresses in my sister's wedding was a noticeably different colour: Even then, it didn't really make a difference. So even if it's a bit different and people notice, no one's going to CARE.
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<div>If it's not true, my eyes are seriously playing tricks on me with these swatches! It must depend on the type of fabric. But yeah, I agree that no one is going to care, even if they happen to notice. </div>
I do knot that synthetics dye better than natural fabrics but they do differ