Fathers Day Weekend?

E&H08 · November 2010

Is it ok to have a wedding on the weekend of father's day?

shortee426 · November 2010

Yes. We considered it, but opted for the following weekend due to J's school schedule. Will your wedding be on Saturday or Sunday? If it is on Sunday might MIGHT lose a few guests due to their keeping up of Father's Day traditions (ie brunch), but I can't really imagine too many people opting not to come just because it is Father's Day weekend.

kbowes85 · November 2010

We're planning to get married on Father's day as well... we're doing a morning ceremony so people can still enjoy the day together. The DJ will also play a special "Father/Daugther" dance for all guests in honor of the holiday!

Calypso1977 · November 2010

i think its fine. even if folks have a traditional fathers day brunch, id still think a wedding would trump that.

jeanna85 · November 2010

I wouldn't mind a Saturday wedding, but not a Sunday wedding. I wouldn't ditch my dad on Father's Day to go to a friend's wedding if it was out of town.

E&H08 · November 2010

The wedding would be on Saturday. We were planning on having a brunch that Sunday for gift opening as my FI and I live in separate parts of the state, which is where they would be traveling from- approximately 4 hours away.

It's not a huge deal, but I'd like to have the wedding that weekend if possible. It can wait if not. Just thought I'd get everyone's opinion!

squirrly · November 2010

We got married on the Saturday of Mother's Day weekend. You might want to consult with both your fathers before confirming the date (we did with our moms), but I suspect it will be fine.

The only issue we had was with a few male guests being in trouble with their wives for being hungover on Mother's Day. Our open bar was awfully irresistable to most people.

starlafigs · November 2010

I think it would be fine! My wedding was on Father's day weekend as well. It was the Saturday night though, not on Fathers day itself. It won't be a big issue I think if that is the weekend you end up choosing! We didn't leave for our honeymoon right away so I still got to spend time with my dad the following day!!!

aMrsin09 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]The wedding would be on Saturday. <strong>We were planning on having a brunch that Sunday for gift opening</strong> as my FI and I live in separate parts of the state, which is where they would be traveling from- approximately 4 hours away. It's not a huge deal, but I'd like to have the wedding that weekend if possible. It can wait if not. Just thought I'd get everyone's opinion!
Posted by E&H08[/QUOTE]

Please don't do that. Gift opening should be between you and your H. If one person gave nothing and others gave gifts worth hundred, it could make some uncomfortable.

squirrly · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Fathers Day Weekend? : Please don't do that. Gift opening should be between you and your H. If one person gave nothing and others gave gifts worth hundred, it could make some uncomfortable.
Posted by aMrsin09[/QUOTE]

Oh, yes, this too. No public gift openings. Unless you mean Father's day gifts. That might be ok. But not wedding gifts.

ECI1151 · November 2010

I'm getting married the day before Mother's Day. Both our moms are fine with it and so far all of our friends and family that already know the dater are fine with it too. I think the day before Father's day is fine!

Calypso1977 · November 2010

The only issue we had was with a few male guests being in trouble with their wives for being hungover on Mother's Day.

seriously? its a freakin' hallmark holiday... do moms really get that worked up over it?

Y I Oughta · November 2010

My wedding is on the Saturday before Father's Day. It works out for all of the people living out of state because they will bet to see their dad's the day after and my dad will be in town for our first father's day together in fourteen years. Just ask your bridal party if it works for each of them.

[Deleted User] · November 2010

We got married this year on Father's Day weekend. Our wedding was the day before Father's Day and we left early the next day for the HM. We basically just gave our Dad's cards at the RD and said a little something during our speech at the RD. I don't see a problem with it as long as your family doesn't have any major get togethers or traditions your parents would be pissed about you not being able to attend.

squirrly · November 2010

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[QUOTE]The only issue we had was with a few male guests being in trouble with their wives for being hungover on Mother's Day. seriously? its a freakin' hallmark holiday... do moms really get that worked up over it?
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

Yeah, we had one guy whose wife had to pull over at least twice the following morning during their drive home from the hotel (a little over an hour) for him to be sick. With the kids in the back seat. She didn't make him sleep on the couch or anything, but she still gives him grief about it from time to time. One of those "I can't believe you did that" sort of things.

The other guy just passed out on the couch most of the day, once they got home. His newly pregnant wife took care of their 2 year old solo most of the day, and I think they missed their dinner plans because of it.

I should have clarified that I didn't mean mild headache, craving a greasy cheeseburger type of hungover. I meant the hating life variety. :D

Simply Fated · November 2010

The Saturday I wouldn't care about, but the Sunday I might. My dad is more important to me than everyone else, so I'm not going to miss a holiday for him to go to anyone's wedding. It IS a Hallmark holiday, but to him it's important, so to me it's important.

E&H08 · November 2010

Actually, my brother and sister in law did the gift opening thing and it was nice because both sides of the family got to be together and spend more time together. It wasn't about the presents and I didn't think there was anything awkward about it. When our families live far apart and don't gather much, I think it's nice to make it more of a weekend rather than one night- where most people end up drinking a bit much anyway.

I suppose that's just my opinion, but I don't think there is anything wrong with it. People get far too caught up in gifts- who cares- people get you what they get you and the couples are thankful and there's nothing wrong with it. The same as a bridal shower or baby shower- people go there and it's basically just watching the person open gifts. I'm sure no more awkward than that!

shortee426 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Actually, my brother and sister in law did the gift opening thing and it was nice because both sides of the family got to be together and spend more time together. It wasn't about the presents and I didn't think there was anything awkward about it. <strong>When our families live far apart and don't gather much, I think it's nice to make it more of a weekend rather than one night- where most people end up drinking a bit much anyway.</strong> I suppose that's just my opinion, but I don't think there is anything wrong with it. People get far too caught up in gifts- who cares- people get you what they get you and the couples are thankful and there's nothing wrong with it. The same as a bridal shower or baby shower- people go there and it's basically just watching the person open gifts. I'm sure no more awkward than that!
Posted by E&H08[/QUOTE]

<div>Can you still have a brunch, but save the gift opening for once everyone has left?</div>

Loopyseven · November 2010

In our circle, people give cash at the wedding, or checks. We had like 8 boxed gifts to open, and about 60 cards with cash or checks in them.

If you know you'll have a lot of boxed gifts, a gift opening could be no different than a shower. But opening a bunch of cards and announcing who gave you how much cash is rude in the extreme and would probably make a LOT of people uncomfortable.

Loopyseven · November 2010

Ditto Shortee - have the brunch, skip the gift opening. MIL hosted an open house for us the day after the wedding (taco bar... and ice cream sundae bar.. yum!!) so we could spend a little more time with our closest family and out of town guests in a smaller and more relaxed setting. We opened gifts privately.

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