FMIL Still doesn't have her dress!

achiduck · September 2012

She's buying off the rack so it's not a huge deal, but come on already.

Anyone else dealing with this?

amyelise25 · September 2012

FI and I don't even know if FMIL has her plane ticket to come out to the wedding yet. I'm trying to just breath and trust that everything will be wonderful that day.

catwine · September 2012

FMIL got hers about a month or so ago...in fairness it was my mothers fault it took so long. my mother had a heck of a time trying to decide on a dress and FMIL wanted to weait until she had made her final choice.

If it were me, I'd have my fiance says something to his mother.

LDubHawksFan · September 2012

I think she is still fine. We have like 39 days left, and if she is buying off the rack, that really could just take an afternoon of shopping. Maybe next time you see her, though, you could ask what kind of dress she is looking for. I found myself helping my mom look at different dept stores (online) when she was looking.

goatlady12 · September 2012

My FSIL was a bit of pain with her dress. Luckily everything got taken care of on Thursday. Does she live near by? If she does, I'd go over to her house pick her up and make her get the dang dress. Or trick her into going to lunch with you, have her meet at your place, and then take her to get the dress. Lunch after... if she behaves. Hope this gets taken care of soon, for your sanity!

cbear215 · September 2012

My mom just bought her dress a week or so ago. She took FOREVER but that's because she was really picky and kept returning ones that she bought and then didn't like. Is she having a hard time finding one but shopping or is she just not interested in looking?

julzy · September 2012

Yup. In the same boat and I'm keeping my mouth shut secretly so aggravated. FMIL is a bit of a mess. She definitely doesn't seem to understand wedding etiquette at all and I'm sick of explaining things because it usually leads to a bit of an argument between FI and I. Bah.

achiduck · September 2012

Thanks for your suggestions ladies, it's driving me crazy. I've been trying very hard not to bug her about it but we're 5.5 weeks away. Just buy something already!

ktelizabeth86 · September 2012

My FMIL won't wear a dress. I have no clue what she is going to show up in. She doesn't want me to go with her shopping. She's not the least bit girly. I've just let go of that and decided to say "whatever".

My junior BM and GM don't have outfits yet.

The GM just ordered matching shirts off line.

My BM's don't have shoes yet and one doesn't have jewelry.

It's all driving me a little crazy.

aro1589 · September 2012

MOH doesn't have HER dress yet - it is expected to come in TWO DAYS BEFORE THE WEDDING! eeeek

achiduck · September 2012

OMG, Aro I would LOSE my mind on her.

mana8503 · September 2012

My FMIL keeps asking to wear jeans and sneakers... which I find inapproprate and rude... and told FI to handle it before I do.

achiduck · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_fmil-still-doesnt-have-her-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:ae6d5a06-dc5d-457e-b297-f181a4e5a374Post:b490f22e-01fc-407d-b41b-3667c1d83b3b">Re: FMIL Still doesn't have her dress!</a>:
[QUOTE]My FMIL keeps asking to wear jeans and sneakers... which I find inapproprate and rude... and told FI to handle it before I do.
Posted by mana8503[/QUOTE]

Is she serious? That is SO inappropriate.

aro1589 · September 2012

achiduck, she claims it doesn't need altered soooo, fingers crossed! she knew it took 12 weeks to come in and waited until exactly 12 weeks out to order it

mana8503 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_fmil-still-doesnt-have-her-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:ae6d5a06-dc5d-457e-b297-f181a4e5a374Post:4a14b1cc-149f-4589-9f4d-22b87741a3d7">Re: FMIL Still doesn't have her dress!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FMIL Still doesn't have her dress! : Is she serious? That is SO inappropriate.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

She said she has to chase after FI's autistic son if he runs... we had him for a week this summer and he didn't run once. And there's 100 other people that can chase after him.

mana8503 · September 2012

I should add I told her she can wear a nice dress suit and flats... this isn't a crazy formal event, but I won't have jeans and sneakers in my pictures. I will be a bridezilla over that.

trawas01 · September 2012

Eh my Mom doesn't have one yet. She'll figure it out. I'm really not concerned.

nitecheese · September 2012

Achi - don't worry too much; my MOTHER doesn't have her dress yet. I think she was hoping to lose a little more weight for the wedding. My FMIL got tired of waiting and asked my mother if she was going to wear gold/beige. My mom said no, so FMIL bought a beautiful dress, had it tailored, steamed and customized a cute pair of shoes and clutch to match.

