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You know what really grinds my gears...

GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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When people who are not engaged list their relationship status as 'engaged' on Facebook. I have tons of friends that do this. No. No matter how serious your relationship is, you're still 'in a relationship.' What's so wrong with that? Save the changed status for when you actually get engaged.

Back when I was a wee beebee, I had my status listed as engaged too. But then I got a swift kick in the behind from logic. If you already have your status listed as 'engaged,' what are you going to do when you're ACTUALLY engaged? Grr.

Now you go. What grinds your gears?

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  • jeanacorinajeanacorina
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    edited December 2011
    Well, that would grind my gears if I knew anyone who did that.
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  • loopy82loopy82 member
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    edited December 2011
    Pretty much all other drivers on the road.
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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    And you know what else grinds my gears? You America!
    Oh Peter Griffin.

    Things that grind my gears:
    - People that are visiting my upstairs neighbours but park in MY parking spot in MY driveway so I have to park on the street half a block from my house.  ITS MY DRIVEWAY!

    - When you invite people to your home and they take advantage of your hospitality

    - When FI leaves his clothes on the floor.  I'm going to fight him soon.

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  • Button5807Button5807
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    edited December 2011
    My 15 year old step brother just listed himself as engaged this morning. lol

    Pretty much everything grinds my gears.
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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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    edited December 2011
    It grinds my gears when I wind up putting my foot in my mouth (proverbially, of course). I was talking to BF's sister about engagements and finances, and said something like, "My feelings are that if you can't afford an e-ring, you probably shouldn't be getting married." She then tells me her e-ring was paid for by credit and they haven't paid it off.

    Oof.
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  • catemegcatemeg
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    edited December 2011
    Ugh, I was so against Facebook statuses in general.  BF and I dated for a full year without anything written for our status on Facebook.  I didn't put 'single', I just didn't put ANYTHING!

    I've seen friends break up, and still leave the Facebook status as "in a relationship" for quite awhile because they didn't want the onslaught of pity from all their Facebook friends.

    Have you heard people refer to it as "Facebook Official"?  That one just makes me giggle...
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  • loves2shop4shoesloves2shop4shoes member
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    edited December 2011
    I really hate it when people spit.  It's disgusting!  You have phlegm?  Get a tissue.

    It also really grinds my gears that BF can NEVER close a drawer or cabinet.  I've gotten so many bruises from the damn drawers being open.  I've learned to never go around corners slowly in my house.

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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_really-grinds-gears?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:6caf208c-2ef2-4f99-978a-b2455ac30707Post:beb21a8c-17b2-4c08-8713-9c2a067af58e">Re: You know what really grinds my gears...</a>:
    [QUOTE]It grinds my gears when I wind up putting my foot in my mouth (proverbially, of course). I was talking to BF's sister about engagements and finances, and said something like, <strong>"My feelings are that if you can't afford an e-ring, you probably shouldn't be getting married</strong>." She then tells me her e-ring was paid for by credit and they haven't paid it off. Oof.
    Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

    I feel the same way.

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  • catemegcatemeg
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_really-grinds-gears?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6caf208c-2ef2-4f99-978a-b2455ac30707Post:beb21a8c-17b2-4c08-8713-9c2a067af58e">Re: You know what really grinds my gears...</a>:
    [QUOTE]It grinds my gears when I wind up putting my foot in my mouth (proverbially, of course). I was talking to BF's sister about engagements and finances, and said something like, "My feelings are that if you can't afford an e-ring, you probably shouldn't be getting married." She then tells me her e-ring was paid for by credit and they haven't paid it off. Oof.
    Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

    One of my colleagues is married to a Brazilian, and so by Brazilian tradition only has a wedding ring (no engagement ring).

    She went off on this whole schpeal about how anyone who wants an engagement ring just wants to be "pissed on" by their significant other, like she's being "marked like a dog marking its territory".  She went so far as to say that anyone who wants an engagement ring shouldn't be getting married.

    Looking forward to seeing how that interaction goes when I show up in the office one day with a ring...
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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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    edited December 2011
    I've had birthday parties, with my friends in attendance, who then write birthday wishes on my wall because "if it ain't on Facebook, it ain't official!" It makes me LOL.

    ETA: Consider me wanting to be "pissed on," then.
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  • loves2shop4shoesloves2shop4shoes member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto to wanting to be "pissed on".





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  • catemegcatemeg
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_really-grinds-gears?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6caf208c-2ef2-4f99-978a-b2455ac30707Post:2771204a-5d66-4e42-9875-46d4cb3a366c">Re: You know what really grinds my gears...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ditto to wanting to be "pissed on".
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

    I'm thinking I might wear a yellow shirt to work when I get engaged  - you know, to hide the pee stains!

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  • noelle24noelle24
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    edited December 2011
    Paige, there's no way in hell I would be parking down the street if that's your spot, in your driveway, for your apartment, that YOU pay rent for.  I'd be marching upstairs, knocking on the door, and politely telling the neighbors that their friends need to move their car to the street. In fact, I HAVE done that.  On multiple occasions.  Because living below college sophmore boys sucks @ss. 
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  • dwest2201dwest2201
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    edited December 2011
    Oh man, the fb relationship statuses that are not true make me laugh.

