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talk some sense into me

Ok ladies I am having like a major wedding regret fest today.

Where I work, I have a close team that sits with me on my floor. Then I have another team that I work with on the accounts I work on, and there is another team I am close with.

When we did the wedding invites I only invited the team that sits on my floor, which includes my boss, a couple of friends who also see me outside work, and two secretaries who have helped me manage my life this year.  I didn't invite the team from the accounts, for three reasons:

1. At the time of the invites I was over-capacity on my room and I was risking inviting any of the 8 from work.
2. I didn't work with the accounts group as much, and I wasn't as close to them as I am now.
3.  If I invited this particular group, I felt like it opened up a whole bunch of other people, because I can't pick one account team and not the others.

So basically my logic was sound and still holds.  The problem is that I feel so guilty because there is one account guy who I am really close to now, and who has been really supportive of the wedding, who I didn't invite.  It was all I could do today to withhold going to him and being like "We have room now!" Ugh.

I just feel really guilty, because I know he would have gone and would like to have been invited, but I just couldn't justify 4 more people at the time the invites went out.  (Because if I invited him I'd have to invite another guy on our team - so 2 couples.)

I'm waayyyyyy overthinking this and just need to be reminded that you can't invite everyone to these events.   And that all of this over-thinking is just because it's a week before the wedding, I have a project due at work, a house to clean, Mother Nature vistiing, and laundry to do. 
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Re: talk some sense into me

  • missmelanie81missmelanie81 member
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    edited December 2011
    I have that issue too when we were doing STD's. It would be awsome if we could invite everyone we care about...but its just not possible! I think they understand that.
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  • larzhopelarzhope member
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    edited December 2011
    yup you're overthinking it!  You will still be able to celebrate with him even if it's not at your wedding.  I'm sure he'll want to see pics and such!
  • edited December 2011
    Same thing here. I cut out a lot of people because we were going to be over capacity - and now we're like 75 under capacity. People will be supportive and want to hear about the wedding, but it doesn't mean you need to or should invite all of them. I'm 99.99% sure he isn't offended that he didn't get an invite - he is just excited for you and wants to hear what is going on. Also, sometimes people don't want to be invited. Especially when it's work people and they feel like they have to attend. Weddings are expensive to attend and I always give something, even if I RSVP no. You did the right thing and invited people in layers (ie- not inviting someone because then it opens up the whole group). Going back and changing things now looks kinda bad (like having an A list and a B list).
  • edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies.  You are making me feel better. (That and the bowl of cereal I ate... I think I was hungry.)  I will share pictures!
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  • Meegles4Meegles4 member
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    edited December 2011
    Agree agree. Damn those co-workers and the mixed feelings and changed relationships they create!
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  • matuofmmatuofm member
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    edited December 2011
    I sympathize.  As a bunch of my family members show a complete lack of interest in attending my wedding, I find myself wishing that we had invited more of our friends instead of making it just basically a family-only event.  But I think this falls under the category of "down to the wire and looking for things to be dissatisfied with."  It's going to be great with your guest list as it stands, and I promise you that everyone rational in your office understands the stress of the politics of office invitations.  :)
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