Mother in Law walking down the aisle with her son/ my future husband??

eodShann · August 2010

Thanks everyone for the feedback!

bbyckes · August 2010

I think you're overreacting. How could this be "bad luck"? If she wants him to escort her down, I say no harm, no foul.

trix1223 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]Recently my fiance and I were talking with my future in-laws. My future mother in law kept reiterating that she knew all she was supposed to do was "shut up and wear beige" or something to that effect. Then she said she had one demand. She insisted the only thing she wants is for my fiance (her son) to walk her down the aisle at the ceremony. Is this normal? It seems like it would be one of those "bad luck" superstitions. Maybe I'm being a bit possessive, but shouldn't the groom be walking no one down the aisle unless it is his wife?
Posted by eodShann[/QUOTE]

Frankly, you're being silly. How in the world could your FI walking his mom down the aisle be 'bad luck". You're making that up, and risk offending your FI's mom in the process.

She has made one request. One. And it involves a 20 second walk down the aisle at her son's wedding. This is the woman who will be your MIL for a long, long, time. She will, if you have children, be your childrens' grandmother.

Are you really willing to p!ss her off over a 20 second walk down the aisle.

And no, you're not being a "bit" possessive. You're being ridiculously possessive. You need to realize NOW, and for the rest of your marriage, that you FI is fully capable about caring for two women who have completely different roles in his life.

The only answer you should be giving is "What a sweet idea, Mother Shann! I only wish I'd thought of it for you. Thank you for your suggestion."

FWIW: At my nephew's wedding, he first escorted his step mother down the aisle. Then he went back and escorted his mom down the aisle. THEN he went back and escorted the MOB down the aisle.

Everyone, everyone, everyone thought it added a sweetness and personal moment to their wedding. And thankfully, his bride had enough self-confidence to realize that escorting his moms down the aisle didn't at all denigrate their relationship.

If he and his mom want this moment in what is also his wedding, geez. Let them have their 20 seocnds.

LAK011 · August 2010

I would agree. I actually told my FI that I thought it was a good idea for both his parents to walk him down the aisle, since I was having both mine walk me down. It's not just the bride's parents giving their daughter away... it's also about the the grooms parents giving their son. (Even though I know waaaaay back in the day it was tradition for the bride to be given to the grooms family... Now, it's about both families giving their children to other people.) It would be a nice gesture to your future MIL, especially if she's being so laid back with everything else!

skippylouwho · August 2010

Wow - am I your FMIL? I want my son to walk me down the aisle and I have made jokes about wearing beige and shutting up...

mysticl · August 2010

It's actually quite common for the MOG to be escorted by the Groom. The superstions are that the Groom should not see the Bride before she appears at the top of the aisle and that he should not see the dress before that time.

jagore08 · August 2010

DH escorted his mother down the aisle and it made for some great pictures of the two of them. If you're worried about it being "bad luck" then shouldn't you be worried about having your father walk you down the aisle?

eodShann · August 2010

Haha wow! strong reactions! Thanks guys I appreciate it, I guess I am just being dramatic!

trix1223 · August 2010

eod shann: since you're new, I want to fill you in on a couple of things: #1: once you're quoted, your post doesn't go away, even if you delete the OP.

Second, deleting (known as DD) is frowned upon. Why? Because your question might just help someone else who has the same question. Believe it or not, that isn't even close to the first time your question has been asked.

Perhaps, had you seen a post with the same question you wouldn't have asked it. Whether right or wrong, people percieve a DD as "I didn't get the answer I wanted, so I'm taking my ball and going home."

hildeedee · August 2010

I actually thought this was pretty common, and very sweet. My future BIL walked my future MIL down the aisle at his wedding and my fiance will be doing the same at ours!

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