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Worst. Check. Ever.
I feel like a broken record, but this situation/problem/I don't know what to call it won't go away.
I've had an awful time trying to get my sisters together to shop for bridesmaid dresses. The few times I was actually able to make appointments, they cancelled. This had been going on since September. On Monday I was supposed to go shopping with one of my sisters, and she cancelled. So I went by myself, found something I thought would look nice on them and that I could be happy with.
Friday night she sent me a text saying that she could go shopping with me Saturday. I told her I already had plans for the whole day, and that I had picked a dress. She was pissed and immediately called my other sister.
Anyway, they went to the shop yesterday to get measured and order the dresses, sending me these nasty text all day like "It would have been nice if you asked us before you chose the dress" and "I didn't know we had to pay half today, I'll order it when I have money". Ok, I never told them they had to go to order them yesterday, and actually last Saturday I told them they could just go pick something in navy that they liked and we would be done with it.
No matter what I do, this is just getting worse and worse. I haven't asked them to do anything else, but I feel like this was unavoidable. I don't expect them to come with me for anything else, and now I am starting to reconsider having them get ready with me because I'm afraid they will find something else to be stressed and b!itchy about. I just don't know what to do :-/
I've had an awful time trying to get my sisters together to shop for bridesmaid dresses. The few times I was actually able to make appointments, they cancelled. This had been going on since September. On Monday I was supposed to go shopping with one of my sisters, and she cancelled. So I went by myself, found something I thought would look nice on them and that I could be happy with.
Friday night she sent me a text saying that she could go shopping with me Saturday. I told her I already had plans for the whole day, and that I had picked a dress. She was pissed and immediately called my other sister.
Anyway, they went to the shop yesterday to get measured and order the dresses, sending me these nasty text all day like "It would have been nice if you asked us before you chose the dress" and "I didn't know we had to pay half today, I'll order it when I have money". Ok, I never told them they had to go to order them yesterday, and actually last Saturday I told them they could just go pick something in navy that they liked and we would be done with it.
No matter what I do, this is just getting worse and worse. I haven't asked them to do anything else, but I feel like this was unavoidable. I don't expect them to come with me for anything else, and now I am starting to reconsider having them get ready with me because I'm afraid they will find something else to be stressed and b!itchy about. I just don't know what to do :-/
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Re: Worst. Check. Ever.
Is your Mom in the picture? Could she moderate this situation? Maybe ask your sisters to be a little more mature about the situation or be abe to tell you their side without it coming out as snarky from them?
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Lexi, our mom died three years ago. It's killing me, especially now. When things are good they tell me how sorry they am that I have no one close to me involved in this-our mother, my grandmother died in the fall, my grandfather's health is failing, and I am not close to any of my aunts. So when we talk about it and I tell them how I'm feeling, they are super supportive and loving, but that all vanishes, literally the next day.
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1st round injectables/IUI 1/31---BFP!
Just give them a date, and tell them if they do not decide on something by that date, then they need to go order the dress you picked out. Period.
Just curious, are these older or younger sisters? Ages? If they are really young, they might not understand the importance behind it. If they are old enough to know better than they are just being brats.
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Either way, it's not fair at all that you have to deal with this. Let us know if we can help find a dress! Another thing to do might be to ask them how much they want to spend, then put in the rest for them. Not fair, but it might save you some grief.
The original dress was $180, which I agree is a lot but like some of you said it's not "expensive" for a bridesmaid dress. But like I said I would be more than happy if they just picked something themselves, even at a department store. How had can it be to find a short, navy dress?I don't think they realize what they are going to get for $100, because we have tried those on and they don't like them, including just about every style that David's carries.
Anyway, I am thinking satin, they like strapless, and it absolutely cannot flare out very much at the bottom. Which is another huge issue because most of the short dresses do that.
And Blueeyed- they are much older- 12/13 years (different dads). They have both been married so I'm not understanding how they don't know that you have to make appointments to look at dresses, shocked at the cost of different things, etc.
As much as I wish I could, I don't think not having them as bridesmaids was ever an option. When I got engaged they were asking and talking about it as if it was automatic... which is what I wanted, I just never thought it would come to this. Asking them to step down would cause a huge blowout, and as much as they are making me miserable, they each have two kids and I don't want to do anything to jeopardize my relationships with them.
Thank you all sooo much for your support and advice!
I am going with my MOH to order her dress tonight, and I went onto Alfred Angelos website and wrote down the style #s of the cheapest dresses so I can take a look at them in person tonight. I just want to do whatever it takes to get this over and done with!!