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No shower host gifts

knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208 member
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HI all - 

My shower is being hosted by about 7 people at a restaurant. I plan on giving them all gifts during the rehearsal dinner thanking them for their help and support throughout the planning. However, I wasn't planning on giving a separate shower gift. Is this really a big deal? I'm on a budget and feel like it's too much to get something else too especially since there are so many hosts. I plan to write nice thank you notes. 

I mentioned to my sister getting something small like a potted plant or something and she said it was silly and that I shouldn't get anything for people. 

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  • Melissa51212Melissa51212 member
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    I have to say since this board I neve heard such a thing thing. When I was in weddings and threw a shower I was giving a gift at reheasal dinner. Now with my shower...my girls went way over and beyond and got me a very generous gift on top so I did end up getting the, little Vera Bradley ID holders which they all yelled at me for getting since they nevr heard of this practice before so I think you would be okay with a and you card and gift at the rd. :)
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  • IllusionsDepthsIllusionsDepths member
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    I would go something small and within budget. Maybe you could get like the 4 piece russell stover chocolate varieties or something that is special but wont break the bank. My MOH is pretty much planning and paying for my shower all by herself so I was thinking about getting her something special as thanks for her hard work that is a bit mre expensive. And get my mom and sister who are helping out a bit and setting it up along with her something small. And I was thinking the 4 pc boxes because they are $1 and right now there is free shipping on their site. Also, I think you can specify that you don't want the easter packaging, which is all I can find in stores right now.

    Maybe go with a mini manicure set and a nice little carrying bag. A potted plant would be cute as well. At Walgreens they used to have the lucky bamboo plants for pretty cheap as well.
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  • knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_no-shower-host-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:3d0dabb8-5881-45ec-98f5-ce0a656f4662Post:63207547-b258-4b3a-8490-f326c8f6da1a">Re: No shower host gifts</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have to say since this board I neve heard such a thing thing. When I was in weddings and threw a shower I was giving a gift at reheasal dinner. 
    Posted by Melissa51212[/QUOTE]

    <div>Me either! I've been in two weddings and it was just at the RD that's why I was feeling like an idiot for not doing this since everyone is talking about doing it. OK well I think they''ll  understand then :)</div>
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  • AurorasEnvyAurorasEnvy
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    I hadn't heard about the shower host gifts either before TK.  I'd give them all separate thank you cards (for hosting the shower, not the gift they gave you) & a box of candy after the shower.  Cheap but still thoughtful!
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  • MsAmeera25MsAmeera25 member
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    I gave my Moh a $25 gift card to her favorite restaurant, for the other 4 girls I bought them a Bath & Body work lotion put it in a gift bag with thank you card....before the knot ever shower I planned as a host I recieved something

     

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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_no-shower-host-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:3d0dabb8-5881-45ec-98f5-ce0a656f4662Post:b4f5187f-2262-4511-94db-c0436148d3a4">Re: No shower host gifts</a>:
    [QUOTE]I hadn't heard about the shower host gifts either before TK.  I'd give them all separate thank you cards (for hosting the shower, not the gift they gave you) & a box of candy after the shower.  Cheap but still thoughtful!
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    <div>This is what I would do.</div>
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  • bpphoto785bpphoto785 member
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    I agree that if it's really not in your budget a nice thank you note is fine. Although something cute and inexpensive (maybe a picture of you and the host from the shower in a nice frame?) would be nice. 
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  • LuckyHeatherLuckyHeather member
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    Thank you cards are perfect until the rehearsal dinner.  Your gift at that time says "thank you for everything you have done for me"...including the shower.


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  • knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208 member
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    My shower is this weekend too. I think I will do thank you cards and if I have time some chocolates. Otherwise their gifts I will be giving them at the RD are nice enough I think. I got them all Kate Spade make-up bags and hand-made necklaces with their names engraved on them. 
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  • AGA7AGA7
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    I hadn't heard of it either, but I guess where I am now living it is the norm. To keep the cost at $60 or lower.. I ended up going to Homegoods and purchasing 4 crystal cake pedastal (plate). They were adorable and only $12 each. Once they were placed in a box with tissue and wrapped, you would never guess they were only $12. If you do decide to purchase, I would definitely recommend something small ... maybe Spring ish (since we are all getting married in May) that can be re used. Maybe a small vase (they had some for $5!), a candy dish, a small serving platter. I definitely don't think they are expected, but it is a nice touch. The ladies who hosted were 4 friends of fiance's mom... so there wouldnt be an opportunity for me to give them a gift later (rehearsal dinner) as mentioned previously.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    Since my BM's worked so hard on everything, ( my shower is this weekend) I went out and got them something small. Yankee Candle has a $5.00 Spring Sale so I got them each a candle for 5.00 each, and some travel size lotions and sprays from Bath and Body works along with a card. I plan on giving it to them after the shower.

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  • RivieraBoundRivieraBound member
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    I wasn't going to have a shower but my mom talked me into one.  It was "thrown" by my little sister who is also a bridesmaid but really my mom did a lot of work since it was at her house.  So I got a thank you card for my sister with a gift card to a restaurant for my mom since her and my step dad don't get out much.  If it was a bridesmaid only throwing it, I might not have put so much money into the gift since I think I am giving them several thoughtful gifts at the RD.

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  • knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208knottieeafa1bb2d69fa208 member
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    ooh maybe small candles are a good idea, thanks!
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