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tamrahelmertamrahelmer
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So FI was supposed to ask his other friends if they would be ushers and we only have one so far. I will be having around 200 guests and have read you usually have one usher to sit at least 50 guests. So I should really have at least 2 more. Do you guys agree with this?

We are thinking of asking his half brother if he would want to who is about 14. The only problem is he has two half-sisters who might feel left out who are 12 & 13. Should we go ahead and ask him? And should I find something for the girls to feel like they are involved as well?

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  • KittennDaveKittennDave
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    We're inviting 170 people and not having ushers because it's a small chapel and there should be a coordinator and staff on the day of to help direct guests to the chapel, it was just another formality we really didn't want. So I'm no help on this one!
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  • ericaandtom2012ericaandtom2012 member
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    We're not having ushers.  As long as the first couple of rows are reserved for family, I figure people are adults and can figure out where to sit.  We're not doing 'sides' because they would be grossly uneven. 
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  • aimee58aimee58 member
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    We're having about the same amount of guests as you and we only have 2 ushers. Typically (or at least in my experience) a lot of the younger people want to seat themselves. So they'll probably only escort older folks anyway. I'm not really concerned about it.
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  • ivedonethisb4ivedonethisb4 member
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    We're having 2 and have invited about 250 people. Remember they don't all come. We asked my cousins who are 17 and 18. Well they're really my 2nd cousins but I felt they were the most appropriate for the job.
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  • LDubHawksFanLDubHawksFan member
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    We are having 2, even though we don't care which side ppl sit on.  It was a way for my brothers to be a part of my day. 
    Did he ask his friends and they said no?  I think it would be nice to ask his half brother, and I personally don't think you need to find a role for his half sisters.....

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  • SyAmayaSyAmaya
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    We're having 2 ushers for 100 people. Realistically everyone can't have a wedding party role...I would ask the half brother as that is all the extra help you need right? No sense making up 2 more jobs for the younger sisters. That's more work for you in the end. Keep things simple!
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  • tamrahelmertamrahelmer
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    Thanks girls! I have kind of had the same thought about only getting one more usher and not finding a role for the half sisters. They can pout if they want to! lol

    He asked a few other friends, and one lives in Oklahoma and said he probably wouldn't be able to attend the wedding. The other he's not really close to so I *think* he may have failed to ask and then said he said no. 

    I think we will go with asking his half brother and leaving it at that. I'm not really worried about having enough ushers because I agree that some people sit themselves. 

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  • futuremrsjdmartinfuturemrsjdmartin
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    We only have about 75 invited guests but are only expecting 50 at most. We're having 2 ushers because I want to involve them. Why not allowing the sisters to be ushers as well or if it will really hurt their feelings maybe allowing them to just stand somewhere near the entrance and greet them as they come in? Even if its a made up job it may make them feel special.
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  • CFM102012CFM102012 member
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    We're just having the groomsmen pull double duty as ushers and that's mostly just to keep the sides even. 
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  • mrshall1027mrshall1027
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    We have 3 ushers for about 150 guests, but I'm thinking we won't have more than 125 people.  I originally only wanted 2, but FI thought the last one we asked would have felt left out if we didn't ask him.
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  • LDubHawksFanLDubHawksFan member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_ushers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:d90f1a0a-6537-4b68-a0f4-7c7fee7d82a0Post:4f7f7802-9232-4824-bdc6-ed017653a6be">Re: Ushers</a>:
    [QUOTE]We only have about 75 invited guests but are only expecting 50 at most. We're having 2 ushers because I want to involve them. Why not allowing the sisters to be ushers as well or if it will really hurt their feelings maybe allowing them to just stand somewhere near the entrance and greet them as they come in? Even if its a made up job it may make them feel special.
    Posted by futuremrsjdmartin[/QUOTE]

    While I kind of agree that younger girls might be jealous, and I'm sure they would love to be a part of the day, I don't particularily like made up jobs.  I have been the guest book attendant and hated it....although I was 22, so maybe a 12 and 14 yo wouldn't know better and like being the little greaters!  haha  Maybe they could be the ones that actually hand out the programs while the ushers escort the ppl down the aisle.

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