WPBP of the day

stina93446 · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what?

How involved is/was he during wedding planning?

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH?

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him?

baystateapple · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? Him making decisions about things that affect both of us without consulting me.

How involved is/was he during wedding planning? Barely. Mainly about food-related things, lol.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? It's about 50/50

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? No.

jagore08 · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what?

It's been a while but it was probably about his schedule. He's his own boss so he makes his schedule and he's choosing to be awake until 5-6 AM. Drives me crazy.

How involved is/was he during wedding planning?

He chose our photographer, went to a couple of vendor meetings, and paid for everything. I don't think I could have asked for more.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH?

Probably me.

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him?

He knows better than to expect sex when I'm upset with him.

suz62984 · September 2010

THe last time you and FI got in a fight it was about?sex (oddly enough this is the theme today. Stina, I honestly think you know what i'm thinking when you make the WPBP everyday!)

How involved is he during wedding planning? He's just so so. He had things that he wanted so we incorporated those. He knows i'm a little control freak though so he just stood back but offered up all kinds of help if I ever needed it. He always gave his opinion and even helped pick the colors.

Who initiates sex more? Me but we have very different schedules because of work so it seldom goes anywhere when I initiate it.

Have you ever withheld sex? No...I just figure sex is something you are supposed to enjoy doing with your SO and is not to be used as a bargaining chip.

AdeleDazeem · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? A silly fight? Last night. It was about work hours of his secretaries.

How involved is/was he during wedding planning? Mildly. He certainly has opinions, shares them, and we decide what to do together. I typically get in touch with the right people, but if it involves the phone, it's all him.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? I'd say we are even. We both know when it's time.

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? Probably, although I can't think of a time off hand...

emilyinchile · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? Probably his schedule. He hadn't realized that him choosing to play handball and get home at 10:30 every night meant that as a result I had more responsibilities in order to support him.

How involved is/was he during wedding planning? As involved as I wanted him to be, which means he was there for final decisions and did his specific tasks.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? He does.

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? Not specifically as a punishment, but if I'm mad I'm not exactly in the mood.

frogurt814 · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? Last night. I was really tired and already asleep, and he woke me up to ask if I'd brought any water upstairs with me before bed. I said "no, do you want me to go get some?" and he was like well, I don't know, I could do without it. So I said ok. Then a few minutes later he was like "but it would be nice to have it." I was like YES OR NO? Just tell me if you want the water and I'll go get it! It was silly to get mad about, but I was tired, and I just wanted a straight answer!

How involved is/was he during wedding planning? He was more involved than I thought he would be. We made every decision mutually. Most of it was my ideas, but I'd run it by him and he'd have some suggestions and then we'd come to an agreement.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? DH

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? No, not really. It's more like "I'm mad at you so I don't feel like having sex right now" instead of just doing it out of spite or to punish him or something. That seems silly.

jaimed99 · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? Last night, and it was one of those "everything comes out" sort of fights...we have them about once a month just to clear the air hahaha
How involved is/was he during wedding planning? At this point we're not doing much, but he's as involved as he can be
Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? Me, definitely...I WISH he would more...
Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? It's not much of a punishment when he doesn't care about it too much...he baffles me at times...what man doesn't want laid, like, constantly? LOL

suz62984 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wpbp-of-day-222?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:623b5b8b-2df8-4778-9831-c8880b1f3f64Post:b0b469e0-2eee-484c-84ad-d0a9552fb213">Re: WPBP of the day</a>:
[QUOTE]Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? It's not much of a punishment when he doesn't care about it too much...he baffles me at times...what man doesn't want laid, like, constantly? LOL
Posted by jaimed99[/QUOTE]

This may be TMI but my FI is kind of like this too and it is so frustrating some times. It took some getting used to because you grow up thinking that "all guys only want sex" and then your FI turns you down? I had to learn that it wasn't necessarily me...he had just worked a 12 hour day, etc. haha

Licia&Wayne · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? It's been awhile. I think the last one we got into was over visiting family. We generally say yes too much, get strung out between a bunch of family members and while we're making everyone else happy, we're at each other's throats.

