honeymoon registery

dvenice721 · January 2013

hey guys! So far we have registered at William & Sonoma, Bed, Bath, and were looking for a website to add our honeymoon.. where people can put money into this account, almost like gift cards type idea. We wanted to be able to attached it to amazon.com, since they also have a registry. Does anyone know of a site, besides myregistry.com that deals w honeymoons?

hoffse · January 2013

For the love of.... this has been asked like 8 times in the 2 days, Don't sign up for a HM registry. They take a cut and are deceptive to your guests.

AddieCake · January 2013

Honeymoon registries are tacky b/c it is inappropriate to ask anyone for money.

dvenice721 · January 2013

IMO they aren't. When you have lived on your own for 10 yrs and have most of what we need. I feel (and my family) that it isn't tacky. And as for hofsee, no need to have an attitude. I don't come on message boards much, so I don't know what othr eope are posting. Don't jump down my throat. I am a teacher and can't post during the day and am panning at for my class at night. ow am I supposed to know what others are postng?

Summer2011Bride · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:dda015e0-0133-4a6a-9678-0898ec8b62b1">Re: honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]IMO they aren't. When you have lived on your own for 10 yrs and have most of what we need. I feel (and my family) that it isn't tacky. And as for hofsee, no need to have an attitude. I don't come on message boards much, so I don't know what othr eope are posting. Don't jump down my throat. I am a teacher and can't post during the day and am panning at for my class at night. ow am I supposed to know what others are postng?
Posted by dvenice721[/QUOTE]

I am also a teacher who works during the day and lesson plans at night and I have no idea how that affects scrolling down the page to see what the most recent post titles have been. Can you explain that one?

I don't care if you've lived on your own for 50 years, that doesn't make asking for cash any less rude. Sorry. No exceptions to that rule of good manners.

AddieCake · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:dda015e0-0133-4a6a-9678-0898ec8b62b1">Re: honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]IMO they aren't. When you have lived on your own for 10 yrs and have most of what we need. I feel (and my family) that it isn't tacky. And as for hofsee, no need to have an attitude. I don't come on message boards much, so I don't know what othr eope are posting. Don't jump down my throat. I am a teacher and can't post during the day and am panning at for my class at night. ow am I supposed to know what others are postng?
Posted by dvenice721[/QUOTE]

<div>Well, for starters, there is a sticky at the top of this page covering this topic BECAUSE it comes up so much. And sometimes, it is nice if people would browse the threads a bit to see if their question has already been covered. </div><div>
</div><div>A lot of people have what they "need." You can always do upgrades or have a smaller registry and hope to get cash. </div>

Simply Fated · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:dda015e0-0133-4a6a-9678-0898ec8b62b1">Re: honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]IMO they aren't. When you have lived on your own for 10 yrs and have most of what we need. I feel (and my family) that it isn't tacky. And as for hofsee, no need to have an attitude. I don't come on message boards much, so I don't know what othr eope are posting. Don't jump down my throat. I am a teacher and can't post during the day and am panning at for my class at night. ow am I supposed to know what others are postng?
Posted by dvenice721[/QUOTE]
If you don't need anything, don't register for anything. But don't ask for cash, which is what a honeymoon registry is. The companies even take a cut of the guests' money. Did yu kow that? You could just tell people you're saving up for a trip, if they ask you. Then they'll give you a check or cash or pick something else out they think you'd like. BUT if you use one of those registries, they take a percentage of your guests money. And the really KLASSY sites, <em>charge</em> the guests to give you this "gift." Yeah. Super awesome.

Viczaesar · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:dda015e0-0133-4a6a-9678-0898ec8b62b1">Re: honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]IMO they aren't. When you have lived on your own for 10 yrs and have most of what we need. I feel (and my family) that it isn't tacky. And as for hofsee, no need to have an attitude. I don't come on message boards much, so I don't know what othr eope are posting. Don't jump down my throat. I am a teacher and can't post during the day and am panning at for my class at night. ow am I supposed to know what others are postng?
Posted by dvenice721[/QUOTE]
By practicing that all-important skill of reading.

jessicabessica · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:dda015e0-0133-4a6a-9678-0898ec8b62b1">Re: honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]IMO they aren't. When you have lived on your own for 10 yrs and have most of what we need. I feel (and my family) that it isn't tacky. And as for hofsee, no need to have an attitude. I don't come on message boards much, so I don't know what othr eope are posting. Don't jump down my throat. I am a teacher and can't post during the day and am panning at for my class at night. ow am I supposed to know what others are postng?
Posted by dvenice721[/QUOTE]

