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bridal shower invitations---Etiquette

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      Do I send bridal shower invitations to guest that are out of state and invited to wedding??? Or. do i leave outa towners out??? i know they wont be able to fly to shower and then fly again a month later to wedding....
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Re: bridal shower invitations---Etiquette

  • strlzfan11strlzfan11 member
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    Well it's really up to the hostess, but an invitation is not a subpoena.  Some people might look at them as a gift grab, but others expect to receive one even if they are far away.  I think it's a matter of knowing your audience more than anything.
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  • DanniLynn88DanniLynn88 member
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    I would say invite. We did, they will probably say no but you never know. It's best to let them have the choice, besides even if they can't come they might be offended by not being invited. My best friend's sister is hosting her wedding shower in Pennsylvania the day before mine (for my wedding not hers) here in NC. Her sister invited me even though she knew I probably wouldn't make it, it made me feel like I mattered. 
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    It depends on the person you are thinking of inviting.

    If you want to invite every female guest on the wedding list and some of them are OOT, then I would say no.  Don't invite them.

    If you are talking about an OOT mom, grandmom, aunt or someone really close to you then yes. invite them.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • ginadogginadog member
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    I'd probably put it in the gift grabby category if it's likely they won't fly in twice for your wedding stuff.  I personally would not be hurt if I didn't get a shower invitation that was a plane ride away but that is me. 

    As the first poster said, probably depends on the audience.
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  • LoopysevenLoopyseven member
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    You could always include a personal note in the invitation that you totally understand if they can't make the (extra) trip, but would love to see them and wanted them to know they would be welcome if they choose to come.
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  • heylady87heylady87
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-invitations-etiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:08b4b7ff-3715-44d1-9456-5e9df0bd6257Post:6120f178-5382-42d1-a8e5-7c9aaf7b40a4">Re: bridal shower invitations---Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]You could always include a personal note in the invitation that you totally understand if they can't make the (extra) trip, but would love to see them and wanted them to know they would be welcome if they choose to come.
    Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

    This, exactly.
    Also, be sure you aren't the one sending out the invitations for your shower. The hostess should be doing that. :)
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