Behind in planning?

RaeRae1126 · April 2011

I feel so behind! I know that I'm still a little bit over a year from the wedding but every bride I've talked to so far already has her reception site booked =/ Am I the only one who has trouble getting off the fence to make these big decisions? The only thing we've done so far is complete our pre-marriage meetings with our priest and schedule our date with the church. So anyway, my fiance and I are finally scheduling meetings with some of the venues for our reception that we're interested in. I'm just worried I still wont be able to pull the trigger. Am I just the biggest procrastinator or scared or is this normal??

em01092 · April 2011

I think its totally normal! This is your wedding after all, so of course you feel pressured to pick the best place, and the best of everything, for that matter! Booking a year out is pretty common, but it really just depends on your area, your price range, how popular your dream venues are, and your preferences.

For me, I'm getting married in a very small town that has only one or two places suited for an indoor wedding reception for our number of guests. We went with the town country club. When I went to look, I knew it was all I needed. Is it super lavish and exceptionally gorgeous? Well no. But it is a) in our price range b) very nice/classy c) easy for guests to get to from the church d) and it fits our smaller wedding theme. I also wanted to book quickly because the receptionist showed me that a wedding was already on the books for May 2012! In a little town with few options, places can go fast. We were satisfied with the place and the in house caterer, so we signed the contract. (By the way, the cost was only $150! For the entire payment, not the deposit!)

Just take into account your preferences, your budget, and talk with your FI and close family/friends about your choices and concerns. Make informed decisions and make sure you ask a lot of questions. Write down a list of things most important to you about your venue. You can ask how far out brides have booked receptions when you go, but be warned that this may make you feel rushed. However, if you fall in love with a place and it works with what you need, I say go with your gut!

LPRUETT05 · April 2011

Heck no! I just got engaged and I have NO idea where my reception will be because they are crazy expensive lol I'm right there with ya!

mybestfriend4eva · April 2011

Dont worry these thing come easy for some and are harder for others. I looked at a TON of places and it took forever for me to decide. I finally told myself to narrow it down to just a couple of places that had everything we wanted and then went to them all one more time to see how I felt there and to see if I could imagine my wedding there. Once I did this is was clear I only truly saw our wedding at one location and the desposit was paid! Dont worry yourself with how far others are in their planning. Every wedding is different so you cant judge yours off anothers. Take your time and make sure youre getting everything you want. Just make sure when you go to these places that you ask them if your date if available and if they are already booking for that month. Venues tend to be the first thing brides get booked so just make sure your aware of the time frame you have with your venues to ensure your date is available! Good luck and I cant wait to see what you decide.

[Deleted User] · April 2011

I'm also still trying to find a venue myself. Hopefull, I'll find one soon that I like.

RaeRae1126 · April 2011

I was starting to feel like a total slow-poke but I guess I just need to relax a little bit. I'm pretty much the only girl in my family and everyone is really excited about this wedding, so they keep asking me for details and I have none! =P Well, I hope to focus myself in the coming weeks and hopefully nail down a venue. Thanks ladies!

futuremrsdavies · April 2011

I wouldn't worry too much, you'll find it when you're ready. I felt rushed and booked a venue that I really like but I often have buyers remorse and wish i had spent more time looking at more economical locations. Good luck and remember, planning should be fun.

VolRach865 · April 2011

I sincerely hope you aren't behind, because that means I'm behind. I've done nothing at this point except a lot of research. I think you have plenty of time to look around and make sure it's something you love. You want to be inspired by your location. It will help all the other decisions down the road... at least that's what I'm telling myself.

Good luck!

stardreamer1223 · April 2011

You've got the important place booked! You've got the church and now everything else will come together! Congrats!!

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