Ceremony guests vs Reception guests

Re: Ceremony guests vs Reception guests

• DG1 member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  
  I would skip inviting the church people, honestly.  Otherwise, you're going to have to issue special invites to them or something explicitly stating, "To keep our reception more intimate, we are limiting our reception guest list to family and very close friends. We hope you will be able to join us for our vows only."
  
  Which, let's be frank, is really tacky.  So just skip it.

  
  

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• baconsmom member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  Don't do this, it's rude. 

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_ceremony-guests-vs-reception-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:70c656e5-ec79-4520-8e37-be9d51dc0ecbPost:3fbc604b-c6fb-4e46-9f25-741084f778a8">Ceremony guests vs Reception guests</a>:
  [QUOTE]Here's my dilemma:  I am inviting a bunch of people from my church to my wedding ceremony but don't want them at the reception for many reasons; money for one and antoher being I feel as though I would have to act a certain way. I'm renting a house with property to have both the ceremony and the reception at.  <strong>How do I make it clear to the church people, without being rude, that they need to leave after the ceremony takes place. </strong>I'm going to have a small "cocktail hour" with heavy appetizers after the ceremony for the church people but I still feel like they might be confused as to what they were invited to.  I'm afraid some will go to the reception only to find no place setting with their name on it and not enough food for them!!  Eekk...help!
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  You can't.

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• 6fsn member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  No matter what you do this is rude.

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• kaykay1126 member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  I think it's a bad idea. I personally would be a little offended if I was only invited to the ceremony. I wouldn't even go if that were the case. You have to think that these people took time out of their day (and some may have traveled) for your event and you say they can only come to the boring part?

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• zsazsa-stl member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  Is it common in your church to do it this way?  It is rude in a lot of circles but in others it in the norm. 
  
  We invited our church to the ceremony only. Several people in the church encouraged me to do that,  told me that this was fine and had been done many times before.  One person even told me that according to old fashioned rules of etiquette, any member of the church is welcome at any even occurring within the church so NOT inviting everyone would be rude but I think that went out the window a long time ago.
  
  We did a receiving line as people left the church so that we were able to greet and thank the guests that we wouldn't see again at the reception.  But I don't know how in the heck you would do it if everything is at the same location.  If you do end up doing it, be VERY clear (like what DG wrote) that it is a ceremony only thing.  It will embarass you and the church guests if they don't understand that.

  

  I just a friendly gal looking for options.

  

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