<div>Asking for cash is not appropriate. People will give you money on their own (it turns out it's a very popular wedding gift). If people ask you what you'd like, you can say, "We've regiesterd at WS and BBB, and are saving for our honeymoon." Plan the honeymoon you can afford on your own, or wait to take it until you see what gifts you get at the wedding. </div><div>
</div><div>If you want to get advice here, lurk a bit and read other posts. Why do you expect everyone to answer you, but you cannot take a few minutes to scroll down and read a post or two?</div>

hoffse · January 2013

Dude. Sorry if you think I have an attitude. But read down 4 or 5 threads from this. This question is asked virtually every day. And while I'm cool with going through the arguments when it doesn't appear close to the top (I get that some people don't know how to search or maybe even scroll?), this one does appear within 4 threads of yours. Reading through the titles on the first page of any board you post on will make people a lot more patient, and it may educate you. It's sort of like how you should read the fine print from those honeymoon registry companies you want to do business with. In case you are curious, here is my very long take from 4 threads down, from a bride who wants to take a trip to the world cup for her honeymoon:

1) Honeymoon registries are usually scams. Most of them take a cut of the gift that people give, so instead of $100 you get $92.70. If you want cash, just make a very small registry and leave it at that. Most people will get the hint, and those (like me) who hate to give cash in the first place will have a list of physical items you prefer. Wouldn't you rather take a single trip to the bank to deposit all those checks instead of losing a couple hundred bucks in service fees?

2) As a guest, I don't want to pay for somebody's sex fest, scam or not.

3) As a guest, I really don't want to pay for somebody's vacation that's to an event as expensive as the world cup. If you and your FI can afford it, I think it's a great idea for your honeymoon. But it's pretty tacky to ask other people to foot the bill.

4) Timing matters in all this as well. Most people take a honeymoon right after the wedding. What happens when people read the fine print and decide not to contribute to your HM registry, and you get the memo while in Brazil that you suddenly can't pay for it? You won't get the cash until after the vacation is booked, and surely we don't have to tell you that this could be a very expensive gamble. And many brides on here will tell you that starting your marriage in serious debt from either a party (the wedding) or a vacation (the honeymoon) is going to really mess with your first years of marriage. What many ladies on here advise instead is to plan the honeymoon you can afford and then use any cash gifts you receive for a small upgrade - a massage, a nice dinner, etc. Or you can postpone the honeymoon until you see what you get, what you managed to save out of your wedding budget generally, etc. A lot of people take a big 1 year trip instead, and that makes all sorts of sense. It may mean you don't see the world cup, but at least you wouldn't be buried in debt.

daria24 · January 2013

Honeymoon registries are just unnecessary. I had a traditional registry at one store, with about 40 items on it. I received most of the items at my shower. At the wedding, 90% of guests gave cash. I didn't "register" for it. No site took a cut. And I didn't offend my guests by asking them to fund my HM. It was a win all around.

AdeleDazeem · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:dda015e0-0133-4a6a-9678-0898ec8b62b1">Re: honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]IMO they aren't. When you have lived on your own for 10 yrs and have most of what we need. I feel (and my family) that it isn't tacky. And as for hofsee, no need to have an attitude. I don't come on message boards much, so I don't know what othr eope are posting. Don't jump down my throat. I am a teacher and can't post during the day and am panning at for my class at night. ow am I supposed to know what others are postng?
Posted by dvenice721[/QUOTE]

My husband and I both lived on our own for ten years before marrying and we still didn't need a honeymoon registry. Asking, registering, or demanding cash from anyone is rude as hell.

Make a small registry of what you need. A honeymoon is not needed. The honeymoon regsitry website will take a cut of the money your guests give you and then just write you a check. They are deceitful. And, if you scroll down this page, you will see many other threads that all lead to the same conclusion.

Darbie914 · January 2013

Agree with PPs. DH and I lived together for many years before getting married, didn't really need anything so we didn't register. We also couldn't afford to plan a HM so guess what? We didn't go on one. Does that suck? Yeah, kinda. But we are adults and realized that if we couldn't afford the trip, then we don't go on one. Creating a HM fund is the same as asking people for cash so you can take a sex-filled trip that no one wants to help pay for.