    People who aren't engaged saying they are... or two girlfriends list themselves as being married to each other.


    Ring or no ring... it made no difference to me.  I told FI (then BF) I didn't need a ring but he insisted.  I do absolutely love my ring though and the best part is it doesn't evne smell like pee!  :)
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  • nottheonlydreamer44nottheonlydreamer44
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    edited December 2011
    Ugh pet peeve! I remember when FB first came out and it was the huge deal to put you were engaged to your friend. I found that annoying but engaged when you aren't reaches levels of stupidity that my mind is too tired to process.

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  • loves2shop4shoesloves2shop4shoes member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_really-grinds-gears?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6caf208c-2ef2-4f99-978a-b2455ac30707Post:018eea42-d7f7-463f-a2f6-c6660fb5e2f6">Re: You know what really grinds my gears...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: You know what really grinds my gears... : I'm thinking I might wear a yellow shirt to work when I get engaged  - you know, to hide the pee stains!
    Posted by catemeg[/QUOTE]

    <div>HA!  Thank God I wasn't drinking anything when I read that.</div>

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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    I hate finding out about people's important news via FB - ie. engagements, pregnancies, etc.

    We spent a good 3 hours making phones calls. You can too.
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_really-grinds-gears?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6caf208c-2ef2-4f99-978a-b2455ac30707Post:2a996c78-948b-4d65-b0cf-0fb18b826c77">Re: You know what really grinds my gears...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I hate finding out about people's important news via FB - ie. engagements, pregnancies, etc. We spent a good 3 hours making phones calls. You can too.
    Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

    THIS! I absolutely hate it when people do that. I've told BF (and he agrees) that when we get engaged we will make phone calls...i don't care how long it takes. we r not touching our facebook status until all friends and family know.


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  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_really-grinds-gears?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6caf208c-2ef2-4f99-978a-b2455ac30707Post:2a996c78-948b-4d65-b0cf-0fb18b826c77">Re: You know what really grinds my gears...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I hate finding out about people's important news via FB - ie. engagements, pregnancies, etc. We spent a good 3 hours making phones calls. You can too.
    Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

    Amen to this Kat! And if someone doesn't have time to make a phone call, I'm okay with a mass email (I know some people aren't, but I still think that's more personal than an FB status update!).

    I found out about one friend's engagement via MySpace (this was a few years ago). Another I found out about through a friend. I ended up being a bridesmaid, but I didn't hear about her engagement from her.

    Whenever I happen to get engaged, I plan to call close friends and family and email any I can't easily reach. After they're notified, then maybe I'll do the FB status.

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  • catemegcatemeg
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    edited December 2011
    I totally appreciate hearing things by phone rather than Facebook... but I would limit that at extended family and dear friends.  If this person's phone number isn't already in your phone, you shouldn't have to go hunt it down.  Any friend that I would normally talk to on the phone deserves a phone call.

    I think a mass email is definitely more personal than just changing a Facebook status - at least then you're taking the time to let them know directly rather than just assume their News Feed will tell them.
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  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_really-grinds-gears?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6caf208c-2ef2-4f99-978a-b2455ac30707Post:4eb7813a-8039-471e-9e81-e1413b3b6046">Re: You know what really grinds my gears...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I totally appreciate hearing things by phone rather than Facebook... but I would limit that at extended family and dear friends.  If this person's phone number isn't already in your phone, you shouldn't have to go hunt it down.  Any friend that I would normally talk to on the phone deserves a phone call. I think a mass email is definitely more personal than just changing a Facebook status - at least then you're taking the time to let them know directly rather than just assume their News Feed will tell them.
    Posted by catemeg[/QUOTE]

    Totally agree, Cate. You know what's the worst? BF's great-uncle passed away a couple weeks ago. His mom had emailed to say the uncle had a heart attack, then days later, BF got some FB-generated email about a "celebration of life." He called his mom to clarify, and her response was, "It was on Facebook, didn't you see it?"

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  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    edited December 2011
    i hate when people take self portraits through the mirror and use that as their FB pic...or even post them in general.  if the only profile worthiy picture of you is by you, in a mirror...maybe you should get the hell off of FB and get a life!

    i HATE when people drive slower than the speed limit!!!  that has to be my biggest pet peeve ever!  i'm not necessarily a speeder, but come on...there is no reason to go 35 MPH in a 45 MPH zone.

    on another note, i also had a friend who was dating this girl for a few weeks and when i asked if she was his girlfriend, he responded by saying "well, she hasn't changed her fb status to say 'in a relationship' yet, so i don't think so"  like wtf really?  YOU don't even know if you are in a relationship because it's not on FB??  wow...lol
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  • joiner521joiner521
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    edited December 2011
    That is sooo true and RETARDED. Pretending is not cute.
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