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Husbands and ex-wives

dukeylouisedukeylouise
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Since getting married, we've noticed that H's ex-wife has changed her behavior toward us.  She is much less willing to be cooperative when it comes to dealings with their daughter.  It could be a coincidence, but I sorta feel like our marriage has something to do with it. Has anyone else had any experience with this? 
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  • dukeylouisedukeylouise
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    Dani you are right.  Up until the wedding she was fine.  Now that we are married its different. It isn't enough to cause problems between us.  Right now she is just being a thorn in our side and I'm just wondering if it is going to get worse.
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  • BecW2beBecW2be
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    aMrs, does he have kids? I'm a little worried about my ex-husband as we get closer to my wedding. He's a bigger drama queen than most women I know, and he's already started with the "Your life is perfect now and mine's shiit." IF that's true, then it's because of the difference in life choices we made after our divorce. His problem is that he sees everything in his life (his affair(s), our divorce, his impregnating ejaculation into a skank, etc.) as things that happen "TO" him, and not things that he can control. I'm terrified he'll cause some sort of drama or at the very least have to have a final "woe is me, I'll always love you, you are ruining my life" conversation before my wedding. UGH. I dread it.
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    My ex husband is happily married and I never have to deal with him.  I'm rather thankful we never had children.

    "You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
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  • dukeylouisedukeylouise
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    Moose I envy you. I love my step-daughter but it would be so much easier if H would not have had a child with this psycho.
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  • aMrsin09aMrsin09
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    Bec, yes Fi has 2 kids and they are our wedding party.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I've heard it happening before.  I have a friend who's ex turned crazy when he got re-married.  She went so far as to take him back to court thinking she would now get more support.  Problem was PA laws where different then NC child support laws (original agreement was settled). My friend ended up with having to pay less in child support.  Oops on her part.   My friend is a good  guy and continued to pay the same amount has he did from the beginning (and increased when he could without a court order).  The friend was shipped to CA via the Marines.  She refused for him to fly (supervised by family members).  They had to go to court again, he won.  Overall she was just a PITA.  The kid just turned 18 and guess where he moved? Yep, he is in CA to hang out with his dad, since his mom was such a biitch about keeping him from seeing his dad.






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  • dukeylouisedukeylouise
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    Lynda, that is exactly what I see happening with her. 
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  • aMrsin09aMrsin09
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    Yeah, she was OK when she thought we were going to get married and FI was going to stop "jet setting all over the world".  Uhm, not so much. She's going to be really unhappy when we file to get custody of the kids next year once we do get back to OZ.  The kids will be 14 & 16 at that point and will be able to give the court an opinion.  The ex has 2 kids from a 2nd marriage and is now divorced from him too.  The 2nd ex is currently in jail and not paying child support for his two, so FIs child support is supporting all 4 kids.  Yeah she's going to be in for a reality check (and might have to actually get a job) if we get custody and the checks stop coming in.
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  • jmvehornjmvehorn
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    This is a subj I could go all day on... My FIs ex has been a pain in the butt since day one and since being engaged she has def become worse and whats bad is the things she does to try and inconvenience us hurts the kids as well, which infuriates me to no end. I have to bite my tongue off all the time...It is one of the few things we ever fight about ... good luck it def takes some one and something  special to deal with ex wives and step kids
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    I'll be honest.  If she's just starting to date now, she's probably finding it very...interesting.  I can't imagine what it would be like for a woman with kids, but for me, dating was a nightmare that, on some days, made me wish I was still in the bad marriage.And it is really, really hard to watch the ex find someone and get married and have kids with them when it seems like every frog you kiss really is just a frog.

    "You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
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  • dukeylouisedukeylouise
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    Thanks for the perspective Wading. 
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    PS, it doesn't make what she's doing right, it really doesn't.  I said some things I'm certainly not proud of now, but I can't imagine either side of the parent role is easy when the parents aren't together.

    "You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
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