In my opinion, just because you get married doesn't mean you're entitled to a HM, nor should anyone be asked or hinted to help fund this. You are both grown ups and if you want to take a trip after you're married, then that responsibility falls on the two of you. If you want a HM, then that should absolutely be a part of your wedding budget. If you get cash as wedding gifts, then use that towards your trip. And if you don't, then plan for a trip on your 1 year anniversary.

HobokensFury · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:3739513e-f976-4707-9f0c-1c0e7a8918f3">Re: honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]A teacher should be aware of proper etiquette, which states that it's rude to ask other people to give you their cash.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

I'm having a hard time believing OP is a teacher with all the horrible grammar and spelling.

Darbie914 · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:7d7d79c0-9647-4b8a-b667-093b07b51e1a">Re: honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: honeymoon registery : <strong>I'm having a hard time believing OP is a teacher with all the horrible grammar and spelling.</strong>
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto this.</div>

MyNameIsNot · January 2013

A teacher should know better than to ask a question that has obviously been asked a thousand times before. I'd like to think that your awful writing skills are evidence that you are lying about your profession, but, sadly, recent experiences have led me to believe otherwise.

Honeymoon and other cash registries are horribly rude and deceitful. It's not a matter of opinion. It's a fact.

Simply Fated · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:17b121ef-9278-466b-948b-5966a59a7358">Re:honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:honeymoon registery: I'm on mobile, so I can't tell where you're from... But OP, please note that this a regional thing. Not everyone will give you cash, even if you go this poster's route. It is not as common in the Midwest, or the South. Here, we typically give boxed gifts for both showers and the wedding. I would personally NEVER give cash as a present.
Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE]
Honeymoon registry sites cut you a check., So, in effect, it's a cash gift.

Simply Fated · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registery?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:57a102b1-919b-4420-8546-cbaa7daebdeaPost:3ab743fd-e528-4dea-aaee-57aa357b3755">Re:honeymoon registery</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:honeymoon registery: Yes, I get that. But why is she quoting me?
Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE]
I quoted you because I was adding on to what you said.

daria24 · January 2013

Your cat also looks like a win. Posted by Edie Bee[/QUOTE] Aw thanks Edie! And I got married in rural PA, where most people prefer to give a physical gift, myself included.

lovesclimbing · January 2013

My DH and I live in Alaska where it gets negative 40F in the winter and we got married this past December. We wanted to go to Hawaii or Mexico or somewhere nice and hot with sandy beaches for our honeymoon. Even with my parents gift of a companion fare, we couldn't afford it. Did we ask our guests to pay for it? No because it's rude. We went to Seattle and Puget Sound for a week and a half because that's what we could afford and we had a great time. Go somewhere you can afford and have fun. Personally, I would never give anyone money through a site like that.

ss052013 · January 2013

We are creating a honeymoon registery at honeyfund.com. It is kind of a neat set up because they dont take any of the money that your guests give you. How it works is the bride and groom set up the registery and your guests can print out the gift certificate for what you have registered for and give you a cash or check for that gift. For example we are taking an alaskan cruise and we registured for different things to do in port or different gifts (like a framed photos ect). We are also registering at Target. I dont think the HM registery is any different from a gift registery. It doesnt matter if you are doing a HM registery or a store registery, you are still asking for a specific gift.

miclan · January 2013

I don't understand why everyone is so against helping a couple fund their honeymoon. Wouldn't you rather give a gift the couple would appreciate rather than one they will return or store in the attic to collect dust? Proper wedding ettiquitte is pretty silly IMO. Times are changing, most people already have most of the items they need to make a happy home. I would much prefer to help the couple make memories that they can cherish for the rest of their lives. While I do love the idea, i dont necessarily trust those websites and i don't think most of your guests would be comfortable using them either. I would have someone in your wedding party just spread the word for you.

miclan · January 2013

You know what is also rude? Your posts. You personally attack anyone who does not share the same opinion as you. In case you don't understand the concept of a forum, it is just that, a place to share OPINIONS. And if you are not open to listening to what others have to say without making snide little remarks, why are you even here?

miclan · January 2013

How on earth was i rude? When did I ever say you shouldn't be here because your wedding is over?? All i said was that a forum is meant to express opinions and you shouldnt be here if you arent open to opinions other than your own. I see you deleted my post, which was not rude or inappropriate in any way. Clearly an abuse of power. Once again you refuse to let others express an opinion, the sole purpose of a forum. I am a little disappointed the knot would let such an immature bully be a moderator of these forums.

miclan · January 2013

Then why is it ok for you to call me rude? Isn't that the exact same thing you are accusing me of?

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