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Need advice, Please!

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So when FI and I made our invite list, I had him write up his family/friends and I did the same, then I asked my mom/his mom for any others... well, somewhere in all of that, Fi's grandfather got left off the list :-(
Today FFIL called FI and asked him if we sent him an invite, because he (grandfather) knew nothing about where/when the wedding was. UGH! 
FI's grandfather is separated from his grandmother, and we really only see him once a year, and don't exchange holiday, birthday cards, etc... so it honestly never crossed my mind when I was triple checking my list. 
Our invites have been out for weeks now and our RSVP date is 4/5. I know it's too late to send an invite. I was thinking I'd have FI call grandfather, but I have no idea how to handle this, I feel like a jerk! 
Advice please, thanks ladies! 
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  • caitlinc09caitlinc09
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    Oh no! Things happen, you are only human, try not to sweat it too much. I would go ahead and mail him a formal invite, because I am sure he would like to have one. He may not get his RSVP back in time, but that's okay, you can always call him to verify his attendance after he has received it. 
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  • toothpastechicatoothpastechica member
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    I would send an invitation AS well as call him and let him know that "we have every intention of inviting you, somehow we missed you when we were doing our invites, we are very sorry about that. If you can let us know when you know if you able to come that would be great! Your invitations in the mail now!".

    (That is if you are intending on inviting him...if not, let sleeping dogs lie, only say something to him if HE asks why he isnt invited or for details if he is not invited)

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_need-advice-please-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:bdce7a3c-745d-45da-9088-2cc330f52cc1Post:0e4adf8c-0516-4801-880d-47e0293aac70">Re: Need advice, Please!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would send an invitation AS well as call him and let him know that "we have every intention of inviting you, somehow we missed you when we were doing our invites, we are very sorry about that. If you can let us know when you know if you able to come that would be great! Your invitations in the mail now!". (That is if you are intending on inviting him...if not, let sleeping dogs lie, only say something to him if HE asks why he isnt invited or for details if he is not invited)
    Posted by toothpastechica[/QUOTE]

    I agree 100% with this!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_need-advice-please-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:bdce7a3c-745d-45da-9088-2cc330f52cc1Post:0e4adf8c-0516-4801-880d-47e0293aac70">Re: Need advice, Please!</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I would send an invitation AS well as call him</strong> and let him know that "we have every intention of inviting you, somehow we missed you when we were doing our invites, we are very sorry about that. If you can let us know when you know if you able to come that would be great! Your invitations in the mail now!". (That is if you are intending on inviting him...if not, let sleeping dogs lie, only say something to him if HE asks why he isnt invited or for details if he is not invited)
    Posted by toothpastechica[/QUOTE]




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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_need-advice-please-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:bdce7a3c-745d-45da-9088-2cc330f52cc1Post:5d974126-b542-4827-bc95-275e696536fa">Re: Need advice, Please!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Need advice, Please! : This....
    Posted by littleshrink[/QUOTE]

    <div>Same here. </div>
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  • comeongetdowncomeongetdown member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_need-advice-please-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:bdce7a3c-745d-45da-9088-2cc330f52cc1Post:0e4adf8c-0516-4801-880d-47e0293aac70">Re: Need advice, Please!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would send an invitation AS well as call him and let him know that "we have every intention of inviting you, somehow we missed you when we were doing our invites, we are very sorry about that. If you can let us know when you know if you able to come that would be great! Your invitations in the mail now!". (That is if you are intending on inviting him...if not, let sleeping dogs lie, only say something to him if HE asks why he isnt invited or for details if he is not invited)
    Posted by toothpastechica[/QUOTE]

    this...

    except i would tell him it must have gotten lost in the mail or i must have written the address wrong or something.... because i'm a bad person haha
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  • kimberlykhkimberlykh member
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    I would probabaly play dumb and say you sent it. I'd blame USPS.
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    I would just send him a formal invite. Just lie and say it might have been lost in the USPS if he asks WTF.
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  • LOMLBOATLOMLBOAT
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    I agree with PP to send a formal invite as well as calling, but I wouldn't copp to saying you 'forgot' him.  It would be hurtful and it was a genuine mistake.  I would just say that it's weird he didn't receive the invite with the rest of them, but since you had extras you sent another one out to him, just mail the RSVP card when you get it.
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  • deeNsethdeeNseth
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_need-advice-please-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:bdce7a3c-745d-45da-9088-2cc330f52cc1Post:6ffa15d4-a85a-4ca6-a168-9ca87ab4a11a">Re: Need advice, Please!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Need advice, Please! : this... except i would tell him it must have gotten lost in the mail or i must have written the address wrong or something.... because i'm a bad person haha
    Posted by comeongetdown[/QUOTE]

    haha oh man, I'd have to admit to pulling this one too! Although we did apparently have 2 <em>actually</em> get lost in the mail so now I have to re-send!  NOT looking forward to wrestling with the labels again but oh well, at least I get to use the wax seal again :) that was the best part!
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