Guest List Rant

Re: Guest List Rant

• jmucheech21 member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  I'm sorry that is happening!!!  My fiance and I had this awesome list of 100 people and we were so happy.. until my mom said, "oh, you're inviting all your second cousins, right???"  I don't even know their names!!! So now we are sitting at 175 and I miss my smaller list.  =(  And our smaller prices.  Haha.

  
  

  Just out of curiosity, who are you going with that hikes up the price after 55?  Usually I find most places tend to go down with a higher guest count.  

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• therockisblinding05

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  Sorry this is happening to you!! This happened to me and I'm freaked out about inviting over capacity! What helped me eliminate people was to think," if this were this person's wedding, would I be (or expect to be) invited?" If the answer is no, then you shouldn't feel bad cutting them (but I know it's hard, I'm the same way too!) Also, when people (mainly parents) try to add guests, remind them of that extra cost if you go over and that should bring them back to earth rather quickly. If people who don't get invited are surprised, you might have to explain to them that you had to have a very small (and non flexible) guest list...maybe you could send them announcements so they can still feel apart?

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• MrsWhitneyAmanda

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  I'm sorry you're going through this I would hope people will understand - weddings are expensive things and everybody should know that! Be prepared for hurt feelings, though. I had a friend whose entire reason for wanting to come to my wedding (even though when I asked him if he planned on coming long before the STDs were sent and he said he wouldn't because he didn't want to make the three hour drive) was to hook up with my single friends (which i had all of two of in attendance at my wedding); he had a track record of hooking up at weddings and didn't want to break his streak. So I didn't end up inviting him and he hasn't spoken to me since. It sucks but it kinda made me realize that it wasn't the friendship that I thought it was.

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• frozenxthoughts member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  Thanks for that girls! You always make me feel better here They will just have to understand, and who knows, I may get to unvite them if other people can't come.
  
  MrsWhitney that's terrible! I guess these types of things really show you people's true colors. I figure my true blue friends will understand and come through for me no matter what. You had a gorgeous wedding though! Love the pics!
  

  
  
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• steverani

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  We are over our original guest list as well. I have lost a couple friends because of them assuming they would be invited and when I had to tell them we just don't have the money to invite everyone they couldn't understand it. I just feel that family comes first and then very close friends that you see all the time and that know you guys as a couple. The "friends" that weren't invited were people I hadn't seen in years and out only communication is over facebook...so I didn't see the big deal. Oh well, if people can't be understanding you don't need them in your life. This has really shown me who I  can count on and who I can't. Good luck and I think with a wedding...you can't please everyone..there will always be someone who is disappointed. Just try to focus on the other people that will be there to shower you with love on your special day.

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