Meanwhile, my mother refuses to go shopping. I want to yell at her, but she's been doing a lot of the planning (and paying) for the wedding too. Biting my tongue is starting to hurt!

lv2011 · September 2012

The moms are wearing whatever dress they like. If they want to go out and buy a new one, I'm trust them. Thankfully, if that's the case and they haven't done it yet, neither have told me so it's not something I can stress about.

My pregnant MOH, on the other hand, might not get her dress until the day before the wedding. We're really hoping it needs no alterations and comes in before that date. Again though, it's out of our hands. I have learned that I really have to let go of the things I can't control. My FI says that, for me, it's an exercise in futility

CarolineandDean · September 2012

Neither my mom nor my FMIL has a dress! We are going shopping this weekend though, so hopefully at least my mom will get something.

kjerl · September 2012

Sounds like I am in good company! I don't know if my mom bought a dress yet, I am done asking. She knows she needs one. FMIL told me she still needs to find one too. I am trying not to think about it and only worry about things I can control

mmmendi · September 2012

I have no clue what FMIL is wearing. I've never met her. I did overhear FI tell her that pants were fine if she is more comfortable. My Mother doesn't have anything yet either. She wants to wear a pantsuit. She wants my sister and I to 'keep an eye out' for something Saturday. We laughed about this today. My sister wears t-shirts and jeans. My mother detests my clothing selections. Saturday we are supposed to have our hair trials (her hair gal is hard to pin down) and then take my SD shopping for a dress. I am in a serious panic about her

She is only 12, maybe an even five feet tall...and is very developed. None of the cute jr items will be appropriate, they simply won't cover her bust. I've never had that trouble, and am concerned about balancing her feeling really pretty (and age-appropriate - I don't want her to think I am trying to dress her in 'old' clothes) and her father and I feel she isn't too revealing!

ivedonethisb4 · September 2012

My Mom JUST got her dress on Saturday. I had to really stay on her about it and tell her how important it was...she finally gave in and went shopping and that was the biggest relief so far because I was SO worried she'd wait and not be able to find anything! Good luck with FMIL!

[Deleted User] · September 2012

MOH needs to get her dressed hemmed, and I got a little worried when she said we still had 6 weeks left. Uh make that 4!

minionlover · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_fmil-still-doesnt-have-her-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:ae6d5a06-dc5d-457e-b297-f181a4e5a374Post:07a8494d-946e-4a84-8714-e7434b30e3fb">Re: FMIL Still doesn't have her dress!</a>:
[QUOTE]FI and I don't even know if FMIL has her plane ticket to come out to the wedding yet. I'm trying to just breath and trust that everything will be wonderful that day.
Posted by amyelise25[/QUOTE]

This exactly but I am not stressing about her coming. She's a big girl and if she comes she comes. She has had over a year to save up for the plane ticket, (we have been planning a DW since before we got engaged) so if she doesn't get one, it's her own fault.

udream05 · September 2012

My mother bought a nice dress several months ago and had it fitted and everythiing. FMIL is still shopping. Which honestly I was even surprised about that since she doesnt' seem to care what she's wearing. But then when I talked to FSIL she says FMIL waited so long because she wanted to lose weight and now is trying to find something off the rack but keeps sending her pics of really ugly dresses. Thankfully FSIL has fabulous fashion sense and will point her in the right direction. And hopefully she'll find something in time.

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