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Honeymoon Registry

DuckieAnne23DuckieAnne23 member
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Hey, my FI and I have been talking about registry's and gifts alot lately. We were wondering what you thought about having a Honeymoon Registry (but not the online kind) I was thinking more along the lines of printing out a few things that we would like to do on our honeymoon and include them with the invitations. The the gifter could fill out a car example: "Have champagne on Mr. & Mrs Jones." Then when we send out our Thank Yous we include a picture of my FI and myself clinking glasses or with the bottle during the sunset. Alot of people told me that it was "tacky and rude" but honestly we have everything for our house. I need some advise.
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  • calliopeia2013calliopeia2013 member
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    Requesting gifts in your actual invitation is way more tacky and rude than even doing an online honeymoon registry would be.  (As in, I know a lot of people who are not offended by online honeymoon registries who would be SUPER-offended by receiving a cash-grab in the mail.)  If your goal is to get cash for your honeymoon, have a small registry and if people ask, let them know you're saving for a honeymoon.
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  • Ali092011Ali092011 member
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    edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-17?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:cee18285-2e91-4fd7-b18a-a9e683a2b5d0Post:582183c3-8e88-4134-9558-98052e41830c">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]Requesting gifts in your actual invitation is way more tacky and rude than even doing an online honeymoon registry would be.  (As in, I know a lot of people who are not offended by online honeymoon registries who would be SUPER-offended by receiving a cash-grab in the mail.)  If your goal is to get cash for your honeymoon, have a small registry and if people ask, let them know you're saving for a honeymoon.
    Posted by calliopeia2013[/QUOTE]

    Exactly. There are people who can tolerate honeymoon registries, but mentioning gifts of any kind in an invitation is a universal no-no.

    It sounds like you are aware of the fees involved in those online HRs as well as the deception invovled. You don't want to trick your guests into giving cash in any way.

    As PPs said, make a tiny registry of a handful of things you could use (browse at the BBB or Macy's website and I bet you can find something you'd love) and let your guests deduce that you could use the cash.

    ETA: Additionally, don't plan a honeymoon you can't afford and hope that you will receive enough monetary gifts to pay for it. It would be awful to be opening cards in the car on the way to the airport only to find out you don't have enough to do the activities you had planned. If you have to postpone the honeymoon until you can afford it, or downscale by staying local or shortening your vacation, do so.
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  • MNVegasMNVegas member
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    Seriously this is even more disgusting than doing an online HM registry. You don't put any thing gift related in your invitations and you certainly don't ask for cash gifts. I have only once received an invitation with registry card in it and I cringed when I saw it. If I received your invitation with your list asking for cash to put toward your HM, I would throw it in the trash! 

    Like others suggested, do a small registry for people who prefer giving boxed gifts and others will give cash gift without you telling them.  

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  • aimers1525aimers1525 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-17?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:cee18285-2e91-4fd7-b18a-a9e683a2b5d0Post:a9cb9883-296f-484a-bed5-c3c9cb885b5a">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Seriously this is even more disgusting than doing an online HM registry. You don't put any thing gift related in your invitations and you certainly don't ask for cash gifts</strong>. I have only once received an invitation with registry card in it and I cringed when I saw it. If I received your invitation with your list asking for cash to put toward your HM, I would throw it in the trash!  Like others suggested, do a small registry for people who prefer giving boxed gifts and others will give cash gift without you telling them.   Glad you have people around you who said your idea was BAD!
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    Ditto!
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  • Tandra&DevinTandra&Devin
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    If you're wanting a honeymoon registry, just use one of the online services.  There are plenty that are completely free for you and your guests.

    Including info like that in your invites is an etiquette no-no, and even if it wasn't, the extra paper, printing, and postage costs are just going to suck up extra money you could use for that honeymoon.
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  • janeashjaneash
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    edited March 2012
    In case you haven't noticed....knotties hate HM registries.

    FI and I are doing one through a Canadian travel agency called Flight Centre (not sure if you have that in the states).  Basically people can donate online and then at the end, we get a Flight Centre gift card.  They don't take ANY money out of it because they earn their commission from airlines/hotels/etc when you go back to book your honeymoon through them (which is how a lot of people book their honeymoons anyways).

    Personally, i wouldn't include anything in your invites.  Just spread the word that you have a HM registry or that you'd prefer cash.

    That being said, we have also create a small registry with a department store here, because we know there are some people that are "disgusted" with HM registries and we don't want to offend them, so they can buy us material possessions that we won't use instead if they would like to.

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  • meagkcal62meagkcal62
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    There are some honeymoon registries that don't charge unless you want to upgrade your site or use paypal (the fee is directly from paypal).  But that being said, you don't have to use paypal either.  We're using Honeyfund!  We'll also set up a small registry at Macy's for people who are more comfortable with that type of gift.  Truthfully, to me, it seems like a fun idea for people to gift us dinner in Venice or a tour of Pompeii over simply giving cash.  I have a couple friends who have done this and it was very well received.  Knotties tend to hate this idea because it goes against "etiquette" but honestly it's 2012 - what was proper etiquette back in the day does not have to be the end all, be all now.  Register for gifts you really want!  Whether that's honeymoon items or something from Macy's.
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  • Tandra&DevinTandra&Devin
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_honeymoon-registry-17?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:cee18285-2e91-4fd7-b18a-a9e683a2b5d0Post:504388a0-3f50-4ea0-b6db-1b0b51d02899">Re: Honeymoon Registry</a>:
    [QUOTE]There are some honeymoon registries that don't charge unless you want to upgrade your site or use paypal (the fee is directly from paypal).  But that being said, you don't have to use paypal either.  We're using Honeyfund!  We'll also set up a small registry at Macy's for people who are more comfortable with that type of gift.  Truthfully, to me, it seems like a fun idea for people to gift us dinner in Venice or a tour of Pompeii over simply giving cash.  I have a couple friends who have done this and it was very well received.  <strong>Knotties tend to hate this idea because it goes against "etiquette" but honestly it's 2012 - what was proper etiquette back in the day does not have to be the end all, be all now.  Register for gifts you really want! </strong> Whether that's honeymoon items or something from Macy's.
    Posted by meagkcal62[/QUOTE]

    Amen to that!  LOL.  We have a registry with Traveler's Joy and it's been very well-received so far.
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  • jaso2012jaso2012
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    Honestly, lots of people on the Knot are totally anti-honeymoon registries, but that would be much better than what you're suggesting. Even if you did do a honeymoon registry, you wouldn't (or shouldn't) include information about it in your invitations! My husband and I did a Honeymoon Pixie registry, and we got a great response. (About half of our guests shopped off of that registry rather than our other more traditional ones.) But we followed the rules of etiquette and didn't put any information about it in our invitations!
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