Etiquette
Congratulations to the groom, Best Wishes to the bride?
I recently heard that it is proper etiquette to use "congratulations" when speaking to a groom, and "best wishes" in addressing a bride. This is news to me; can anyone provide any insight on the reasoning behind this tradition?
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Re: Congratulations to the groom, Best Wishes to the bride?
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[QUOTE]interesting, I'd never heard of this before.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]
me either....
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[QUOTE]interesting, I'd never heard of this before.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]
Me either and I find it silly. I consider my FI to be an awesome catch.
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But Christmas has a pregnant virgin.
Way cooler." - anna.oskar
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...I don't think there was a single person who told me "best wishes".
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Congratulations to the groom, Best Wishes to the bride? : Exactly what I was thinking.
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]
this exactly. only reason I know this. and it's funny. I was trying to figure out what was said to the bride for the past couple weeks.
[QUOTE]It goes back to the time when women were out to "catch a husband". To congratulate her on actually catching one was considered bad etiquette because it somehow implied that it's amazing she was able to do so. At least that's what my mom told me, many years ago.
Posted by gailpete[/QUOTE]
This is how my grandma explained it to me when H and I got engaged
[QUOTE]It is because the man is the one who is supposed to have gotten the real catch, not the other way around. That is why you congratulate the man vs the woman.
Posted by graysquirrel[/QUOTE]
This is what I have heard... my mother corrected me and told me this when I was filling out a card for a wedding shower in high school.
Someone once told me that, after the wedding, you can say congrats to both, but I don't know how valid that is.
I always says "Best Wishes," or something along that line, and all of the cards we have gotten so far have as well - but it might be more common in Texas/the south than the rest of the country. People have said congrats in-person, and it doesn't offend me - as one PP said, I think that my future hubby is quite the catch, as well!
[QUOTE]I only know about this because of Gilmore Girls.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]
That's what I was going to say! I learned it from Emily Gilmore.
The only reason that I knew about it is because of my obsession with Victorian culture. It is in all of my 19th century etiquette books. The man is the one who is the lucky one to have gotten to marry such a fine, accomplished woman.
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[QUOTE]I only know about this because of Gilmore Girls.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]
Ditto! Oh Emily... so sassy hahah