Dress Questions - Kinda long

Re: Dress Questions - Kinda long

• AKWinterBride member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  Honey, I have seen this happen so much.  I hope this doesn't sound harsh, but your wedding dress is just a dress.  I'm sure some people do have that 'it' moment, but I sure didn't, and I know a lot of girls who didn't.  It's a piece of clothing you wear for a few hours, not for the rest of your life, so it's fine if you don't feel like you are totally in love with it! 
  
  I ordered my dress, and I had doubts about it for well, the last 15 months!  I liked it, and knew it would look good, but I too had some doubts because I didn't cry or feel some wave of emotion when I bought it.  However - I'm in the stages of altering it now and let me tell you this - it is MY dress and it has become my absolute dream dress!  I never, ever thought that the dress I was having doubts about would make me feel so beautiful and special!  Not to mention, it's hard to get all emotional about a dress that doesn't quite fit you right like all of the dresses in bridal salons.  Go with the dress you like best and trust me - when you start alterations and make if your own, you will LOVE it! 

  

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• AKWinterBride member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  And, OMG - that dress is stunning!  Now that I looked at the dress I am even more confident that once you get it in your size and start doing alterations, you will really fall in love!  Seriously, I don't think anyone could go wrong in that dress, it's so classy and sophisticated!! 

  

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• Tanq&Tonic

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  AKWB is spot on - it's hard to feel stunning when there are clips, pins, and stains on a sample gown in a dressing room.  It is completely different when it fits, when the whole look comes together, and when youstand in the venue where you're about to marry the love of your life.
  
  Your dress is beautiful.  Elegant and flattering with a nod to tradition and a nod to the modern.  Let me ask this...you know you look good in it -- what do you feel is missing for you to feel 'pretty'?  Are you envisioning poofy princess?  Beading?  Have you tried it with your hair somewhat styled, makeup on, with a veil, etc?
  
  I was in the same boat as you.  I tried on 75-100 dresses.  Most looked good enough.  Somewhere around the last few, I realized I started comparing all of them to #65 or so.  That's when I realized it was probably the dress.  No tears the first, second, or third time I put it on.  No real OMG moment.  Just a decision & a swipe of the credit card  

  

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• sparklegirl84

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  Totally agree with the previous posts. That dress is very pretty and seems like it'd be really flattering as well. I am still not omg in love with my dress and still have doubts about it being perfect, but it's a done deal and I'm hoping like AKWB said that with alterations I'll love it more. I wasn't the type of bride to plan my wedding or pick my dress before I was engaged either. I only tried on 12 dresses and only spent about 2 hours shopping - (I really don't care for shopping, it's overwhelming sometimes). 

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  Thanks.  I do like the dress, and the sample size fits perfectly as it laces up the back, so no pins/clips.  I think I've just been thinking about other items I've bought in the past for other events and I get a "damn, I look good" feeling that just makes you feel good in it, and I haven't had that yet.  Don't need to cry or anything, cos I'm not a crier.  

  
  

  Tanq, I haven't been done up in one though, as I'm not planning on a veil, just maybe a flower or something.  I thought that might be it too.  It doesn't need anything.  I added a little sparkle bead thing that they had in the store that looked great.  Just missing that feeling I mentioned above - Damn I look good!!

  
  

  I'm glad not everyone else is having those this is it moments.  Everyone I know here is, so it's getting a little frustrating.  Thanks everyone.  I'll let you know when I decide...       

  
  

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• maui2011 member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_hawaii_dress-questions-kinda-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:73Discussion:81169d33-a033-45e4-9aae-0cca62faddf2Post:f6b40658-3bf0-42f6-8c64-d43ca429525a">Re: Dress Questions - Kinda long</a>:
  [QUOTE] I think I've just been thinking about other items I've bought in the past for other events and I get a "damn, I look good" feeling that just makes you feel good in it, and I haven't had that yet.  Don't need to cry or anything, cos I'm not a crier.   Posted by kje_[/QUOTE]
  
  That's the thing...i totally agree with you...if you've experienced this feeling for other events then you should mos def feel have the same feeling if not a stronger feeling in your wedding dress...just my opinion..and this can happen without being all teary eyed.
  
  Maybe you get can yourself all made up like your going out to a fab party and try on the dress again to see if you feel the same way or if you get a more positive reaction.  I can totally appreciate that you do not want to keep on trying on dresses, however i think it is worth the time...you shoud not settle on a wedding dress...imho. HTH! J. :-)

  
  
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• breaness member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  That's a beautiful dress! I actually looked at two very similar ones by Alfred Angelo: http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=cad70840-5365-4062-b1f1-d9be02053d4d&categoryID=32e5a88c-cbf1-498f-afcf-dbfca138c5d3&pg=4&colorId1=

  http://www.alfredangelo.com/collections/productdisplay.aspx?productID=99c1fb1e-f822-419b-8b20-a97c11fec35c&categoryID=32e5a88c-cbf1-498f-afcf-dbfca138c5d3&pg=3&colorId1=
  

  And another similar one by Allure. Actually, I fell in love with the allure dress, saw that there was something similar at Alfred Angelo, and I went to try that on to make sure I didn't like it better (and see what the price was).

  
  

  It turned out that I did like the Alfred Angelo one better, and it was $150 less (yes!). I was about to pull the trigger but the girl made me try on more dresses, and sure enough, I found one I liked better. Scratch that, I found one I loved! AND it was cheaper. Win-win!

  
  

  

  
  

  Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, there's no harm in continuing to look. You've narrowed it down to one that you like. What I did was start looking other places with similar dresses and trying those styles. You may feel great in them in comparison. I felt good in the Allure dress, better in the Alfred Angelo that was similar, and FABULOUS in the one I got. Even though I hadn't showered, my hair was a mess, and I was sick, I still felt awesome. I didn't have the moment most girls talk about... I didn't cry or any of that. But I have a feeling I will have that moment (minus tears) when I see it all come together at my fitting. Shoes, veil, accessories, dress, etc.

  
  

  If you don't feel great in it, it doesn't hurt to keep looking. I dragged my mom out 3 times... and 3rd time was the charm

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  Ohh, I'm hoping for third time a charm.  Going to crash the mall tomorrow and hit up the bridal phase.  No appt. necessary!!  One more Sat morning, and then I think I'll have hit all the major places in the city and will have to make a decision!!

  
  

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• Tanq&Tonic

  

  May 2011 edited December 2011

  You know, if you find a few designers you kind of love but the dress isn't quite perfect for the wow factor, and you can put your finger on what is missing, you can always browse the catalogs online.  I loved Rosa Clara dresses but didn't find one that was perfect.  However, after browsing the new line online, I found something that was *just* what I was looking for, and I could already trust the cut / size / fabric quality because of the other samples in store.  Food for thought...
  
  Good luck!

  

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