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Father-daugther dance
I'm having a hard time time figuring out the song. Let me start by saying my dad and I aren't very close. Not like I don't like him, we just aren't close. I'm actually not very close with either of my parents. My dad and I were pretty close when I was in middle school and high school due mainly to my mom and I fought a lot becuase of generational and cultural differences but then a couple family issues came up in my early twenties and our relationship hasn't been the same since.
So, I thought a while ago I figured out a great song for us to dance to: Ben E King's "Stand By Me." It's a song I grew up listening to, always loved it, and reminds me of being a kid. I was talking with my dad about song selection this past weekend and he said Stand By Me was too overplayed. I was like "What!??" Apparently he thinks so because he has it as his ringtone! Oi! And he has a list of songs that he plays for me, most of which I don't really like (he likes classic rock, I never got into it) except some of the songs from like the '50s but even most of those are like Love songs. The only other song I really liked is My Girl, but to me, there's not really anything that stands out about it and it's commonly played as the Father-Daugther dance and I wanted something a bit different.
So, during this conversation, my mom mentions how she thought it would be nice for us to dance to Dolly Parton's "Jolene" which I was actually named after. *sigh* Mind you, English is not my mom's first language and I know she doesn't really grasp what the song is about. Honestly, I've never really liked the song. And it makes me feel awkward/uncomfortable/squirmish whenever I hear a song with my name, whether it's Dolly Parton, Cake, or Zac Brown Band. In fact a few of my friends will sometimes just start singing Dolly's "Jolene" just to tease me/get to me. I've gotten to the point where I'll finish the line, but...can't explain it.
The more I think about it though, the more I'm just like "Whatever." I mean, I WAS named after the song. Although it is about a man-stealing woman with "flaming locks of auburn hair, ivory skin and eyes of emerald green." Quite the opposite of how I am and look.
Sooo....what do you guys think? I'm just getting to the point where having one more thing checked off would be nice.
So, I thought a while ago I figured out a great song for us to dance to: Ben E King's "Stand By Me." It's a song I grew up listening to, always loved it, and reminds me of being a kid. I was talking with my dad about song selection this past weekend and he said Stand By Me was too overplayed. I was like "What!??" Apparently he thinks so because he has it as his ringtone! Oi! And he has a list of songs that he plays for me, most of which I don't really like (he likes classic rock, I never got into it) except some of the songs from like the '50s but even most of those are like Love songs. The only other song I really liked is My Girl, but to me, there's not really anything that stands out about it and it's commonly played as the Father-Daugther dance and I wanted something a bit different.
So, during this conversation, my mom mentions how she thought it would be nice for us to dance to Dolly Parton's "Jolene" which I was actually named after. *sigh* Mind you, English is not my mom's first language and I know she doesn't really grasp what the song is about. Honestly, I've never really liked the song. And it makes me feel awkward/uncomfortable/squirmish whenever I hear a song with my name, whether it's Dolly Parton, Cake, or Zac Brown Band. In fact a few of my friends will sometimes just start singing Dolly's "Jolene" just to tease me/get to me. I've gotten to the point where I'll finish the line, but...can't explain it.
The more I think about it though, the more I'm just like "Whatever." I mean, I WAS named after the song. Although it is about a man-stealing woman with "flaming locks of auburn hair, ivory skin and eyes of emerald green." Quite the opposite of how I am and look.
Sooo....what do you guys think? I'm just getting to the point where having one more thing checked off would be nice. Family fall photo session with Ashley Hoyle Photography
Married 7/10/10
Wedding Planning Bio - Updated 6/13/2010
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Re: Father-daugther dance
I am fairly close to my dad as an adult, but we had a very strained relationship growing up and we've never had a mushy kind of relationship. I could never dance to something like Butterfly Kisses; it would be so wrong. I plan to do one song w/ me and dad, FI and mom at same time, and cut it short if it gets akward. I also like Stand By Me, Lean On Me, I'll Be There, I Hope You Dance, or Just The Way You Are. The only ones FI likes is I'll Be There or Just The Way You Are.
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http://www.a-weddingday.com/ultimateweddingmusic/fatherdaughterdance.html
http://offbeatbride.com/2007/06/non-sappy-fatherdaughter-dance-songs
You could also do an instrumental version of a song, so you don't have to even worry about lyrics.
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I am in the same boat. We dont get along that well......he has been on again off again my whole life. I really love my little girl by tim mcgraw. But when I hear it iit is the relationship I always wanted and he so doesnt deserve it. So i think i have settle on heartlands I loved her first. I was his little girl as a little girl so it is okay for us but still I will not be crying or emotionly attached to the song. Another song i thought about was you are the sunshine of my life by stevie wonder. Hang in there youll find something
I'm sorry you're having a rough time of it. I still haven't figured out a first dance song for FI and I! Not like he's helping matters.... grr!
I hope you guys come to a decision that makes you both happy. Good luck!
I think we are using "I hope you dance" - by Le Ann Womack
It's a song I always love and it is appropriate.
It is a little sappy, it probably will make me cry at my wedding but I don't think you have to be super close with your dad to use it.
If it helps you feel any better, my dad, very seriously, said he wanted to dance to Billy Idol "White Wedding" with me.
Yeah, no.
I hinted to my mom the other day that I want to dance with my dad to Louis Armstrong, "What a Wonderful World".
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I love the twist idea!