Shower Etiquette

Re: Shower Etiquette

• hboo2011

  

  October 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_shower-etiquette-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:46cdda65-825c-44bb-9bd4-1b6de0ece474Post:bac143bb-c089-4446-ad3d-d331640333eb">Shower Etiquette</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hello All, I am a little confused about the bridal shower - wedding invite etiquette. I have been informed that one of my mom’s friends will be throwing me a shower and for me to come up with a list of names that I would like to invite. Everyone I plan on inviting to the shower is also invited to the wedding. <strong>Of course the Hostess will invite whomever she wishes, which I am absolutely fine with,</strong> but here is my question… If she invites people who are not on my wedding quest list do I have to send them an invite to the wedding also? I have a strict guest list and can not deviate from that due to my budget.   I am so green when it comes to wedding etiquette so any help is very much appreciated J Thanks  
  Posted by rae1200[/QUOTE]
  
  I am not sure why she would invite people in addition to the list you give her. Just advise her that you already have your wedding guest list finalized, so you can only invite the guests on the list that you give her.

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• john&julie member

  

  October 2011 edited December 2011

  If she plans to invite people who are not invited to the wedding, then you either make sure she does not or if she refuses, then decline the shower.  Just because she is the hostess does not mean she will invite whomever she wishes - she cannot invite anyone you are not inviting to your wedding.

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• jalafa member

  

  October 2011 edited December 2011

  It's still your wedding and shower so I'm not sure either why she would be inviting additional people that are not already invited. I think you should just ask her about this and make sure yall are both on the same page.  I provided my guest list count to my maid of honor and that's all that will be invited.

  

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• divaMOH member

  

  October 2011 edited December 2011

  She CANNOT invite people who are not invited to the wedding.  The list you give her of people you would like invited to the shower would suffice.  Remember, not everyone invited to the wedding has to be invited to the shower, but everyone invited to the shower must be invited to the wedding.  The only extra people that should be invited would be those on your wedding guest list who you didn't initially include on your requested shower guest list.  But if you kept them off, whoever is hosting your shower should respect your wishes.

  
  

  Just make sure you clarify all of this with her and your mom!  Good luck and Congratulations!

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• rae1200 member

  

  October 2011 edited December 2011

  Thanks Ladies!!!!

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