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Registry and Gift Forum
Still living with Mom and Dad
My husband and I recently got married, by courts. However we are planning for an 11/11/11 church ceremony and reception. Due to my husbands career, he'll be traveling off and on for about 2 years. With him not being home it's wise of us to stay living with my parents and not having to pay rent when niether of us will be enjoying our home. Do we still register? If so, what? My mom says we should but I am completely stuck. And I honestly don't want to register for a toaster oven, utensils, etc for something we won't be using for awhile and that we will need to place in strorage. Please help. Thank you!
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Re: Still living with Mom and Dad
If you don't want to register, don't. I still think it would be OK to register for a few thigns. Maybe a set of china or matching dishes? A set of nice white fluffy towels or sheets?
PS - I think that it is weird you'll be married and living with your parents.
[QUOTE]Even though you will have already been married for awhile, some guests who come to the reception might still want to get you a gift--so you could register, but not for a lot of things since I'm assuming you won't be having a shower or anything.
Posted by Galaxy8227[/QUOTE]
I agree with this.
You were only married in the courts. Perhaps now you are doing a religious type ceremony in order to recognize your marriage in a church. Either way, its none of our business.
Since you are traveling so much- it makes sense to live at home.
What about registering for travel items.
Like a nice throw blanket, some new good sturdy luggage and then some smaller travel items- like a nice travel container set (you know the ones that come with all the little bottles).
You can also always register for nice sheets that you guys can use at home at your parents, and perhaps a nice bedding set-- jsut because you are there only 3 months out of the year- doesnt mean you cant personalize your space with bedding you like.... plus then even if you want to get a new" look" when you ultimately stop traveling and settle down-- you can always use it in a guest room...rather than buy new.
I would hold off on big products like kitchen mixers and the like. and perhaps if you ahve a wedding website provide a link to your registries and write a message like "Due to our current career circumstances we will not be able to go the tradiional routre and set up our home for a few years... because of thuis, we have registered for travel items and items that make coming home a bit cozier."
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[QUOTE]I dont agree with PP's. I dont really think its a "vow" renewal per say. <strong>You were only married in the courts.</strong>....and perhaps if you ahve a wedding website provide a link to your registries and write a message like "Due to our current career circumstances we will not be able to go the tradiional routre and set up our home for a few years... because of thuis, we have registered for travel items and items that make coming home a bit cozier."
Posted by i2012do[/QUOTE]
i2012, you are going to get some flak for this. A court wedding is a wedding, and is the start of a marriage. They are married.
Also, I would avoid adding extra little messages into your registry. They usually just add more chaos to an already awkward situation.
[QUOTE] I don't think people should ever register if you're not inviting people to the actual wedding ceremony. They are getting you a gift because you're getting married, not because you're throwing a party for them. (I know there's a lot of backwards thinking otherwise, but they shouldn't just be getting a gift because you're paying for dinner and drinks.)
Posted by marissa_claire[/QUOTE]
Agreed