I called my parents this morning to discuss it with them. FI & I are mostly paying for the wedding, but my parents are making a considerable contribution. ($3,000) Plus, it is at their house.
They were both really peeved. My dad made a good point about venue. He said if we move it to August doing it outside is just a horrible idea. Horrible. He can't afford to pay for an alternate venue. I said we are maxed out as it is. So he said that if FI's mom wants to pay for a venue then we can move it. So, I talked to FI. He said he didn't have time to call her now, but I could text her. This is what I sent:
"Hey so I just talked to my parents about changing the date. They agree that an outdoor wedding in August is a major gamble. So we would have to change the venue. The only problem with that is money. Before we decided to do it at my parent's house the cheapest place I found was $2,500. We can't afford that nor can my parents. I could keep looking for a cheaper place, but without money that's kind of pointless. I'm not sure of a solution, but we will work on it."
I lied. I totally know a solution. She can pay, but it isn't my place to ask his mom for money. Her response was this:
"Thank you...I am sorry. If I can help with the cost I will...I probably could not do the 2500 by myself...but I could probably give you guys at least 800...a little at a time...we will see please let me know. I don't want this to be a huge pain for you & I am sorry."
Oh no. Changing my wedding 5 months out is no big deal. None at all. *rolls eyes*
I did find a cheaper place. We are going to talk about it tonight. We have to decide tonight though because tomorrow is when I'm signing contracts with like 4 vendors. If only she had waited until next week. Then I could just say sorry no can do. We're under contract. Ugh.
FI has already told her the invitations are the only thing that we have paid for. He also told her they weren't printed yet. Plus, he's already told them all individually that we are changing the date.
Some of you were wondering why they haven't seen each other in three years. The reason is that FI moved from Washington to Oklahoma to find a job. He was unemployed in Washington and had no prospects. Only in the past two years has he had steady income. Up until recently he has not had money to go see them, and now all our money is going towards the wedding. His family has not come here b/c the two older children still live with their mom. They are 23 and 20. She still supports them, and since she is supporting two full grown kids and one little kid on her own she can't afford to come see FI.
FSIL won't have PTO because she is having a baby in March and will have used it all for her maternity leave. I may be out of line, but I still think that her excuse is crappy. I don't think it is a good idea to travel with such a young baby, but then again I don't know anything about babies.
Oh, and his sister is such a diva. Seriously. She text me after everything last night and told me her daughter would be 5 months old in August. Then asked me if I wanted her to get a matching BM dress for her baby. I said, "You realize BM's hold flowers not babies right?" She never answered...