Titles for Attendants

Re: Titles for Attendants

• em01092 member

  

  December 2011

  She should make her a BM, MOH, or perhaps a reader or candle lighter, but nothing else is really necessary. The God daughter does not need a special title in order to be special to the bride or important in the wedding. A lot of brides try to include everyone they possibly can or find ways for everyone to have a title, but this is just a set up for disappointment. 

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• jerzmom114 member

  

  December 2011

  I agree with Em...I also do not understand what the big deal would be if both her and her mom were both BM's...it is an honor and she doesn't need a "special" title...being asked to stand up with her at her wedding proves that she is thought of as more than a guest.

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  December 2011

  Just give her a tite of BM.  It is an honor to be a BM and thus she will feel special.  She is also 18 not 8 so please stop talking and treating her like she is a little girl who will squeee when asked to be a part of the wedding.  She is an adult and should be treated as such.

  
  

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• mbcdefg member

  

  December 2011

  The bride is making a gigantic problem out of nothing here. Just call her a bridesmaid.
  
  if she wants her to feel special, then suggest that she take the girl out for lunch or mani-pedis or something, just the two of them.

  

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• zitiqueen member

  

  December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_titles-attendants?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:9476ae2a-e023-4f76-9eae-bc6011e498f4Post:04c2354b-1ba4-4516-a267-1269dfc0878a">Titles for Attendants</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'm working with a bride who who is in her late thirties. She has a very special God-Daughter and she wants to include her in the ceremony and have her standing with her on her big day. The God-Daughter is 18, therefore she is too old to be a junior bridesmaid and definitely a flower girl! She does not want to give her the title of Bridesmaid for two reasons: 1) she wants her to feel very special and have her own title and 2) the God-Daughter's mom is a bridesmaid and she does not want to list them both as bridesmaids. With all of that being said, she wants a unique title to give her God-Daughter. And we do realize that there is not an official title for this situation and maybe the bride is making a big deal out of this sitution but its her day and she is entitled to make a big deal out of it. Any help that anyone can provide will greatly be appreciated. Thanks in advance
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  "Junior bridesmaid" is an inappropriate title for anybody of any age. The <em>junior</em> is completely unnecessary.

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• amymaysa

  

  December 2011

  Another vote for the title of bridesmaid. I get she is very special to the bride, that's why she asked her to stand up with her at her wedding. No special title is needed

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• RaptorSLH member

  

  December 2011

  So many of the "special" jobs and "special" titles are so obviously make-work or meaningless that I'd honestly be a bit insulted if I was offered one.

  
  

  It's fine to have a mother-daughter pair both be bridesmaids.  It's also fine to have co-MOH, or both a maid- and matron- of-honor.  If the bride insists she doesn't want both in the wedding party, giving a reading is one of the few genuine honor jobs out there.  Otherwise, she can be listed in the program as goddaughter, just as the grandparents are listed.

  

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