Wedding Recap and Withdrawal

Some hints to the brides-to-be

Dear all,

Now that my wedding is over, I would like to talk to you about some things I never heard or read about before, but which turned out rather crucial on our wedding day.

Anyway, it was a fabulous day, and I wish you all have the same dream-like experience (hopefully without issues at all)!

Hugs,
Rocio


1. If you wear a gown with a hooped skirt: Be sure the skirt is of good quality. Mine broke just before our photo session. (You know, that metal ring inside which should keep the tension of the skirt, just ripped the tulle.) I could not walk with my dress not being suspended, I stepped on it and made grass stains on it. Sister had to run into town to get a new hooped skirt of better quality.

2. This skirt issue should be fixed by the dress vendor, I thought. But no way, they were unwilling to send us a new skirt (it was 1 hour before the celebration, I could not go there myself!) Make sure your dress store is open on your wedding day and ask what they are disposed to do in case anything goes wrong with your dress.

3. Have it very, very clear with all of your vendors who will take care of what. We had told our florist that the flowers in the church must be arranged by them. They showed up and brought a huge box of flowers, but they were not fixed and my dad had to help them to get it done in time. Not funny on a wedding day.

4. Make-up was well done, but I could have done the same by myself. It's all in practicing and finding what suits you best.

5. I stressed way too much about an emergency kit. I just had NO TIME to think about make-up refreshments or anything.

6. This dress issue continued over the day. Even with the new skirt, I could hardly walk. I decided to change into a short dress for the first dance. If you want to wear your great gown all night, practice walking in it for more than 5 meters in the store, with your shoes on.

7. If you can afford it, have a professional photographer with you during the reception. Family and friends will have their cameras clicking all the time, but it's just not the same quality, and you will be happy to have good pics even of difficult situations (darkness, moving people...).

Re: Some hints to the brides-to-be

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-recap-withdrawal_some-hints-to-the-brides-to-be?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:12Discussion:ae4bd78e-8370-4498-b920-45e46ef7f991Post:d2e6bf0a-a9c2-40de-a552-f70efa46cfee">Some hints to the brides-to-be</a>:
    [QUOTE]Dear all, Now that my wedding is over, I would like to talk to you about some things I never heard or read about before, but which turned out rather crucial on our wedding day. Anyway, it was a fabulous day, and I wish you all have the same dream-like experience (hopefully without issues at all)! Hugs, Rocio 1. If you wear a gown with a hooped skirt: Be sure the skirt is of good quality. Mine broke just before our photo session. (You know, that metal ring inside which should keep the tension of the skirt, just ripped the tulle.) I could not walk with my dress not being suspended, I stepped on it and made grass stains on it. Sister had to run into town to get a new hooped skirt of better quality. 2. This skirt issue should be fixed by the dress vendor, I thought. But no way, they were unwilling to send us a new skirt (it was 1 hour before the celebration, I could not go there myself!) Make sure your dress store is open on your wedding day and ask what they are disposed to do in case anything goes wrong with your dress. 3. Have it very, very clear with all of your vendors who will take care of what. We had told our florist that the flowers in the church must be arranged by them. They showed up and brought a huge box of flowers, but they were not fixed and my dad had to help them to get it done in time. Not funny on a wedding day. 4. Make-up was well done, but I could have done the same by myself. It's all in practicing and finding what suits you best. 5. I stressed way too much about an emergency kit. I just had NO TIME to think about make-up refreshments or anything. 6. This dress issue continued over the day. Even with the new skirt, I could hardly walk. I decided to change into a short dress for the first dance. If you want to wear your great gown all night, practice walking in it for more than 5 meters in the store, with your shoes on. 7. If you can afford it, have a professional photographer with you during the reception. Family and friends will have their cameras clicking all the time, but it's just not the same quality, and you will be happy to have good pics even of difficult situations (darkness, moving people...).
    Posted by rociomatinal[/QUOTE]
    I'm sorry to hear that you had some negative experiences, but I have to say that I've read all that before on here (perhaps in different words). Your dress situation is unfortunate, but that's what happens with cheap quality. Brides need to be more conscious of things & not just assume that the dress is of good quality b/c the store says so. I didn't have a hoop in my dress, but I can't imagine how that would ever be comfortable.<div>
    </div><div>The makeup thing really depends on what you wanted, are used to & the quality of your MUA. I wear a full face every day, but my MUA achieved a look that I could not. Plus it stayed on forever. The professional photographer part is pretty common knowledge also. Yes it's an expense, but most see it as worthwhile. </div><div>
    </div><div>Overall, it doesn't seem like you had too many hiccups, which is great. Congrats on your marriage! </div>
  • yyyeeeaaahh those aren't really tips.. not all of them anyway. a couple of those are just extra rambles about your negative experience that wouldn't be useful to brides.. 


