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Meeting with the Priest, what to ask?

BTCarolusBTCarolus
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OK, my mom is going to meet with our priest in a couple of weeks. We're getting married in my parents' parish (our date is set), but I no longer live there, I have never met this priest in person, and I don't know this church's particular policies on weddings. Our home parish priest is dealing with all of the paper work and a dispensation we need. What questions do we need to clear up now?

She already will discuss:
1) cost of renting the church, his services, etc. because we need to budget
2) any rules or prohibitions the church has about music/flowers/throwing birdseed, etc. 
3) Ask if a family friend who is a church organist can serve as organist, and if we have to pay the regular organist's fee on top of his (I was in his wedding way back when as a flowergirl)
4) she is going to bring a passage we want the homily based on (I've discussed this w/ priest already, he doesn't have email so hand delivery is a must)

Are we missing any big questions?
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Re: Meeting with the Priest, what to ask?

  • mercy4mercy4
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    When we met with your priest he knew what questions to ask us and sent us a packet with important information and things to do.  They do this all year long so I think you'll be fine, unless you have questions tailored to you specifically (like the organist).
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  • saraschilling88saraschilling88
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    Ask about premarital counseling?  Find out when you need to start it, and how many sessions they require you to have, and if you get a certificate of completion? 

    We asked about that, it was important to our church!!
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  • Lobsters25Lobsters25 member
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    Expectations as far as decor.  Most churches will expect you to leave the larger flowers for mass that weekend.  Some also have preferred florists for you to use.
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  • leamideleamide
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    The church should give you a booklet of what can anc can't be used. Ask if there are any pre-cana classes you need to take and if you can take them in your current location. What kind of dresses are acceptable, aisle runner okay, is bird seed, rice okay, ask for a booklet to choose your readings and complete your cermony. Met with the organist to choose your music.
    There's a lot on information, but we have met with our priest twice now and each time he gives us some more to do. At our church they gave us a nice detailed outline of what we need to do and what is okay and what isn't okay.

    Hope that helps
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