Panic - Addressing Invite Etiquette!

Re: Panic - Addressing Invite Etiquette!

• kara811 member

  

  December 2011 edited December 2011

  Are Brittany and Maddie underage? If they are already over 18, they should really get their own invite. I am guessing Brittany is at least that since her last name is different? 

  
  

  Normally people put Mr. & Mrs. on the outer envelope and the kids' names on the inner envelope. Do you have those? In this case, I think "and family" is okay, although you'll have to check with other ladies who are better with etiquette than me. HTH! 

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• Beachy730 member

  

  December 2011 edited December 2011

  I would avoid writing "&family" on any invites, because you'll be surprised at what some people consider to be "family."  You might send an invite like that to a family with a 15 and 13 year old, and they send it back for 8 people because they also their daughter's boyfriends and their inlaws who are living with them.  

  
  

  Like Kara said, you can write "Mr & Mrs John Smith" on the outside, then on the inner envelopy you could write "John, Jane, Brittany and Sarah."

  
  

  If you don't have inner envelopes then address the outside as:

  Mr. & Mrs John Smith

  Sarah Smith

  Brittany Jones

  
  

  If the kids have the same last name it would be:

  Mr. & Mrs. John Smith

  Sarah and Brittany Smith

  
  

  
  

  Also, over 18 should get their own invite as Kara said.

  

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• amh04

  

  December 2011 edited December 2011

  Brittany is just at 18 (I think?) but still lives at home, she has a different last name because my now uncle is her stepdad.
  
  I guess I could just write her her own invite - even though part of me wants to save the $ on it - golly I sound cheap!
  
  Thanks ladies!

  

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• tyleet87 member

  

  December 2011 edited December 2011

  Honestly, I couldn't imagine sending everyone over 18 their own invite. I would be sending 3 invites to each household!
  
  If they lived elsewhere that's a different story.
  
  I didn't think about writing their names on the inside...that's a good point!

  

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• calindi member

  

  December 2011 edited December 2011

  Technically, you're supposed to send everyone over 18 their own invite, even if they're living at home.
  
  I would address it like DNBeach said:
  
  Mr. and Mrs. John Klein
  Madeline
  
  I didn't put last names for most kids, I put:
  
  Mr. & Mrs. Steven & Janet Smith
  Charlotte, James, & Davis

  
  
  
  
  
  

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• AmandaSC1988 member

  

  December 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree with giving her own invite.
  
  I did have a question as I was reading this, I had always heard that you should address the invite like :
  
  Mrs. and Mr. LastName
  
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  Jill and John Lastname
  
  Apparently you are not supposed to seperate the man from his last name. I don't think anyone would care, but had anyone else ever heard of this?

  

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• amh04

  

  December 2011 edited December 2011

  Thanks! I'm probably going to just send her her own invite, I mean really its one invite so I shouldn't be so anal about it. Thanks for the advice/etiquette help ladies I kind of just freaked and didn't know what to do. Your all always so helpful!

  

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