  • I wish someone would have told me to have someone remind me to get things out of my bag when I got to the suite to get ready.  I forgot all my wedding day jewelry including my something old and something borrowed.  I also forgot the favor cards that we were going to put on the tabes.

    I think another thing that needs to be told to brides is your day will not go exactly as you planned. I know that sounds negative, but it's true. Things always pop up that don't fit into your "plan."  We had an outdoor wedding and reception and it was HOT!! People left early because of that (don't blame them one bit) so we ended our reception early. It bummed me out, but the great thing is our day was great because we were both so happy!

    Try not to stress about the things that didn't go the way you wanted.  I'm having a hard time with that one, but I think it's better to try and recognize all the things that went well.  You should mostly focus on the fact you married the man you love and now you have a life together ahead of you!
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  • Firsttimer...I love that pic!  I think I read a post you made once that you were sick on your wedding day.  You can't even tell!
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  • Safety pins!!! I used about a million safety pins that day. Thank goodness my reception venue was able to track down handfuls of them. If I'd could do it all again I'd have given my MOH a purseful to use thoughout the day! :)
  • Could you have duct taped the hoop skirt back together Or was it a different type of break. Not monday morning quarterbacking, Just wondering for others In the same situation
  • edited July 2012
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-recap-withdrawal_some-hints-to-the-brides-to-be?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:12Discussion:ae4bd78e-8370-4498-b920-45e46ef7f991Post:596b71e6-7fd6-4003-a8a8-b4460639ad01">Re: Some hints to the brides-to-be</a>:
    [QUOTE]Safety pins!!! I used about a million safety pins that day. Thank goodness my reception venue was able to track down handfuls of them. If I'd could do it all again I'd have given my MOH a purseful to use thoughout the day! :)
    Posted by carolemb[/QUOTE]

    Pack a stain remover, too.  Mine was used liberally!

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-recap-withdrawal_some-hints-to-the-brides-to-be?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:12Discussion:ae4bd78e-8370-4498-b920-45e46ef7f991Post:596b71e6-7fd6-4003-a8a8-b4460639ad01">Re: Some hints to the brides-to-be</a>:
    [QUOTE]Safety pins!!! I used about a million safety pins that day. Thank goodness my reception venue was able to track down handfuls of them. If I'd could do it all again I'd have given my MOH a purseful to use thoughout the day! :)
    Posted by carolemb[/QUOTE]
    Agreed! The comb came completely off my veil as my MUA was putting it on & even though I had a mini sewing kit to sew it back, a safety pin was a million times faster! 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-recap-withdrawal_some-hints-to-the-brides-to-be?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:12Discussion:ae4bd78e-8370-4498-b920-45e46ef7f991Post:6c430324-c768-493c-8fd9-09f050b9052d">Re:Some hints to the bridestobe</a>:
    [QUOTE]Could you have duct taped the hoop skirt back together Or was it a different type of break. Not monday morning quarterbacking, Just wondering for others In the same situation
    Posted by j-harvey[/QUOTE]
    No, my dad tried to fix the thing but there was no chance. The only advice to other brides might be: If you have a hoop skirt, then take it seriously as part of the dress. It must be worth its price, so maybe you should see the skirts they have in other stores to find out whether the one they want to sell you at your store is of good quality or not. If you buy a skirt of good quality, you can easily resell it afterwards!<div>
    </div><div>To all the other ladies: I'm not unhappy with my wedding day. I was just telling some of my experiences that did not go exactly as I figured out before. Doesn't mean the day was ruined. :)</div>
  • The tips are appreciated!
  • We used the emergency kit I packed many times thoughout the day- bandaides, visine (it stops razor knicks from bleeding quicker), lint roller, deoderant, mints, Zantec, hem tape, oil blotting sheets and hairspray are some of the things we ended up needing.  

    By far the most useful thing in my emergency kit was baby powder!! If you have a summer wedding be sure to pack some!! it got so hot under my gown I was putting it on my legs to help with the sweating (gross!!)

    My advice would be dont sweat the small stuff.  A few little things probably wont go as planned and no one but you and maybe your fiance will know!  I put together a timeline and yes some things go off track.  Everything wound out working out fine and I wouldnt have changed anything!
  • #7: Don't most people hire photographers who stay for the reception??

    #4: I do my own make-up on a daily basis. A MUA told me that I do a great job & could even do my own. However, your wedding day is a special day. I had a MUA & I don't regret it.

    You still seem really upset about your dress situation.  IDK about anyone else, but I wouldn't have had any time on my wedding day to go to the Boutique where I got my dress if there had been a problem.

    My wedding day wasn't perfect, but it was one of the best days of my life!
    ~The only requirement of having a Dream is believing in it.~
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