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TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?

Heather822Heather822
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So the other night I tried to put my irresistible moves on FI. (kidding)..... and he stopped me and suggested we take a break until the wedding night to try to make it a little more *racy*. I know this is only 2 weeks for us, (not to mention 5 out of those 14 days I will be out of commission anyway... told you TMI!) so its not a big deal at all for us... but it got me wondering if this is something we should have though of earlier, and how many people actually do this...
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  • jaimelodyjaimelody
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    edited December 2011
    Someone had been talking about this a few months before we got hitched and I suggested it to DH. He laughed. We lived together prior to the wedding, I don't think we could do it. ha
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  • Heather822Heather822
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_tmi-poll-abstaining-before-wedding-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3c79f19e-2334-4fb2-9f7d-00d8825a701bPost:a1865312-76a4-4f58-9936-5f81394d0059">Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Someone had been talking about this a few months before we got hitched and I suggested it to DH. He laughed. We lived together prior to the wedding, I don't think we could do it. ha
    Posted by jaimelody[/QUOTE]

    <font color="#003366">FI and I are in the same boat.... if it was more than 2 weeks I think we'd fail too. But we sure are going to try these last couple weeks!</font>
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  • felicia220felicia220 member
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    edited December 2011
    We didn't take any time off.  It was never even a thought in our mind.
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  • DMLJDMLJ member
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    edited December 2011
    We thought about it but honestly there was just too much stress coming up to the wedding and it was one of the only things that really relaxed me and took my mind off of the wedding!
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  • NJgurl19NJgurl19 member
    500 Comments Third Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    Fi and I thought it would be nice. We are actually thinking of 1 month :(, i don't know if we will keep it.
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  • quirky75quirky75 member
    500 Comments Third Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    I was thinking maybe we'd try a month, but FI is going to need a lot of convincing to agree and then I'll probably be the one to push us to ruin it :-P
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  • cvl105cvl105
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    edited December 2011

    If two weeks of not having sex is going to make your wedding night "racy"...more power to you.  Seems silly to me. 

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  • Heather822Heather822
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_tmi-poll-abstaining-before-wedding-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3c79f19e-2334-4fb2-9f7d-00d8825a701bPost:96195c4d-e4ee-419c-a0ca-8785699eb70c">Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If two weeks of not having sex is going to make your wedding night "racy"...more power to you.  Seems silly to me. 
    Posted by cvl105[/QUOTE]

    <font color="#003366">Um, its really not.... I am guessing you didn't pick up on the sarcasm or nature of the poll....
    Reading comprehension, people....</font>
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  • KevinMegan1008KevinMegan1008 member
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    edited December 2011
    It is my FI birthday the day before the wedding so we'll be sleeping in the same room and all that... I don't want him to miss out on his birthday :)
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  • misschristinecmisschristinec
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    edited December 2011
    hmmmm I never thought about this Heather..i'll have to talk to my FI and get his take on this situation :)
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  • akmackayakmackay
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_tmi-poll-abstaining-before-wedding-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3c79f19e-2334-4fb2-9f7d-00d8825a701bPost:f14df880-b3db-4b03-9287-11ce1db2655c">Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...? : Um, its really not.... I am guessing you didn't pick up on the sarcasm or nature of the poll.... Reading comprehension, people....
    Posted by Heather822[/QUOTE]

    I didn't get the sarcasm out of you either, so I don't think you were doing it right if that's what you meant.

