ok so i was talking to my mother last night and she says i should not serve alcohol at the wedding due to the fact that we have some family members that get kinda crazy and go overboard when they drink (especially if it is free)
another option i thought of was since im doing a rustic vintage wedding, having a homemade bottle of wine(my hubbys grandfather owns a vineyard) at each table 6 people to a table so every one would get one glass?
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but thank you for your suggestion
Were you planning on doing top shelf?? Maybe just serve beer, wine, and a signature drink and take away the hard liquors. P.S. keep in mind bartenders should be smart enough to cut someone off if they are too intoxicated. Not that the day isn't going to be enjoyable already, but if I was in your position I wouldn't change what I want because other people do not know how to be responsibile. Thats just my opinion.
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Another option is drink tickets. All drinks are free but each guest gets a certain number of drink tickets that they have to give to the bartender to get a drink. Now, the rebels can always convince someone to give them their tickets if the other guest isn't drinking but it is a way to make people think about how much they've had and they'll have to spend some time looking for extra tickets.
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[QUOTE]I get your dilema. But, from experience, I say it can get even WORSE when there's a cash or no bar. I went to the wedding of a college friend. To save money and cut down on rowdiness, they opted for a cash bar. Problem is, they let everyone know in advance, and most people went BYOB. It was a disaster. Cops, naked people. All at a beautiful country club. I think beer and wine all night should be ok.
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<div>LOL I totally agree, cash/dry weddings can be a disaster!! I mean, not always to the point of naked people but people will know find out in advance what you're having and if your guests are the type to drink they will BYOB. Even if it's your family. Yup, I've seen <em>bottles</em> brought by family to a dry wedding. Go with your original plan and have your bartender/planners/family cut-off the rowdy people.</div>
What I'm also doing, and what I would encourage you to do as well, is to have a sit-down chat with my sister and let her know that I will have the bartenders watching her and that I will be instructing them to cut her off as soon as she starts to get out of hand. I will tell her that she is NOT allowed to get sh-faced at my wedding and that I will have no problem kicking her out if she starts her B.S. It sounds harsh, but I really and truly don't want to deal with the cops showing up at my wedding. My sister is a very, VERY mean drunk and it can get ugly quickly. So for those guests you're worried about, maybe you can just put a bug in their ear (or have another relative that they are close to help you with it) and let them know that they WILL be cut off at the first sign of trouble. Do it privately so they're not embarrassed, and do it before the wedding so they know what to expect. Maybe it will cause them to decline the invite if they don't have free reign of the bar, but at least you'll know that they know you won't put up with it.
Since you asked, we are running a tab at the bar, but we'll have 25 guets, I'm guessing, at most and none of them (aside from my sister) are big drinkers. Plus, who really gets loaded in the middle of the afternoon in a strange city when they know they still have to drive back to the hotel afterwards? *fingers crossed*
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[QUOTE]Definitely don't do a cash bar- those are pretty tacky. I'm serving just wine and beer- and we have a money limit- once we hit that limit, the alcohol is done for the evening. There is plenty of food though, and like PP said- bartenders know when to cut people off. But I would have something- you don't want to take a little social lubrication away from everyone just because a few people aren't mature!
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</div><div>Are you putting a sign saying what wine and beer is available? I am only having wine and beer to cut costs but don't know how to make it obvious so people don't keep asking bartenders for hard alcohol and getting told "no".</div>
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