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stressed fiance

unplainjaneunplainjane member
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in Wedding Recap and Withdrawal
my fiance is really stressed about the wedding. he almost doesn't like talking about plans and stuff. our wedding isn't till next summer so it's a while away and we have already booked the church and venue. we are very laid back people and those first steps were of course the big things and it was so stressful coordinating those things that it almost left a bad taste in his mouth for the wedding. he seems to be getting better but still i wish he had more enthusiasm for it.

i know that men usually don't have a huge interest in wedding planning but i had a question for the married ladies. did any of you experience a finance that was really stressed about the wedding and didn't enjoy the planning? on the day of the wedding did he end up enjoying the day?
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  • Jenni83Jenni83
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    In general i think the wedding planning is more for the Women,my Hubby wasnt very interested in helping me plan he knew exactally what i wanted and therefor let me do most of the planning,he did give some input and he helped me pick out the food and stuff.When it came to the day of the wedding he was so happy and excited and really enjoyed every minuet of it.
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  • Theresa626Theresa626 member
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    I think you should ask him exactly what aspects he is stressed out about... is it the planning, is he afraid something will go wrong, or you can't afford what he wants, or his family stressing him out?  There are sooo many different things it could be.  Once you know the real cause, I think then you could help him with it.  Maybe he just feels overwhelmed with how much there is to do.  If that is the case, then I would tell him that you will take over the main planning and have him not worry about the big stuff. Give him small manageable tasks to do and maybe don't vent as much about your stresses in planning till he has a chance to calm down.  
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  • benmel31benmel31 member
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    I agree, ask him what is stressing him out.  My FI and I planned everything together.  We worked together to split up the work to keep us both sane.  Often times he would make the phone calls to the vendors after I researched them.  We would go together to meet with people so we could share our impressions after.  Now that the big stuff is planned, I am doing the majority of the stuff and just sharing it with him.  He's still involved, but he's just not as into the small details like flowers, gifts, and decorations.  

    Talk to him!  You'll work it out!
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  • TrishesTrishes
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    I'm in the process of planning. My FH hasn't shown ANY interest in anything except the tasting. Not the decorations, or the venue, or anything. He knows he wants to marry me, but he says that the whole party thing is for me, not for him, as he'd be just as happy marrying me with almost no one there and at a courthouse. His thing is that it's his goal to marry me. Everything else is just extra. I understand that, but it IS a little frustrating!
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