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Had a horrible dream about the ex....long(sorry)

jjolovichjjolovich member
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I haven't posted in awhile over here,  but i have to get this out so i can relax...

Last night i had a horrible dream where i was in this huge house, and it seemed every turn i took i got more lost in this house and when i tried to turn around and go out where i came in it was a different room than where i was, until i turned a corner and my ex was standing there and he looked angry(he had major anger issues, hence why he is now an ex) and he started chasing me and yelling at me that i am a screw up and that i ruined his life and i took his daughter away from him and so on.... and i could not find the door to get out.

I finally came to what seemed like the living room and my daughter was standing there and picked her up and started running again because i could hear him coming from the upstairs. And right when we were headed into what looked like a garage, it was dark and the images got fuzzy, i finally woke up.

And now i am just a little paranoid, i havent heard from him since June of last year and he doesn't really care about his daughter anyways, but it was not a fun way to wake up this morning Cry

Have any of you had horrible dreams like that? I know this is long, thanks for letting me get it out.
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    I've had some bad dreams about my late husband turning up and insisting that he and I are still married and that I have to get back together with him (he was emotionally abusive and committed suicide).    It's pretty terrifying, and as the wedding gets closer I have been having these dreams about once a week.   I usually wake myself up, but it hasn't been affecting me while I'm awake.   I actually haven't told anyone this until now. 
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  • jjolovichjjolovich member
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    Thats how my dream went too, he was demanding that we were still a family, and he was also emotionally abusive, It took a little while for me to wake myself up out of this dream. I am sorry to hear that he committed suicide. And i hope this guy you are with now treats you 100 times better!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_had-a-horrible-dream-about-the-exlongsorry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:6808edee-673b-45fb-9a7a-708aafdddf4aPost:ffc15aee-1970-44af-9b47-7d4b927985af">Re: Had a horrible dream about the ex....long(sorry)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thats how my dream went too, he was demanding that we were still a family, and he was also emotionally abusive, It took a little while for me to wake myself up out of this dream. I am sorry to hear that he committed suicide. <strong>And i hope this guy you are with now treats you 100 times better!</strong>
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    <div>He treats me so well that it still surprises me sometimes.  I honestly felt like I didn't derserve to be loved any more, until I met my fiance.  </div>
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  • jjolovichjjolovich member
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    I totally know how you feel!!!! I am still shocked too with how lucky ive been to find someone to treat me the way i deserve to be treated!!!
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  • coopsbabycoopsbaby member
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    I HATE nightmares about the ex-h. Mine usually involve him insisting we're still together as well. I guess that is my worst nightmare, that I would be back with the abusive cheater!

    Mine usually come when he's had visitation with the kids, or starts pulling some crap with them. They're always more upset when they see/talk to him than the rest of the time, and that upsets me. 
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  • jjolovichjjolovich member
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    See the weird (yet kinda lucky) thing is, is he hasn't seen our daughter since June last year. He hasn't called to see how she is, i found out about him through his first ex wife as he keeps intouch with those kids, but he acts as if our daughter doesnt even exsist, granite she just turned a year old, so she can't really talk on the phone. So it was really weird to have a nightmare like that.
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  • StephanieM22StephanieM22 member
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    I have those dreams too minus the child part because I don't have any children. I always wake up before he catches me but it is so scary running away from him. 

    I had to change everything phone number email etc. because he was stalking me after the divorce. My FI needed to work real hard to get through the wall I put up after that. I know exactly how you ladies feel  I never thought I would find someone as amazing as my FI.
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  • mdeidremdeidre
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    I had dreams about my ex, no children with him, thank God.  My dreams were usually trying to get away and not being able to, as well.  My ex was abusive also.  I haven't had any dreams since I moved in with my FI, I feel safe with him, but before that I had to change everything, including jobs.  My FI now is wonderful, gentle, kind, he's completely the opposite of my ex!

    As for the dreams, they're normal, they come when we know we're safe, that's when we most fear we'll lose it.  This is a normal part of PTSD, and since we've all been through abuse of some sort, it's normal we'd all have similar dreams.  I'm going to someone to help me work it out, I highly recommend it.

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  • spaznoidspaznoid member
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     My ex was abusive, too. I have nightmares about him on a fairly regular basis, where somehow I am stuck living with him again with all of my kids, and all I can think of is how badly I want to get back to FI, but no one will help me. Even when I text FI himself, he's just so mad that I;m living with the ex, even if it's against my will, that he won't help. And I wake up terrified.
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  • jjolovichjjolovich member
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    I had another one last night, but this time, my dad was there and took care of my ex and i was out to dinner with my fi and we went to the church(why my ex was at the church i have no idea, he hated going) but we went and he was gone, and my dad said i wouldn't have to worry about him again, so hopefully thats the last dream, well bad dream with him anyways!!

    It's nice to know i am not the only one going through this!
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