I know TK is going to eat this, so I don't even know why I'm bothering, but are you guys finding yourselves fighting with your fiance a lot as the wedding gets closer?
I swear, we're going to rip each others' heads off lately. We got in a huge screaming fight this morning and I'm still upset about it. We usually talk via gchat all day but neither of us has contacted the other at all and we didn't even say goodbye before leaving for work.
Re: Fighting with fiance?
I would say be the bigger person and send your FI a sweet message like, "I love you!" it will catch him off guard. I bet by the time you both get home tonight, all of your upset feelings would have subsided and you'll be back to normal.
See, the thing is, it's not one particular thing. We are both really stressed out so sometimes we aren't as lovey-dovey in convos as we used to be. This morning he tells me he's going to yet another client event for work tonight (which he told me about last night) and I snipped back "Yes, I know you are making time for that, obviously." It's annoying to me because I asked him to do something WR for me which he said he would handle LAST WEEK and he still hasn't done it. He makes time to do these client events, but not one favor I ask him to do for the wedding? So I admit I was kind of rude in my response to him. Well, he's like, Why are you always SO NASTY TO ME, you're SO MISERABLE lately, it's SO HARD to be around you, etc.etc.. So I called him an a-hole and grabbed my stuff and left.
You should initiate conversation, dont sweat the small stuff and let it go.
Hope things work out for you and FI.
[QUOTE]See, the thing is, it's not one particular thing. We are both really stressed out so sometimes we aren't as lovey-dovey in convos as we used to be. This morning he tells me he's going to yet another client event for work tonight (which he told me about last night) and I snipped back "Yes, I know you are making time for that, obviously." It's annoying to me because I asked him to do something WR for me which he said he would handle LAST WEEK and he still hasn't done it. He makes time to do these client events, but not one favor I ask him to do for the wedding? So I admit I was kind of rude in my response to him. Well, he's like, Why are you always SO NASTY TO ME, you're SO MISERABLE lately, it's SO HARD to be around you, etc.etc.. So I called him an a-hole and grabbed my stuff and left.
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]
It sounds like you guys need a date night away from work and away from anything WR. Go out for a nice dinner get drunk eat and go home and have some make up s*x :)
It sounds like you did throw a dig at him by saying what you did. You make it sound like he chooses work stuff over anything WR which honestly I don't blame him since it is his career. However with that being said are these client dinners mandatory? If so just ask him nicely to get the stuff done on a night that he does not have any client meetings or dinners.
My FI gets mad at me sometimes for the way that I speak to him when I ask him to do things. Like taking out the garbage or recycling or leaving his dirty clothes on the floor. I sometimes get snippy right off the bat instead of asking him in a nice way. So I TRY to be more nice when I ask him to do things.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Fighting with fiance? : It sounds like you guys need a date night away from work and away from anything WR. Go out for a nice dinner get drunk eat and go home and have some make up s*x :) It sounds like you did throw a dig at him by saying what you did. You make it sound like he chooses work stuff over anything WR which honestly I don't blame him since it is his career. However with that being said are these client dinners mandatory? If so just ask him nicely to get the stuff done on a night that he does not have any client meetings or dinners. <strong>My FI gets mad at me sometimes for the way that I speak to him when I ask him to do things. Like taking out the garbage or recycling or leaving his dirty clothes on the floor. I sometimes get snippy right off the bat instead of asking him in a nice way. So I TRY to be more nice when I ask him to do things.
</strong>Posted by LADY324[/QUOTE]
I do the same exact thing and you're totally right. I know I am snippy right off the bat. It's hard because we don't see each other that often so I know I should be nicer to him when we do see each other, but I really am miserable lately (work and wedding stuff is really terrible lately) and I take it out on him. Thank you for keeping me in check!
And no, the dinners aren't mandatory.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Fighting with fiance? : I do the same exact thing and you're totally right. I know I am snippy right off the bat. It's hard because we don't see each other that often so I know I should be nicer to him when we do see each other, but I really am miserable lately (work and wedding stuff is really terrible lately) and I take it out on him. Thank you for keeping me in check! And no, the dinners aren't mandatory.
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]
No problem that is what we are here for right to talk each other down from our bridezilla moments :) Try to talk it out when you see him tonight. It sucks fighting it's not fun for anyone. Ask him to cut down on the client dinners until after the wedding if possible so he can help make your life a little bit easier with pitching in with wedding stuff.
[QUOTE]I know TK is going to eat this, so I don't even know why I'm bothering, but are you guys finding yourselves fighting with your fiance a lot as the wedding gets closer? I swear, we're going to rip each others' heads off lately. We got in a huge screaming fight this morning and I'm still upset about it. We usually talk via gchat all day but neither of us has contacted the other at all and we didn't even say goodbye before leaving for work. :(
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]
Bah. I hate those "lets not talk to eachother all day" kind of fights - because that's SO not me. I'm a "I know you love me, I love you, why bother with all this negative energy" kind of girl...so those kind of days drive me nuts!
We haven't been fighting more .
I think it's surely a combo of work stress and not-ahem-ing stress, along with me doing literally all of the wedding-related stuff and dealing with ALL of the vendors, and his mother, and my mother, etc. etc. I think (hope?) it'll go back to normal after the wedding is over.
I texted him and said "I'm sorry I called you an a-hole. Have a good time at your event tonight and I will see you later." and he replied "Thank you." and that's it. Maybe we'll talk later tonight, but chances that I'll be at work past midnight are pretty high. . .
People make millions of dollars writing books about this sh*t.
Hope you guys work it out real soon... if you know what I mean....
[QUOTE]Thanks, ladies! I am so happy I was able to read all of the posts finally! (I know you probably won't see this one, but I really do appreciate the advice.) I think it's surely a combo of work stress and not-ahem-ing stress, along with me doing literally all of the wedding-related stuff and dealing with ALL of the vendors, and his mother, and my mother, etc. etc. I think (hope?) it'll go back to normal after the wedding is over. I texted him and said "I'm sorry I called you an a-hole. Have a good time at your event tonight and I will see you later." and he replied "Thank you." and that's it. Maybe we'll talk later tonight, but chances that I'll be at work past midnight are pretty high. . .
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]
Since reading your posts the last few weeks, I have come to the conclusion that you are an Associate attorney? Right? I am a paralegal in NYC for a labor union- - my attorneys do not work half as hard as your everyday law firm attorneys, I know what your job must be like. When I worked in Westchester, my friend Lexi was an associate and she would be there all day everyday, even on weekends. It's a really rough job when you are first starting out. Hang in there...things will get better and try your hardest not to sweat the small stuff. xoxo