I suppose this is more of a question for the OMH's, however I would like to see how many people have heard of this and will or won't abide by it.
My mom heard (and read in TK Texas) that it is bad luck for the bride to walk down the aisle at the rehearsal, and is basically forbidding me to do it. I am not superstitious at all, and I really feel like I should practice walking it with my dad since we will both be awkward on the wedding day.
OMH's--have you heard of this? Did you have a stand-in or did you risk wedded bliss and walk the aisle anyway?
Non-marrieds--What do you plan to do?
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Re: 'Stand-in Bride' for the rehearsal?
I'm like you, I am not superstious. I don't think if you walk down the aisle in rehearsal your wedding is doomed lol!! If it fails it's probably a deeper issue.
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I wanted to be able to focus on Matt as I walked down the aisle and not on my fears I had before the rehearsal.
I think if you arent worried then give in to your mom but if you are worried at all I would go ahead and do it because it helped immensely for me.
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For one, it brought me some of the best moments. At my rehearsal, we first ran through everything up at the altar, then turned around and walked in, and we ran through it again. I honestly don't remember that "practice" walk up the isle. I remember where I had to stand to wait, and walking up to meet my dad, and giggling with my dad, and trying to imagine doing that for real the next day. I wouldn't trade those few giggly "practice" moments with my dad for anything -- there's no way I'd have let a "stand-in" have that special moment with my dad.
And it was also practical to do the practice myself. During the rehearsal -- there was a ton of instructions I needed! When to do this or that.
Besides, we were married in a church, and a strict one at that. I can just imagine if I'd told him the stand-in idea, because I wanted to get the "visual layout" of everything from behind. He'd never have let me get away with that. He kept telling us that it was a religious sacrament, and that was where the focus should be. Not on superstitions or the aesthetics.
Bottom line, if it's what you want to do, then it's fine. But if you want to do it yourself, try to explain to your mom why you do. It's silly to think something like that would jinx the marraige. And besides, that practice walk down the isle is such a minor, unimportant part of the rehearsal -- focus on the actual rehearsal and try to take it in.
[QUOTE]Not going to lie -- I really don't like this idea. For many reasons. For one, it brought me some of the best moments. At my rehearsal, we first ran through everything up at the altar, then turned around and walked in, and we ran through it again. I honestly don't remember that "practice" walk up the isle. I remember where I had to stand to wait, and walking up to meet my dad, and giggling with my dad, and trying to imagine doing that for real the next day. I wouldn't trade those few giggly "practice" moments with my dad for anything -- there's no way I'd have let a "stand-in" have that special moment with my dad. And it was also practical to do the practice myself. During the rehearsal -- there was a ton of instructions I needed! When to do this or that. Besides, we were married in a church, and a strict one at that. I can just imagine if I'd told him the stand-in idea, because I wanted to get the "visual layout" of everything from behind. He'd never have let me get away with that. <strong>He kept telling us that it was a religious sacrament, and that was where the focus should be. Not on superstitions or the aesthetics.</strong> Bottom line, if it's what you want to do, then it's fine. But if you want to do it yourself, try to explain to your mom why you do. It's silly to think something like that would jinx the marraige. And besides, that practice walk down the isle is such a minor, unimportant part of the rehearsal -- focus on the actual rehearsal and try to take it in.
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THIS. In fact, FI and I toyed with the idea of walking down the aisle together in the processional, because we are participating in this sacrament together (also the priest should be the last one in). In the end we decided to let my dad walk me down more as a sign of honor for him.
But yeah, I've never heard of a stand-in. And I practice my "walk" every Sunday at mass. :p
That's right up there with broken mirrors and black cats crossing your path.
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[QUOTE]Honestly? I think superstitions are ridiculous. Bad luck--really? It never occurred me not to walk down during the rehearsal. That is what a rehearsal is for. That's right up there with broken mirrors and black cats crossing your path.
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Ditto. My MoH even made me a bouquet out of my shower bows to carry down the aisle during the rehearsal.... which was supposed to be good luck, ironically.
I haven't been struck by lightning or anything yet. :)
I say do what you feel like you should do. It's your rehearsal!
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[QUOTE]Honestly? I think superstitions are ridiculous. Bad luck--really? It never occurred me not to walk down during the rehearsal. That is what a rehearsal is for. That's right up there with broken mirrors and black cats crossing your path.
Posted by stephiehall[/QUOTE]
ITA. I have never heard of this at all, but then again we don't have cable and I don't watch a lot of wedding shows, nor have we been to many weddings. But this seems really silly. Isn't the point of rehearsal for everyone to...rehearse? I think if you want to practice for sanity's sake you should, and if you want to stand back and watch to see how it all looks together, that's fine too. But to make a decision based on a superstition is not the way to go. I'm sure there are PLENTY of divorced people who did not see each other before they walked down the aisle... Like PP said, if the marriage fails, its a much deeper issue. :)
[QUOTE]So glad this is one you won't have to battle for. :D
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I think this may be the only time I am taking advantage of my DOC to be the bearer of bad news for mama.
Buuuhhhh just let me get married, woman!