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April 2012 Weddings
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STRESSSSS
I am so stressed out. I should be enjoying this whole experience, but instead I am freaking. OUT. We're also apartment hunting and it's hard out there. It's getting frustrating that every place we fall in love with disappears so quickly. Having to deal with both planning and searching at the same time is giving me anxiety. FI keeps reminding me I need to slow down and do one thing at a time but I'm having a hard time doing that. Am I alone out here? Can anyone relate?
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Re: STRESSSSS
I can relate too..wedding day is getting close and now i have to buy a new car
so mad about that! i just dont want to spend any more money after this wedding.
One thing at a time, right?
I'm so glad i came across this post and realize that i am not the only one. I've been freaking out too and doing so much of the planning stuff every single weekend. Meeting with vendors and Church officials, typing up the readings, printing out our map cards, looking for parent gifts, assembling the invitations, finishing making the last minute stuff all at once, that the stress keeps piling on. Not to mention working a full time hectic and stressful job with people around me getting laid off, while i'm forking out so much money on the wedding expenses. My doctor said that i am going to have anxiety and panic attacks if i dont slow down. So i've decided to take a break this week, at least 1 week from not doing stuff or mentioning anything wedding related. I planned a happy hour night out with friends and this weekendmy FI and i are going to a winery and a hiking trip. I think getting outdoors and doing some other activities other than wedding planning will help me relax and gain my sanity back. Might even help rejuvenate my excitement with the planning.
[QUOTE]I am so stressed out. I should be enjoying this whole experience, but instead I am freaking. OUT. We're also apartment hunting and it's hard out there. It's getting frustrating that every place we fall in love with disappears so quickly. Having to deal with both planning and searching at the same time is giving me anxiety. FI keeps reminding me I need to slow down and do one thing at a time but I'm having a hard time doing that. Am I alone out here? Can anyone relate?
Posted by faerylvr27[/QUOTE]
YES YES YES YEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSS! I feel you so much. This will be the first time I'm moving out & we both need to find an apartment for us within the next 2 weeks. My FI has no credit, so we have the arduous task of finding a place that will let him live there even if the lease is only under me. Then I'll move in after we're married.<div>
</div><div>Everywhere is either too expensive, too small, disgusting, or won't lease to us. It has been so frustrating. I spent the last 2 weekends calling, visiting & searching for apartments. </div><div>
</div><div>We applied to ONE that let us. They just called us back today & the super said he really feels that they might discriminate against us since my FI doesn't have credit, so I should go back in & fill out the appl again with just my info. I was so scared when I saw his call, I was shaking. I really hope this works. Due to our job situations & locations, there aren't a lot of towns we can look for. </div><div>
</div><div>Apartment hunting is so not fun. Plus, then the next day my great uncle passes away and two of my FI's childhood friends pass (separately, of course). Balancing that with my 2 jobs & still coordinating vendors is insane.</div><div>
</div><div>This part needs to be over fast! </div>
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To add to it, FI is asking when are you going to do this, that etc for wedding items. I know that I haven't been the most on top of it, but I know it will get done and he is just adding to the stress.
[QUOTE]In Response to STRESSSSS : YES YES YES YEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSS! I feel you so much. This will be the first time I'm moving out & we both need to find an apartment for us within the next 2 weeks. <strong>My FI has no credit, so we have the arduous task of finding a place that will let him live there even if the lease is only under me</strong>. Then I'll move in after we're married. Everywhere is either too expensive, too small, disgusting, or won't lease to us. It has been so frustrating. I spent the last 2 weekends calling, visiting & searching for apartments. We applied to ONE that let us. They just called us back today & the super said he really feels that they might discriminate against us since my FI doesn't have credit, so I should go back in & fill out the appl again with just my info. I was so scared when I saw his call, I was shaking. I really hope this works. Due to our job situations & locations, there aren't a lot of towns we can look for. Apartment hunting is so not fun. Plus, then the next day my great uncle passes away and two of my FI's childhood friends pass (separately, of course). Balancing that with my 2 jobs & still coordinating vendors is insane. This part needs to be over fast!
