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Idea for the "aisle walk"--NOT being given away

ickletarakinsickletarakins
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Okay, I've looked around a bit and didn't know how to search for this specific question. Here's the deal:

I'm not sure if I want my father to give me away again. I mean...he already did that once. I'm going to talk to him about it and ask his opinion, because I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I had this idea and wasn't sure how well it would be received or whether it even mattered.

I am Swedish and in Sweden/Scandinavia it is tradition for the bride and groom to walk down the aisle together. Has anyone ever seen this done? I feel like this would be especially nice for a second wedding (well, it's my second, his first, but I don't think he cares), and I like the idea of us walking to the aisle TOGETHER.
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Re: Idea for the "aisle walk"--NOT being given away

  • AdelphiTNAdelphiTN member
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    edited December 2011
    We are walking together. I think it is very symbolic. No one is giving me away this time, we are embarking on a new path together.

    it's also practical - i have 4 boys, so i can't have them ALL walk me... would look like a mob! and i think if i walk alone, i run a HUGE risk of face-planting in the sand. lol.
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  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011
    I think walking together sounds lovely.  You should do what feels comfortable and natural to you. 
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  • melio0617melio0617
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    edited December 2011
    I agree... since it is your second, I like the idea of doing something a bit different.
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  • deepcovejackiedeepcovejackie
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    edited December 2011
    By all means walk together!  Sounds great.  I think that's what FI and I will be doing too...
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  • aflowernomoreaflowernomore
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    edited December 2011
    My father is escorting me a second time, but he's not "giving me away." [ FI doesn't want to see me before I enter the ceremony site, so walking together isn't an option. I'm not comfortable walking alone (totally with you Adelphi). ] When my father and I get to the front, I will take FI's hand, and my father will take his seat. The pastor will not ask, "Who gives this woman....?" We'll simply begin.
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  • daynalyntroydaynalyntroy
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    edited December 2011
    I think walking together is a lovely idea! 
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  • 2dBride2dBride member
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    edited December 2011
    My wife and I walked together.




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  • thealphabridethealphabride
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    edited December 2011
    My cousin and her husband walked together in their wedding and I thought it was a great idea and look. I think that is a wonderful idea.
    My only son is walking me .... but I would have walked with fiance bucause I LOVE THAT IDEA!!!
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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    Like the idea too.  We're getting married at the courthouse so I don't believe there is really any tradition or ceremony involved in a civil.  But dad died 6 months ago so I think he'll be standing beside me in spirit and in my heart.
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011

    My FMIL will be presenting into our union my FI and his daughter, this will provide a means to have the FFIL there in absentia since he is too ill to travel.  My mom will be presenting me and as a way to honor my dad who passed 9 years ago he will be mentioned as one of the presenters as well.  No one is being given to anyone, but I wanted to walk into the ceremony with my mom. We're avoiding the whole traditional aisle by entering to the left and right of where everyone will be seated.  My FI will walk in behind his groomsmen and will be accompanied by his daughter and is mom from the right, my ladies and I will enter from the left.  It should be very different as long as the weather cooperates.

    I think the idea of walking in together is beautiful though.... Perhaps having your dad walk with you from the bridal ready area to where you meet your FI would be a nice option.

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  • 1shaz1shaz
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    edited December 2011
    I like the idea of walking down together; however, you will miss out on the "wow" of your groom watching you approach.  If you are ok with that, then I think it is fine.  Personally, I think I am going to walk down by myself.
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  • catang1catang1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that it is your wedding and if you want to walk together, you should!
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  • JeniBug82JeniBug82
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    edited December 2011
    I went through this as well. My baby brother, whom I am extremely close to, is walking me down the aisle. Havent figured out the give away part, Maybe Have my whole family stand up and give away since my dad gave me away the first time and FINALLY after a terrible marriage I was reunited and "given" to my family...or maybe we could just skip that part. At first, my fiancee and i were going to talk together and my baby brother was a groomsmen, but then my fiancee went on a drunken night and asked everyone he knows, Jacob has now been promoted to my escort which is way better
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  • amc0558amc0558
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    edited December 2011
    I have been on my own with my kids for 10 years.  My father "gave me away" the first time.  There is no way anyone can walk me down the aisle.  I have to walk down toward my husband to be by myself.  Its my decision to marry and no one is givng me away.  I plan on showing respect to my parents by having my childen walk down together followed by my parents, then me-alone-to be with the man I love.
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  • mzkyndmzkynd
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_idea-aisle-walk-not-being-given-away?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:da660352-36b6-453c-a598-85119f2a66fcPost:4eaece8e-f58f-405e-a007-40351d51d51e">Re: Idea for the "aisle walk"--NOT being given away</a>:
    [QUOTE]Iaisle.   I plan on showing respect to my parents by having my childen walk down together followed by my parents, then me-alone-to be with the man I love.
    Posted by amc0558[/QUOTE]

    what a lovely idea. myself i am afraid of falling on my face, but my father won't be able to make it, i am debating between asking my brother or walking with my hubby to be :)
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