Hi all!
My fiance and I have been charting and learning Creighton for about six months now. We're getting married in 11 days, and it's pretty clear that I will be in my fertile phase on our wedding night and most likely the first half of our honeymoon.
It's hard not to be disappointed about that, because we have waited so long. Married ladies, if you had the same experience, would you just remind me that it's going to be okay, we have our whole lives to be together, etc. etc? Because right now, it's just bumming me out

Thanks!
Re: NFP Reassurance, please
[QUOTE]Hi all! My fiance and I have been charting and learning Creighton for about six months now. We're getting married in 11 days, and it's pretty clear that I will be in my fertile phase on our wedding night and most likely the first half of our honeymoon. It's hard not to be disappointed about that, because we have waited so long. Married ladies, if you had the same experience, would you just remind me that it's going to be okay, we have our whole lives to be together, etc. etc? Because right now, it's just bumming me out :( Thanks!
Posted by mattylovesmilly[/QUOTE]
<div>We had to wait until the week after our honeymoon for the same reason! Wedding week stress certainly threw off my cycle in a major way... We'd already been dating about 4 years by the time we were married and had both waited up until that point as well. It's ok!!! It is very true that you have the rest of your lives together :) As Riss said... you really are dead tired on your wedding night and we were ok with postponing that... but abstaining the whole honeymoon and following weekend was a bit more frustrating. Try not to worry about it too much and hang in there... you're almost married!!!</div>
Was it hard? Yes. Was it worth waiting? Also yes. The time for a baby wasn't right for us for a variety of reasons. Do we even think about any of that now? Not at all. H and I recently celebrated our anniversary, and we shared lots of memories from the day of our wedding -- having to wait another few days did not even factor into the conversation.
It is probably not the last time you are going to have to make a difficult decision to abstain. Think of it as your first time to really focus on the SPICE in your married relationship. It really will work itself out.
[QUOTE]Also, assuming you're both virgins, there's a lot else you can do besides sex. I'm sure most people don't have a problem with it, but you don't HAVE to go from, like, zero to 60 in 5 minutes... There's nothing wrong with taking that time to get used to each other's bodies in ways that weren't ok before marriage.
Posted by lalaith50[/QUOTE]
This exactly.
I'm thinking of a good massage or a nice couples bubble bath. :)
Of course, this may make it even harder to abstain for some couples.
Regardless, you'll be married! Enjoy that!
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