    We had thought we were going to do this, but in the end it just never happened. The wedding night wasn't anything special though- it was like eh, so if you are looking to make it special, you're going to be too tired to care anyways. The next few nights are different, but wedding night for us was not very exciting.
    *~allie~*

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  • Heather822Heather822
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_tmi-poll-abstaining-before-wedding-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3c79f19e-2334-4fb2-9f7d-00d8825a701bPost:a0bd9dad-a013-415e-92cf-174eebccd40f">Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...? : I didn't get the sarcasm out of you either, so I don't think you were doing it right if that's what you meant.
    Posted by akmackay[/QUOTE]

    <font color="#003366">Thought the fact that I put *racy* in mocking stars like that, and flat out said ITS NOT A BIG DEAL TO US was enough for people to get the message that abstaining for 2 weeks was not going to make or break the wedding night.... just that it got me thinking.
    Next time I'll put something like :insert sarcasm here: if thats not enough.... though I feel like the majority of people got it.</font>
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  • akmackayakmackay
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_tmi-poll-abstaining-before-wedding-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3c79f19e-2334-4fb2-9f7d-00d8825a701bPost:48bbb0f4-8e95-4b67-a3cd-27ba72195870">Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...? : Thought the fact that I put *racy* in mocking stars like that, and flat out said ITS NOT A BIG DEAL TO US was enough for people to get the message that abstaining for 2 weeks was not going to make or break the wedding night.... just that it got me thinking. Next time I'll put something like :insert sarcasm here: if thats not enough.... though I feel like the majority of people got it.
    Posted by Heather822[/QUOTE]

    Wowza didn't mean to stike a chord...
    *~allie~*

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  • Heather822Heather822
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_tmi-poll-abstaining-before-wedding-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3c79f19e-2334-4fb2-9f7d-00d8825a701bPost:2e81a066-fa79-451e-8ddb-ac367d66604a">Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...? : Wowza didn't mean to stike a chord...
    Posted by akmackay[/QUOTE]

    <font color="#003366">You didn't....
    Now I think you are sensing srcasm where it was notintended....
    Damn interbwebs.
    Or maybe my sarcasm insertion devices are just waaaaaay off.....
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  • akmackayakmackay
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    edited December 2011
    hahaha. let's just let it be.

    but IMO, don't hold off. You're going to want it as a *release* as the wedding gets closer, and if you think the wedding night is going to be this amazing round, it's not (at least for me and for all others I've talked to). It will be special regardless.
    *~allie~*

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  • Just JenJust Jen
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_tmi-poll-abstaining-before-wedding-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:3c79f19e-2334-4fb2-9f7d-00d8825a701bPost:3cd98948-31e7-4021-a97d-a2b578c2820d">Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?</a>:
    [QUOTE] if you think the wedding night is going to be this amazing round, it's not (at least for me and for all others I've talked to).
    Posted by akmackay[/QUOTE]

    FTR, I disagree.
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  • Heather822Heather822
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    edited December 2011
    At this point, I am just hoping I can stay awake after the wedding!
    I am chosing: no expectations for wedding night.
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  • akmackayakmackay
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_tmi-poll-abstaining-before-wedding-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:3c79f19e-2334-4fb2-9f7d-00d8825a701bPost:2b26a270-c573-4fc2-8636-105448197cf9">Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...? : FTR, I disagree.
    Posted by Just Jen[/QUOTE]

    I'm proven wrong... glad you got it on and had fun :-)
    *~allie~*

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  • cvl105cvl105
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_tmi-poll-abstaining-before-wedding-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:3c79f19e-2334-4fb2-9f7d-00d8825a701bPost:a0bd9dad-a013-415e-92cf-174eebccd40f">Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: TMI Poll! Abstaining before your wedding night...? : I didn't get the sarcasm out of you either, so I don't think you were doing it right if that's what you meant. We had thought we were going to do this, but in the end it just never happened. The wedding night wasn't anything special though- it was like eh, so if you are looking to make it special, you're going to be too tired to care anyways. The next few nights are different, but wedding night for us was not very exciting.
    Posted by akmackay[/QUOTE]


    Thank you Allie. 
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  • ksen820ksen820
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    edited December 2011
    I think it's only special if you're doing it for the first time.. otherwise, it's nothing you haven't done before, even if you wait, it's not going to be like the first time (IMHO). 

    That's not to say that it won't be special because it's the first time as H and W, it will be special regardless.
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