Seriously, read this.
After planning for over a year, & as I approach the final home stretch with a knot in my stomach, I'm realizing a few things:
For one, time flies at the speed of light. Do not blink your eyes because before you know it, that's it.
Get everything you can done NOW. Even if you are six, seven eight months out - the more you accomplish now the less stressing you will do later. Buy your wedding bands, order your programs/menus, get the little odds and end out.of.the.way. Trust me, this will save your sanity later.
Pay off your vendors ASAP. Obviously some vendors you can't pay off until you have received your product (i.e. photo), but if that vendor requires a payment before the wedding, pay them. I wish I had put each of my vendors on payment plans, it would've made all these mounting bills a little easier to swallow.
Put aside at least $1,000 for the months prior to the wedding, if you can. That way you don't have to pull from savings like I'm doing. The two or so months leading up to your day are going to be NUTS. Bridal showers, b-parties, etc etc etc. I'm taken off so many days from work for wedding stuff that my checks are 1/4 of what they normally are. No good.
Make to-do lists! They are a godsend. Prioritize prioritize prioritize! If you see everything on paper and are able to cross things off, you will not feel so overwhelmed by the 458,085,957 things you have to do.
Don't let the little things stress you out or get you down. No one is looking at your china, no one cares if you have charges, and honestly I'm sure no one is going to give a flying F if you have the best linens. At the end of the night, as long as you had fun, that's ALL that matters. Weddings are memorable for the family, not for the extras on the table.
Use your bridal party. They are there for a reason. My girls probably hate me at this point, but honestly without them I would've gotten nothing done. Oh, and use FI, too.
Make time for yourself. In between running around like a mad woman, stop and get a pedicure. Your feet will thank you
Ok. ::jumps off soap box:: I hope this helps. Try to take what I'm saying to heart. I know SO many older knotties who have said the same things over and over and over and over. I wish I had taken what they said to heart...
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