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NWR: What made you know
When did you know that your FI was the one? What moment made you realize that you wanted to spend your life with him?
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He didn't realize it until several months later after we had broken up for a few months. He noticed I was still supporting him and I was still there for him during a very difficult time in his life. It meant a lot to him since he had no support from anywhere else. The night we got back together was the night he told me he loved me and 2 months later we were looking at rings.
after about a month of dating exclusively i started to know he was "the one" but the moment that really cemented everything for me and that erased any doubt i had was when we were on vacation in colorado visiting his family i had a REALLY bad bicycle accident. (had to have my shoulder blade and collar bone reconstructed with plates nd screws) his reaction and the way he handled everything made me know with 100% certainty that this was the man i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. he took such good care of me and went to extremes that i don't think most people would just to make sure i was comfortable and taken care of.
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I don't know if there was an exact moment but I knew that I loved him the first night we hung out together. He was with someone else at the time but it ended and here we are!
[QUOTE]He was the only guy that I felt was my best friend as well as my boyfriend.
Posted by candice245[/QUOTE]
This was a big part of it --plus, the FI and I were firends before we started dating. Additionally, he always knew how to make me laugh even when I was feeling down. He just "gets me" and that's how I knew.
[QUOTE]I don't think there was a definitive moment. I think I just realized that I could never be WITHOUT this man in my life. :)
Posted by gpapale1[/QUOTE]
<div>Ditto!</div>
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It's odd, because like some of you, there wasn't a definitive moment. I just knew. From very early on, actually.
We met on Halloween, and my 30th birthday was less than a month later. My girlfriends and I had a trip planned to Atlantic City to celebrate. During those few weeks, we dated (not labeled exclusively, but neither of us were seeing anyone else) and I remember feeling like this was my 'last hurrah' as a single woman... that after this trip I wouldn't be single again, ever.
Sure enough, he invited me to the party he was having on the night I came back, and I met all of his friends that night. It was also the first night I stayed the night at his house, and I remember feeling very comfortable there. He and I spent all weekend together and it just felt natural.
So I guess you could say I knew we'd be married someday before we were even dating exclusively, haha.
We kind of helped each other through our subsequent divorces. I went on a couple of coffee dates with random guys. I tried online dating (not for me!). Went on one blind date. And, had a lunch date with a guy I knew from my teenage years. A few months later, I realized that when I'd go out for coffee or dates with these other guys, I would spend the whole time thinking about FI.
Apparently felt the same way.
We both confided in a mutual friend the feelings we were having and she (without letting it slip that she knew anything) told him to pursue it.
So, a little over a year after his divorce and a couple of years after mine - we went on our first date.
I knew before our first date that I didn't want to ever go a day without him being in my life in some capacity. He's my best friend. He has seen me through some of the hardest times in my life and has been there for some of the most joyous. Even though he has me, he's still chasing me. We knew pretty quickly that we wanted to get married. But, we still decided to take it slow just to make sure the people around us knew. I can't imagine not having him in my life. He is an incredible, amazing man! I get butterflies in my stomach just thinking about him.
Our relationship was built from the ground up! Knowing each other before there was romantic interest, we were both completely ourselves from the get go. We didn't have to do anything out of the ordinary to impress each other.
He loves me just as I am.
All that to say, there wasn't a defining moment, but I just knew that I didn't want to spend one day without him.
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About a month after we started dating, I found out I was going to be on a 2.5 month engagement for my job in Tampa, FL. So I flew back an forth on the weekends to see come home/see him. I began to notice after a couple of weeks that when I left, I physically felt like part of me was still at home - that's when I knew
I wasn't looking to be in a relationship with anyone at the time, having just gotten out of a 4 year relationship, but of course things happen when you least expect them too. After being pressured by another associate, FI finally asked me out
However, for my 24th birthday FI took me to my first Red Wings game (I am a huge hockey nut!) and during the National Anthem, I knew that he was the one for me! Listening to that song, standing next to a man so selfless that he would risk giving up his life to ensure the freedom of all those around me was so overwhelming. To this day, I tear up whenever I hear the National Anthem as it has such a special meaning to me. From that day on I knew that I would one day marry him!
I knew immediately after we started dating that our relationship was special. But I think I KNEW our sophmore year of college- a year and a half into the relationship. We lived 4 hours apart for 4 years-- it made fighting difficult because we couldn't just kiss and make up. We had been fighting A LOT. Daily. We got to a point where we had to decide if we wanted to make it work or call it quits. We went the weekend without talking. A whole 2 days. It was horrible. We talked that Sunday night for HOURS. I never wanted to feel that way again. I knew that no matter what happened, we could get through it together. We still have our spats, but there is ZERO doubt that he is the one for me!
The date then moved to a kegger house party at a kid's house I knew growing up as it was across the street from my childhood home. After about 20 announcements of his deep love for me, bad date loudly announced " We call the bed, we'll totally need it!"
I, embarrased excused myself to the "bathroom" and bolted for the basement to leave out of the back door. I got downstairs and started going through my phone for a ride, when in walks in Fi. He started talking to me like we were friends forever, and made me feel really comfortable. He told hilarious dirty and innapropriate jokes tot ry and get me to smile as I was not in the best of moods. He walked out of the glass sliding door to have a ciggarette and proceeded to drop his pants, press his cheeks on the glass, and dance. That was my moment. He said that was his test. If I laughed I was a cool chick. If I grimaced, no deal. I laughed the rest of the night. We stayed up until about 5 am talking and he drove me home the next morning. He didnt call me for a few days... Dissapointed, I called him and said come get me at 7pm tonight for dinner, to which he replied Im glad you called, I was too nervous and okay. Three months later we moved in together. Three years later bought a house and 4 years later got engaged. I have a friend Ive known since 3, and that cant touch the friendship we have. Best and closest friends first, couple second!