Shower?

AngB1230 · May 2012

I am not quite sure on the subjects of bachlorette parties and bridal showers
Do I need to have a shower if I am asking for gifts of money only?

smartlypretty · May 2012

Well, you can't specify that you want a certain kind of gift. Gifts are always optional and asking for money is just the same as asking for gifts which is rude. You should never write this on invitations or such. Now, with that said, you can spread by word of mouth that you are saving up for somehting like a downpayment and everyone would get the hint. Don't make a registry, either. You can't have a shower beause showers are physical-gift giving situations. A batchlorette party is different- at least in my circle those are not gift giving situations. It's mostly just a group of your girl friends throwing you a night out. The most I have brought to these are a piece of liengerie or something like that.

gabriel0915 · May 2012

You certainly don't have to have a shower but if you should, like PP said, you can't ask for money. Should you do a registry, which, I think, we would mostly agree you should do, you can put the link on your invites. Some people really don't approve of giving money as gift and want to buy you something. Even if it's only a few things, it's still a nice gesture to have. If it's not your thing it's ok. A bach party, like PP said, is just a party for some friends. I only have about 10 girls coming to mine but 30 on my shower list.

AngB1230 · May 2012

thanks guys...ya i was just wondering because me and FH have everything we already need as far as house goes...we have been living together for over 5 yrs

QueerFemme · May 2012

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[QUOTE]thanks guys...ya i was just wondering because me and FH have everything we already need as far as house goes...we have been living together for over 5 yrs
Posted by AngB1230[/QUOTE]

In that case, just register for a few small things (upgraded towels, sheets, etc.). People will get the hint and give you cash. Or have no registry at all. In that case, people will just choose a gift for you or give you cash/gift cards. If you don't like the gift, return it. But, don't ask for cash.

And, in my opinion, don't have a shower. Showers are for physical gifts. You can still have a girls' night out/bachelorette party. But, that is not a gift giving event.

AngB1230 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shower? : In that case, just register for a few small things (upgraded towels, sheets, etc.). People will get the hint and give you cash. Or have no registry at all. In that case, people will just choose a gift for you or give you cash/gift cards. If you don't like the gift, return it. But, don't ask for cash. And, in my opinion, don't have a shower. Showers are for physical gifts. You can still have a girls' night out/bachelorette party. But, that is not a gift giving event.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

makes sense..thanks alot!

smartlypretty · May 2012

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[QUOTE]thanks guys...ya i was just wondering because me and FH have everything we already need as far as house goes...we have been living together for over 5 yrs
Posted by AngB1230[/QUOTE]

<div>Are you *sure* there's nothing you want to register for? What about one of those Keiregs coffee things? How's your pots and pans? What about some Caphalon pieces? Some new sheets or towels- they always wear out!</div><div>
</div><div>But yeah, if you don't register people will get the hint and bring cash to the wedding. No biggie.</div>

jessa1228 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shower? :But yeah, if you don't register people will get the hint and bring cash to the wedding. No biggie.
Posted by smartlypretty[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly. And if you don't register, there's no need for a shower. And if someone wants to throw you one, you either decline or register for a few small things.</div>

bridezillatobe2009 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I am not quite sure on the subjects of bachlorette parties and bridal showers Do I need to have a shower if<strong> I am asking for gifts of money only</strong>?
Posted by AngB1230[/QUOTE]

You never, ever ASK for, or specify any type of gift and you most certianly DO NOT host your own shower.

bridezillatobe2009 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]thanks guys...ya i was just wondering because me and FH have everything we already need as far as house goes...we have been living together for over 5 yrs
Posted by AngB1230[/QUOTE]

FI and I have lived together for almost 4 years, and we have 2 regestries. After 4 years it's time for new towels and bedding and I HATE our flatwear and everyday china. Also, the toaster and pots and pans are hand me downs that need to be replaced.

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