shorter ceremony?

Re: shorter ceremony?

• LeiselEB member

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  You can have a Catholic ceremony without a full mass, but it would probably be around 40 minutes.

  
  

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• TiffannieF member

  

  January 2012

  I'm not Catholic but my mom was. The Catholic church wouldn't marry my parents T's because my dad was not Catholic. Now that was 30 years ago so im not sure if this is still true but Have you checked into this?

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• dramanut0410 member

  

  January 2012

  Catholic can marry non- Catholic marry as long at the non- Catholic is Baptised in some church and can show proof of the Baptism. I'm in a similar situation, and we're able to be married in the church. I'm not sure how the cermony is going to go just yet- but I can let you know when I find out.

  

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• Tami87 member

  

  January 2012

  Yes only one of the spouses has to be Catholic, so that should be no issue. And actually you may not even need to be baptised. My dad was not baptised and was able to marry my mother in a Catholic church. The issue that seems to come up the most for not being allowed to marry in a Catholic church, is if one person has been previously married and does not have annulment.
  
  As for the ceremony, you do not have to have communion. Actually, a lot of priests recommend that you do not have communion if only one person is Catholic. But as previously stated it will probably still last 30-40 min. It really depends on the music and readings you pick, and how long of a homily the priest gives. One of my former roommates had one of the shortest Catholic weddings I have ever seen (it was probably like 25 min). Mostly because the priest gave a really short homily, but you really can't ask your priest to do this without being rude. However, it is perfectly okay to let him know most of your guests will not be Catholic so he is aware he may need to give more verbal cues as to when to sit or stand or make a satement about who should receive communion if you do end up with the full mass.
  
  I am having a full Catholic mass, although many of my guests will not be Catholic. My plan is to include lots of information in the program including responses, readings, and music so guests can follow along and participate as they feel comfortable. A Catholic ceremony is something that is very important to my FI and I and I believe that this is the most important part of the day. So I expect my guests to respect us and our beliefs and be willing to spend an hour of their lives sitting through a full mass. Maybe I'm rude but I don't think that is too much to ask.
  

  

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• Tami87 member

  

  January 2012

  Also forgot to add this is a great site for help with Catholic weddings.
  
  Here is the link to the order of the wedding ceremony without mass
  http://catholicweddinghelp.com/topics/order-wedding-outside-mass.htm
  
  Also there is a Catholic wedding board under Cultural wedding boards. The girls on there are very helpful and have great advice!

  

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• tinstarsunshine member

  

  January 2012

  Thanks ladies!

  
  

  Maybe we can forgo the communion and limit the readings.  Most of my family is Catholic so that should be okay, but a lot of our friends are not.  Anyhow thank you for the website!  Its  a good breakdown of the service.  And yes the Parish is aware I am not Catholic, they okayed performing our marriage since I am baptized  Episcopalian aka "christian" in their eyes.  Still some hoops to jump through but its their house their rules.

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