How involved is/was he during wedding planning? He's pretty involved. We made all of the big decisions together, and he's been really helpful with the details as well.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? I think we're pretty equal.

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? Nope.

megk8oz · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? I really don't remember ... but I'm willing to bet one or both of us was hungry, since it's pretty hard for either of us to get mad about something otherwise.

How involved is/was he during wedding planning? We picked a venue that did like 90% of the work for us (Which was a decision we had equal input on) ... so even I wasn't that involved in planning, lol. But for the little we had to do on our own, I'd say it was a 50/50 split.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? He does

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? Eh ... I guess kind of. I'm not really "seduce-able" when I'm pissed off, so while I'm not doing it on purpose, he isn't getting any if I'm mad.

jaimed99 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wpbp-of-day-222?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:623b5b8b-2df8-4778-9831-c8880b1f3f64Post:63908bfd-515e-4cf0-a04d-61585472a3a7">Re: WPBP of the day</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WPBP of the day : This may be TMI but my FI is kind of like this too and it is so frustrating some times. It took some getting used to because you grow up thinking that "all guys only want sex" and then your FI turns you down? I had to learn that it wasn't necessarily me...he had just worked a 12 hour day, etc. haha
Posted by suz62984[/QUOTE]

<div>It takes alot for me to say TMI...hahaha...but in any case, I feel better knowing that I'm not alone. He does work all day, etc, and with two kids, we're tired alot, so I understand that...but he's told me, straight up, that it "isn't as important to me as it is to you" and that sort of hurts my feelings...makes me feel a bit unwanted, ya know? :( I'm a physical person...I'm very touchy-feely and physically affectionate with friends, etc, so that closeness is just something that makes me happy :)</div>

HeatherSkye06 · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? We rarely fight or argue, but sometimes DH can be super forgetful. And when several days go by and important things still go undone, I start to nag...he gets defensive and we fight. But we are usually laughing together within the hour.

How involved is/was he during wedding planning? He made it clear from the start that he wanted to be very involved from the start. I tried to split things up and give him some of the things that interested him like the band/DJ, transportation, photographer. He handled those while I focused on the details, colors, floral. But we always helped each other when needed and offered opinions on each of our responsibilities. And there were some things we did together.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? About equal, maybe him slightly more.

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? No, it seems childish to purposely do this. But, there are times we have fought that either one of us or both of us were not in the mood. Other times, it has enhanced emotions - and makeup sex is great!

aerinpegadrak · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? Hmm. It wasn't really a fight, but I know I annoyed him yesterday when I was dithering about choosing a place for him to meet me for lunch, because I didn't realize that he was waiting in his work truck, which hit about 150 degrees inside yesterday. But we're always very quick to apologize when we screw up, so we don't really fight.

How involved is/was he during wedding planning? He was pretty heavily involved, actually. The color scheme was his idea, he was in charge of the menu, and he went with me on all the little last minute shopping trips that led up to the wedding. As far as details went, I'd basically narrow them down and either run them by him for his approval or let him make the final decision.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? Probably more me, but I tend to be more subtle about it. When DH initiates sex, he's quite... insistent.

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? I like sex too much to run a Lysistrata Gambit. The closest I ever came was cutting him off from access to my boobs (I forget why, but I don't think I was mad), but we only lasted about an hour.

SSaltzman87 · September 2010

The last time you got in a fight with DH/FI, it was about what? My wanting to save up money for our wedding ASAP and FI thinking we have more than enough time to save up money (planning on having said wedding in late 2012).

How involved is/was he during wedding planning? He's definitely involved, but doesn't have as many opinions about it as I do.

Who initiates sex more: you or FI/DH? FI....definitely!

Have you ever withheld sex because you were mad at him? Nah, wouldn't even think about it.

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