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]
this is my life. my credit isn't great either, but i'm rebuilding and i have the income to pay the rent, but all these landlords see is a FICO score. it's very discouraging. i'm looking in a select area as well due to the shorter commute and great schools for my kids, but this is getting to be extremely frustrating. at least one of the realtors im working with is willing to work with me and try to pull as many strings as possible. *fingers and toes crossed* for both of us.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: STRESSSSS : this is my life. my credit isn't great either, but i'm rebuilding and i have the income to pay the rent, but all these landlords see is a FICO score. it's very discouraging. i'm looking in a select area as well due to the shorter commute and great schools for my kids, but this is getting to be extremely frustrating. at least one of the realtors im working with is willing to work with me and try to pull as many strings as possible. *fingers and toes crossed* for both of us.
Posted by faerylvr27[/QUOTE]
I totally understand. Fortunately for me, I have very good credit and enough income to afford the apartment we're looking at. When you add in his income, we can afford a much more expensive place, but since we can't put him on there, we can only go by me. <div>
</div><div>It really is frustrating. My BM's parents have atrocious credit & have actually managed to ruin her's too (she's 25 like me). She tells me, oh, don't worry...they always find an apartment! Yeah, but is it in an area they want to be in?? Are they paying what the place is worth, or are they being overcharged? </div><div>
</div><div>We're in the NYC metro area, so rent is insane. If we could move even 20-30 min south, closer to my job, we'd easily save $3-400 a month on rent. Unfortunately, no can do. Just got to suck it up for now. </div><div>
</div><div>Gotta look for the light at the end of the tunnel!!</div>
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Wedding planning is only as stressful as I make it…and I refuse to be stressed out over it. I suggest everybody watch “bridezilla” and realize just how ridiculous we can get.
[QUOTE]I never post on this board.... But, to be completely honest, wedding planning is the LEAST stressful thing I have going on right now. My FI is in the Navy and is stationed 1200 miles away. Everything in his job is completely up in the air…of course I can’t talk details on a public forum but…let’s just say he will be leaving for several weeks RIGHT after we get married. SO in the “honeymoon” time we have to run around getting everything squared away with the Navy so I can get health care and what not. Not to mention having to leave my wonderful job here and find a job out there, Finding an apartment, and moving out there BY MY SELF. Wedding planning is only as stressful as I make it…and I refuse to be stressed out over it. I suggest everybody watch “bridezilla” and realize just how ridiculous we can get.
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<div>I'm so sorry to hear that about your FI! Props and kudos to you. My MOH is a military bride w/ her FI in Afghanistan, and I don't know how she does it. </div><div>
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Amanda - I'm sorry that your FI's job in the military gives you a lot of stress and I can't imagine what that's like. That said, no one here was being a bridezilla by venting about their life stresses. To me, your post sounds kinda judgy, like your problems are worse than everyone's. I'm sure you didn't mean it that way.
[QUOTE]I think anytime you add additional responsibilities to what you are already doing, it gets stressful. Personally, I'm defending my PhD dissertation 9 days before the wedding. Also trying to find a job in the city FI lives in for post-graduation, continue my 2nd job and plan this wedding. It's a lot, but I'm managing. Amanda - I'm sorry that your FI's job in the military gives you a lot of stress and I can't imagine what that's like. That said, no one here was being a bridezilla by venting about their life stresses. <strong>To me, your post sounds kinda judgy, like your problems are worse than everyone's. I'm sure you didn't mean it that way.</strong>
Posted by mdphd[/QUOTE]
Yeah, it did sound judgy. I think the common denominator between most of the posts on here is how stressful wedding planning has been BECAUSE of the other things. If we all got to sit back & the only thing we had to worry about was planning our wedding & absolutely nothing else...I don't think there'd be much to talk about on here.<div>
</div><div>Clearly, the problem is fitting that in along with all of the other responsibilities that pile up & become more intense surrounding a marriage. Really, the only ladies I've seen who aren't stressing...have a planner.</div>
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[QUOTE]I think anytime you add additional responsibilities to what you are already doing, it gets stressful. Personally, I'm defending my PhD dissertation 9 days before the wedding. Also trying to find a job in the city FI lives in for post-graduation, continue my 2nd job and plan this wedding. It's a lot, but I'm managing. Amanda - I'm sorry that your FI's job in the military gives you a lot of stress and I can't imagine what that's like. <strong>That said, no one here was being a bridezilla by venting about their life stresses. To me, your post sounds kinda judgy, like your problems are worse than everyone's. I'm sure you didn't mean it that way.</strong>
Posted by mdphd[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I picked up on that too, but I was giving her the benefit of the doubt.
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