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Return Address Labels

audrewuhaudrewuh member
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I have an offer for free address labels from Shutterfly that expires tomorrow, so I wanted to order some for our wedding invites. (FREELABELS is the code, if you're interested, btw)

FI and I live together, but we're not supposed to be because of my job at a church (some of my pastors agree, some don't, it's complicated, so we just keep it quiet). Anyways, I'm creating the return address lables and I showed FI the ones I made with my name on it only with my (our) address. He thought that his name should go on them too, as he is also inviting (we're both hosting) and that putting both our names is proper etiguette. I believe that would give the implication that we are living together, which we are not, according to the general public. 

This is a stupid argument, but I'm very, very careful about how I portray my living situation. I just want your thoughts. Should we put just my name or put both of ours?
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Re: Return Address Labels

  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    Instead of doing names, you could do:

    The Smith-Jones Wedding
    123 Main Street
    Anytown, State 12345

    That way it doesn't say that you both live there, but both of your names are on it.  
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  • Sharpschruter22Sharpschruter22 member
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    In Response to Re:Return Address Labels:[QUOTE]Instead of doing names, you could do:The SmithJones Wedding123 Main StreetAnytown, State 12345That way it doesn't say that you both live there, but both of your names are on it. nbsp; Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]

    This is a good idea.

    Another idea. Are you hosting it? If your parents are paying for it, you could have their names and address listed instead. I'm paying for most of our wedding, but my parents are helping and I had the invitations issued in their name.

    Also, I know it is tempting to use address labels, but if you want to follow proper etiquette, they should be hand written.
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  • MayboneMaybone member
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    Ypu could aslo leave the names off and just put an address. I also like the PP suggestion of Smith-Jones Wedding.
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  • LeiselEBLeiselEB member
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    You don't need names, so you could either do just the address, or "Smith Jones Wedding" as others have mentioned.
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  • afeliz79afeliz79 member
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    Yes, return labels should just have an address, not a name.
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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    Are you talking about RSVP addresses?  If so, do Smith-Jones wedding.  If you are talking about return addresses for the large invitations, then those go on the back flap of the invitation with no name at all - just the street address.
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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    Are you talking about RSVP addresses?  If so, do Smith-Jones wedding.  If you are talking about return addresses for the large invitations, then those go on the back flap of the invitation with no name at all - just the street address.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    You really shouldn't use labels on any part of your invitations.  The return address may be handwritten, stamped, or embossed.  For the return address, no name is used.
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  • audrewuhaudrewuh member
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    Duh stamps! And their super cheap through VP. I think we're going to go that route. And I had no clue about the back flap rule. Y'all are awesome, thanks!
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  • arco13arco13 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_return-address-labels?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4fbeb32f-c9ff-4608-a67e-d9789057e4c1Post:d87d31ed-4fae-403f-aae0-1a84e03a0e3e">Re: Return Address Labels</a>:
    [QUOTE]You really shouldn't use labels on any part of your invitations.  The return address may be handwritten, stamped, or embossed.  For the return address, no name is used.
    Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

    <div>Just out of curiosty, what makes using labels an ettiquette breach but not stamps?</div>
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  • SamAndAllenSamAndAllen
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    I was told that everything had to be handwritten because it made it more personal and was proper etiquette.
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  • lifeonthehilllifeonthehill member
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    If I have to hand write it all I think I am going to get lazy and use a stamp as well. Some etiquette was meant to be broken on my end. Haha

    I agree with PP! Smith-Jones would work great.
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    It is proper etiquette to hand write the name and address of the recipient.  But each return address doesn't have to be hand written.  We printed ours on the back flap of the envelope.  We just included the address with no names.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    Printing directly on the envelope is becoming more acceptable.

    The point is that a wedding is a very special event, and the invitations are supposed to demonstrate a personal touch.  You are not supposed to treat the invitations like you treat business correspondence and water and gas bills.
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  • T&B11913T&B11913 member
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    Put Neither - Just an address. Thats how I'm handling mine. Not because we're "livin' in sin" just because we both have super long last names and I don't think they even make envelopes long enough! It was a miracle we even found invitations where we could put both names on it and not need a magnifing glass to read them!! I didn't want to put only our 1st names, our wedding is formal. 

    PS - I've never once received a wedding invite flipped it over and said, Oh how tacky! Address LABELS!!! Slash that gift in half!  
    Seriously - who cares??

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  • random4180random4180 member
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    We used return labels with both our names but the address for our RSVPs was just put as My last name-His last name wedding. 
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